The Dude Therapist Eli Weinstein, LCSW

In this episode, Eli Weinstein interviews Rachel Sievers, a mental health professional, about relationships, boundaries, and authenticity. They discuss codependency and the distinction between codependency and caring for others. Rachel explains that codependency often stems from childhood experiences where showing up as oneself was not accepted or valued. She emphasizes the importance of reparenting oneself and learning to listen to one's own thoughts, emotions, and needs. They also explore the challenges of being authentic in relationships and the fear of disconnection. Rachel encourages listeners to trust that being true to themselves is the right path, even if it means losing relationships that don't accept them. Tune in to learn how self-acceptance can lead to a more fulfilling and courageous life.



Takeaways


Codependency often stems from childhood experiences where showing up as oneself was not accepted or valued.
Reparenting involves talking to oneself in a supportive and validating way and acknowledging one's thoughts, emotions, and needs.
Being authentic in relationships can be challenging, but it is important to trust that the right people will accept and appreciate one's true self.
Being true to oneself may lead to the loss of relationships that don't accept or align with one's authentic self, but it also opens the door to new connections with people who do.
Trusting in a higher power or greater energy can provide guidance and support in the journey of self-discovery and authenticity.



Rachel Sievers is a retired psychotherapist and life coach with a master's degree of science in psychology. She's logged over ten thousand hours practicing psychotherapy. In addition to her podcast, The Answer to Everything, she's developed a workbook, Talk To Me, and an online anxiety course, Anxiety-Free in 21 Days, as well as running an expanded private practice in California.

She began her career working with families of foster and adopted children. Since then, she's worked in private practice using Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Affirmative, and Gestalt therapy. She's been trained in the Gottman Method, and in Somatic Experiencing to help her clients effectively heal from trauma symptoms. Now, she works as a counselor and life coach in private practice using her experience as a psychotherapist in combination with action-based methods to fit the needs of her clients best. 



Rachel doesn't have "bad days" at work. She loves her job, and is honored and each time someone allows her to walk alongside them on their journey. 



For access to Rachel's book, podcast, and online course, or to work with Rachel 1-1, go to rachelsievers.com. 




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Discover the secrets to successful relationships on this episode of the Dude Therapist podcast with Eli Weinstein and Elizabeth Earnshaw. They discuss the shifting dynamics in relationships, from traditional issues like infidelity to modern stressors like work pressure and societal influences. Elizabeth emphasizes the impact of external stressors on relationships and advocates for boundaries and effective communication. Gain practical solutions like joint accounts for financial harmony and learn the importance of empathy and understanding in resolving conflicts. Explore the complexities of ending relationships with honest communication and self-reflection. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering harmonious and fulfilling relationships.



Elizabeth Earnshaw is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Gottman Therapist, Clinical Fellow of the AAMFT, and the author of I Want This To Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in The Modern Age". She sees couples and trains therapists at A Better Life Therapy in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and is a co-founder at Ours, a company focused on helping premarital couples have important conversations. She has also hosted  a relationship advice segment on the iHeartRadio podcast, Good Risings, and creates relationship wellness content on Instagram @lizlistens.


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On this episode of The Dude Therapist join host Eli Weinstein as he delves into the world of inner healing and personal growth with clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie Carinia. Discover the power of inner child work and shadow work in overcoming past traumas and building stronger relationships. Learn how to transition from codependency to interdependency and the importance of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and setting boundaries. Gain insights on recognizing unhealthy relationship patterns, fostering emotional well-being, and attracting emotionally available partners. Tune in for guidance on self-reflection, communication, and navigating personal growth to achieve lasting emotional well-being.


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On this episode of The Dude Therapist podcast, Eli Weinstein and guest Emily Sanders explore the intricate dynamics of building and maintaining relationships. They delve into the impact of early family experiences on our ability to be open in relationships and stress the importance of pacing and avoiding rushing intimacy. The conversation highlights the significance of in-person interactions, clear communication, and expressing needs explicitly to prevent resentment. Sanders also addresses healthy conflict resolution and views disagreements as opportunities for growth, advocating for a nuanced approach to maintaining connections.

