The Ready For Polyamory Podcast Laura Boyle

"In Parable of the Sower, Octavia Butler has that affirmation, change is the only constant - and I think that's an important way to look at these life transitions. We can't be trying to stop change from happening, for us or for our kids."


Libby Sinback of Making Polyamory Work sits down with Laura in this episode to discuss big life changes this week, and how they affect us, as polyamorous folks - especially through the lens of the two of us as polyamorous parents. Much is made, often, of trying to minimize changes in our lives - at least as they'll impact our families - but the reality is that our lives can be seen as a series of choices and changes, so today we talk about lenses, questions and strategies for listeners to consider and take away as they move through big changes, expected and not, and "positive" or "negative."


(Remember - a "negative" change like a divorce, deescalation or move out might still be a net positive in the lives of those involved, but have a bunch of bumpiness or messiness on the way - so let's think of ways to navigate them while remaining in our values to the best of our ability.)


Libby Sinback is a relationship coach, educator, and host of the podcast, Making Polyamory Work. She helps people who want to live and love outside the status quo break out of the harmful relationship patterns that are holding them back from nourishing, authentic, boundless love in their life. Libby believes love is why we are here and how we heal. You can find Libby at her website http://libbysinback.com, her podcast https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/makingpolywork , and her upcoming group the foundations of open relating here:https://www.libbysinback.com/foundations-of-open-relating.


She also wrote the foreword to Laura's upcoming book, Monogamy? In this Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory, which you can find for preorder here: https://bookshop.org/a/101457/9781805011187


Non-men can join Laura for the women&femmes support group every second Sunday, the upcoming one May 19 has all proceeds donated to a GFM for a Palestinian family: https://femmessupport5.eventbrite.com


Laura is moderating (and occasionally giving snarky commentary to) a class by the brilliant Dr. Marie Thouin called Compersion and You based on her new book, the first research-based book on compersion, on 06/06/2024, join us! http://compersion.eventbrite.com


Laura and Sarah Casper will be co-teaching a class on 06/09/2024, Building and Breaking Boundaries, come check it out and bring your questions about boundary setting in interpersonal relationships: http://buildingboundaries1.eventbrite.com
Special Guest: Libby Sinback.

Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community.


Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a little about the contrast between the polyamorous "public face" of "it's about the LOVE not the SEX" versus her actual lived experience.


The episode actually opens with a detailed discussion of the many platforms that have come and gone for sharing information on sexuality, nonmonogamy, and kink, and the ways it's informed and changed the actual experience of end users and of educators and creators, as well.


Evie Lupine is a YouTuber, asexual sex educator, and loud advocate for understanding in the BDSM community online. You can find twice-weekly videos from her on non-monogamy and kink on her YouTube channel, and some additional information and services (she does advice!) on her Patreon; Twitter and Instagram have pages for her but are somewhat disused.


YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine &
https://www.patreon.com/evielupine2 for 1:1 chats, video calls and advice
Twitter: https://twitter.com/EvieLupine
Instagram: @evie.lupine

Laura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more.


Buy Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. Paperback, ebook, and audiobook available.
Direct from Alex | Support them!
Bookshop.org | Support indie bookstores!
Amazon | If you must.


Subscribe to Entwined Mag for stories of polyamory, friendship, and family
[entwinedmag.com](entwinedmag.com) - and watch that space for adding your own stories!


Follow Alex Alberto
[Website](alexalberto.com) | Instagram | TikTok


Check out Laura's upcoming [events](readyforpolyamory.com/events), the women & femmes support group (every second sunday - [first meeting March 24](femmessupport1.eventbrite.com) ) and preorder Monogamy? In This Economy? on Bookshop
Special Guest: Alex Alberto.

Evita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series "Today's Polyamory Reminder." Her book "A Polyamory Devotional," out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy.


On today's episode she discusses with Laura how the same issues of nonmonogamy that drive these reflections can drive self-knowledge that serve all our relationships, as well as discussing her work with Chanée Jackson-Kendall on the Metamour's Bill of Rights, and general ideas of growth via conflict and discomfort.


Find A Polyamory Devotional here: https://www.amazon.com/Polyamory-Devotional-Reflections-Consensually-Nonmonogamous/dp/1990869238


Find Evita on Instagram @lavitaloca34, and her linktree at https://linktr.ee/lavitalocasawyers

So much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe other people get to have. Laura and Gabrielle Noel (@gabalexa on social media) discuss the practical and emotional realities of living in small spaces in today's episode.


Follow Gabrielle everywhere @gabalexa, or leave the whims of platforms out of it and keep in touch via her website, https://gabalexa.com, where you can find a selection of her writing and links to much of her work.


Laura will be teaching a workshop on various forms of polyam cohabitation with Leanne Yau on October 15, you can still get tickets here: https://polyam-nest.eventbrite.com and find her work in general at readyforpolyamory.com.
Special Guest: Gabrielle Aelexa Noel.

Polysaturation is the state of realizing you have enough relationally - that more would be too much. This can be a really beautiful, welcome thing - or a really challenging one. It can make folks feel like they've done something wrong and that's why their internal warning lights about energy or capacity to handle issues with partners are going off. The answer is seldom simple - these are people we care for and are relating to, we aren't going to "get rid of" them - but often, there are times in life when we need to recalibrate in order to care for ourselves. So how do we do that?


This week's podcast episode is all about this.


Love, sex, kink, and non-monogamy make up the bulk of Violet Fawkes’ work as a sex & pleasure educator. She is a long-time relationship anarchist and kinkster, sprinkling sex-positivity wherever she goes. Helping you find self exploration, self-empowerment, and living your best, most authentic intimate life is what Violet’s work is all about.


You can find Violet at violetfawkes.com


@FawkesViolet on X


@Violet_Fawkes on Insta


@violetfawkes@mastodon.social


@violetfawkes.bsky.social


and you can find her newest, a dildo collab with Freely Toys, here: https://freelytoys.com/freely-x/violet-fawkes.


You can find Laura and @readyforpolyamory all over during October and November. On Oct 9, she'll be teaching for Wicked Grounds, a class on Narrative Ageplay. On October 15, Laura and Leanne Yau of polyphiliablog are collaborating on a workshop called The Polyamorous Home, which we hope you'll join us for! In November, back at Wicked Grounds teaching Home for the Polydays, a class about managing expectations for the holiday season with your polycule; and there are 3 spaces left for the November [Growth Cycles Retreat](readyforpolyamory.com/retreats) in CT which Laura is facilitating, if you and your partner(s) would like to attend.
Special Guest: Violet Fawkes.