Soul Whispers Jen Cui

Part 2 of 2 to transform your relationship with yourself covers the next crucial component to having a thriving healthy relationship with yourself- using your language intentionally.

In this episode, I cover:
✅ Why "should" statements are hurting you more than you think
✅ What to say instead of "I should" or "I shouldn't"
✅ How to shift your self-talk and the benefits you'll notice from it
✅ Where the "shoulds" came from and how to let them go



(00:00) intro

(01:55) tarot message: 11. Justice

(03:14) ice cream paradigm shift

(08:43) what aligned celebration looks like

(11:40) 3 ways to reprogram "should" statements

(13:24) "should" audit

(14:51) why "should" is so toxic

(18:37) your feelings tell the truth

(22:47) turning point in business happiness

(27:21) bonus vs. winning results

(28:59) as above, so below

(29:44) it's not your fault



Ways to work with me 🤝

✨ Book a Tarot Session: https://www.jencui.com/card-readings

✨ Learn More About RTT® Hypnotherapy: https://www.jencui.com/rtt

✨ Apply for Soul Whispering: https://www.jencui.com/1on1

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🧿 Healing The Feminine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power

🧿 Healing The Masculine: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-masculine-how-to-step-into-modern-day-masculinity



CONNECT WITH ME 💖

Website: https://www.jencui.com/

Podcast: https://www.jencui.com/podcast

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This is part 1 of 2 to transform your relationship with yourself.

We dive deep into how shame is the biggest killer for self love, and the reason why you feel blocked from experiencing inner peace, true self confidence, and excitement in life.

Some stories I share?


What it was like to have disordered eating habits and body image issues


How un-shamed myself starting with my body


The journey to un-shaming my relationship with love, money, and life itself


Discovering my subconscious belief that, "I am a burden" and how I completely transformed it


What I've learned from my personal journey over the years & working with hundreds of clients 1:1 that has always worked in reducing self-shame, and creating more self-love



(01:33) having a relationship with yourself

(02:44) what creates suffering

(05:16) 2 factors that determine the quality of your relationship with yourself

(06:45) inner peace vs shame

(09:52) what to do with shame

(11:40) how I work with my clients

(14:40) shame and self-esteem

(18:32) breaking down your relationship with yourself

(20:47) using excitement and virtues to create change

(29:36) when healthy change feels cringy

(31:21) the work to release guilt

(37:41) how to stop feeling like a burden

(44:56) replacing shame as a motivator



This episode is designed to help you:


Deepen Your Self-Awareness: Gain a profound understanding of yourself and your inner workings.
Foster Self-Love: Learn practical strategies to move past shame and embrace self-love and acceptance.
Break Free from Internal Suffering: Recognize how shame causes internal turmoil and discover ways to alleviate this suffering.
Achieve Personal Growth: Get inspired by my journey and the actionable steps I took to overcome shame and live a more joyful, authentic life.

I’m your host, Jen Cui, a soul whisperer, certified life coach, hypnotherapist, and spiritual guide. Join me in this powerful conversation as we explore the path to self-love and acceptance. Let's break free from the chains of shame and step into a life filled with joy, purpose, and self-empowerment.



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If you found value in this episode, please leave a review and share it with others who might benefit from this message. Your support helps us grow and reach more people on their journey to self-discovery and empowerment.

Welcome to the 101st episode of the Soul Whispers Podcast! I’m your host, Jen Cui, a soul whisperer, certified life coach, hypnotherapist, and spiritual guide.

We're kicking off season 2 (all about relationships!) on June 20th, the summer solstice, and to open up the season I delve deep into my core life philosophy centered around virtues, values, and vision.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

The Philosophy I Live and Coach By: Discover the foundational principles that guide my life and coaching practice.

Deconditioning from Society's Norms: Learn how to break free from societal expectations and think independently about your life's purpose.

Personal Anecdotes: I'll share my journey to becoming vegan and how it embodies the essence of knowing your virtues, determining your values, and letting go of control to allow your life's vision to unfold naturally.