Emily has been practicing for over 13 years, and knows from personal experience the courage it takes to walk on the road to healing and self-discovery; she works with compassion to support others on their path to restoration, empowerment, and fulfillment.

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Emily has enjoyed working with individuals and families from all walks of life, both in the therapy room, classroom, and various speaking venues. She also has a desire to support the family unit, whether through caring for the youngest members of the home or guiding couples to a closer, more satisfying relationship. Of all the roles Emily plays, she most enjoys being wife to her husband of 16 years, Michael, and mother to their daughters and son.

In her free time Emily can usually be found outside running, hiking, or riding her bicycle along Pacific Coast Highway. She also enjoys browsing Pinterest for new dinner recipes, chatting with her girlfriends, and spending quality time with her family.


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In this podcast episode, Eli Weinstein and Dr. Jennifer Guttman discuss the importance of prioritizing sustainable life satisfaction over fleeting happiness. Dr. Guttman, a clinical psychologist, shares insights on embracing a broader emotional spectrum and setting achievable goals for personal fulfillment. They also explore the impact of social media on perceptions of happiness and the need to find contentment in everyday moments. The conversation concludes with a focus on self-acceptance and celebrating progress toward goals for a truly fulfilling life.
[00:00:00] Therapist promotes sustainable life satisfaction revolution.
[00:03:29] Search for happiness within, not externally.
[00:07:56] Chasing happiness on social media is harmful.
[00:12:04] Happiness is externally driven; other emotions are not.
[00:16:23] Pursuit of happiness through satisfaction revolution.
[00:20:49] Achieve satisfaction by avoiding assumptions and comparisons.
[00:24:09] Seeking fulfillment through presence and mindfulness.
[00:27:40] Social media oversharing contributes to despair.
[00:31:48] Good days are simple and satisfying.
[00:35:22] Embrace authenticity, feel your feelings.
Dr. Jennifer Guttman has a doctorate in clinical psychology. She launched a motivational brand called Sustainable Life Satisfaction® and produced a YouTube series, course, and workbook based on this method. This year Beyond Happiness, The 6 Secrets of Life Satisfaction was
published by Post Hill Press.
Dr. Guttman is a regular contributor to Psychology Today and Thrive Global. She has written for national news outlets such as The Washington Post and Newsweek, has been a guest on several network television programs, including ABC News, and has been featured on dozens of podcasts.
Dr. Guttman has an active and robust Cognitive Behavioral practice.

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On this episode of the podcast, Eli Weinstein and relationship specialist Mark Groves dive into the complexities of modern relationships and personal growth. They discuss the importance of accepting individuals as they are and avoiding the urge to change partners. They also emphasize the significance of open communication, self-care, and setting boundaries for true transformation. Tune in to learn how to foster healthy connections and celebrate individuality in relationships for growth and authenticity.



[This week's episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/dudetherapist today to get 10% off your first month.]



[00:00:00] Therapy can help guide and listen.
[00:02:28] Mark Rose explores human connection authentically.
[00:06:53] Identifying through wounds, growth comparison, relationships.
[00:12:42] Resolve disconnection, prioritize self, communicate needs.
[00:18:41] Fear of loss keeps people stuck.
[00:23:56] Liberated love celebrates individuality in relationships.
[00:29:59] Nurturing sacred space in relationships.
[00:35:52] Relationships require courage and liberation.
[00:40:11] Blind spots: guilt and blame.
[00:45:58] Relationships require skill and self-awareness.

Mark Groves is a Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love, and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. Mark's work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection.

Links:


Preorder Liberated Love here!
Website: createthelove.com + markgroves.com
Podcast: markgrovespodcast.com
Instagram: @createthelove






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