Sex Talks With Emma-Louise Boynton Emma-Louise Boynton

On this episode of the podcast, Emma sits down with porn performer, director, editor and producer, Vex Ashley, to find out how she went from cam-girl to running her own independent porn platform, and why she considers sex such an interesting and important topic for us to discuss.


After rejecting being demoted to ‘muse’ while at art school and then getting naked online as a cam girl, Vex started up the independent porn platform called Four Chambers back in 2013 in order to expand the idea of what sex on film could do, be and say.


The platform explores the intersection between sex, psychology, technology, art history and well everything in between and Vex is both behind and in front of the camera, something she sees as key to the way she works.


"I'm pretty hardline on this", she told us previously, “if you're making money off of asking people to fuck on film, you should yourself have fucked on film.”


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So we’ve all heard of attachment styles right? 


Attachment theory tells us that the emotional attachments we form with our primary caregivers in infancy can influence our interpersonal relationships later in life.


Whether we’re anxious, secure, avoidant or disorganised, our attachment style can have a pretty big impact on how we show up in our romantic relationships. 


Since attachment styles have of late been getting a lot of airtime on social media and we wanted to understand more about the science behind the theory and delve a little deeper into the research underpinning the internet’s favourite relationship theory.


To help us do just, Emma was joined in the podcast this week by psychotherapist and author of ‘Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love’, Jessica Baum. 


You can take the attachment style quiz here; find out more about Jessica's work here and buy her brilliant book here.


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In this episode, Emma sits down with writer and author, Elise Loehnen, to discuss her best-selling new book, On Our Best Behaviour: The Price Women Pay to be Good.


Together they unpack the web of myths and cultural expectations that prop up patriarchy and keep women chasing an ideal of perfection that is neither achievable nor really desirable.


"Women," Loehnen explains, "'have been trained for goodness. Men, meanwhile, have been trained for power.'


Elise is the former chief content officer of Gwyneth Paltrow’s company Goop, where she oversaw its blog, newsletter, book imprint and podcast as well as its Netflix documentary series, “The Goop Lab.”


In 2020, Loehen decided to step down from her position with the company and On Our Best Behaviour is her firstly solely by-lined book. She has ghostwritten 12 other titles.


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For this live recording of the podcast, which took place at the London Edition hotel, Emma sits down with broadcaster, writer and campaigner, Anna Whitehouse, otherwise known as Mother Pukka.


Anna is the Sunday Times best-selling author of Parenting the Sh*t out of Life, Where’s My Happy Ending? and Underbelly and in 2015 she started the platform Mother Pukka to share the trials and tribulations of parenthood and beyond. She also hosts the podcast Dirty Mother Pukka with her best friend Polly.


In this episode, Anna speaks candidly about finding love again after her recent divorce; the extraordinary and ordinary experience of motherhood ('both things can be true at once'); the success of her campaign to change the law on Flexible working; her greatest lesson in love and, of course, and how to give the 'perfect' handjob....


*Apologies in advance for the sound quality in this episode, there were tech issues on the night that were beyond our control.


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What does the number of hours women spend doing housework have to do with the orgasm gap?!


According to bestselling author and the founder of the Everyday sexism campaign, Laura Bates, a lot.


In this episode, Emma sits down with Laura to discuss the systemic ways in which gender inequality remains entrenched in our society - from the social pressure on women to deprioritise their pleasure, to the routinisation of casual sexism, to the rise of extremist, misogynistic ideologies.


But it is not all doom and gloom, they end the discussion looking at the reasons for staying hopeful and what we can all do to fix the system, not the women.


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In this episode, Emma sits down with award-winning comedian and best-selling author, Sara Pascoe, to discuss the topic of her recent book, 'Sex, Power, Money'.


Together they explore how capitalism shows up in the bedroom, how money shapes modern day relationship dynamics... and why some women still want men to buy them dinner; why there remains so much stigma around those who work in the sex industry and why Sara is still is still afraid of men.


Did writing the book help her overcome her own sexism towards men? Listen to find out.


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