(00:00) introduction & background info

(06:10) my core life philosophy

(10:01) how we're conditioned to think about life

(19:06) getting to know your virtues

(24:35) how to think about virtues, values, and visions

(33:07) my vegan story: an application of my philosophy

(40:54) attachment to your virtues & detachment to the vision

(44:43) the importance of flexibility in life


This podcast and every episode within it is designed with the intention to guide you to:


Understand yourself better and gain deeper self-awareness.
Open your perspective and gain new insights.Build better relationships with yourself and trust your intuition.
Develop your spirituality and live more authentically.
Feel empowered to create a fulfilled life aligned with your true desires.

Join me in this important conversation as we explore how embracing your virtues, values, and vision can transform your life.



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Connect with me:

Instagram: @jenthesoulwhisperer

Website: www.jencui.com

✨ Book a 1:1 soul whispering session with me: jencui.com/card-readings


If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with those who might benefit from this message. Your support helps us grow and reach more people on their journey to self-discovery and empowerment!

*TRIGGER WARNING* suicide, life ending thoughts, sexual assault, disordered eating habits and explicit mentions of weight and dieting, and abusive relationships



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In the 100th episode of The Soul Whispers podcast, I'm sharing my story in depth from where I am now so you can understand the ground in which my perspectives, beliefs, and ideas have been sowed in, plowed through, replanted, and grown in.

This episode is broken down into different pieces of my life and is laced with many deep insights I have on life, how we can look at mental health and suicidal ideation from a spiritual perspective to heal the root cause, and my truths that are foundational to why I do what I do. As always, I'm looking forward to hear what you resonate with, what takeaways you have, and how these perspectives impact you.


*DISCLAIMER* I am NOT a licensed psychologist, therapist, or doctor and what I share with you is not intended to be prescriptive or medical advice- do NOT go off medication, stop seeing a therapist or doctor, “because of me” with this- like any piece of content- consume responsibly and apply what you see fit from a sovereign and self-empowered place.



(00:00) intro

(04:07) intentions of sharing & disclaimers

(07:08) new life updates & announcements

(15:17) childhood, conditioning, and intuition

(29:45) depression, suicidal ideation, and turning points

(48:43) feeling called to coach

(54:19) hypnotherapy, tarot, and authenticity

(01:07:03) final oracle card messages



LINKS MENTIONED:

✨ Learn more about Soul Whispering (Conscious Life Coaching + RTT Hypnotherapy + Spiritual Guidance) https://www.jencui.com/1on1

✨ Book a Tarot Coaching Session: https://www.jencui.com/card-readings

✨ Learn more about Hypnotherapy: https://www.jencui.com/rtt

✨ 3/16- 3/17 Lucky in Love Soul Whispers Retreat https://www.jencui.com/swretreat



CONNECT:

Website: https://www.jencui.com/

Podcast: https://www.jencui.com/podcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jencuicoaching/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenthesoulwhisperer

I go deep into my relationship with my mom, the challenges we’ve had, breaking out of old patterns of blame, holding past trauma, and being able to ascend past the need for parental validation and acceptance. Hear how I’ve been able to invite in more vulnerability within my relationship with my Chinese immigrant parents, as well as how I’ve been healing insecure attachment styles and distorted feminine energy.

TW: some talk about suicidal ideation



(00:43) intro

(04:40) family holiday reflection

(09:10) mother wounds & ending the cycle of blame

(19:02) the journey into consciousness

(28:26) triggers are your responsibility to handle

(30:42) “my parents don’t understand me”

(39:15) not needing parental praise

(41:46) playing “parents are human” with my family

(46:53) my parents are the OG generational trauma cycle breakers

(49:58) releasing insecure attachment styles

(54:05) letting go of girlhood and inviting in divine feminine energy



Watch the “Healing The Feminine” Masterclass here: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-feminine-stop-doing-it-all-reclaim-your-feminine-power



Watch the “Healing The Masculine” Masterclass here: https://jencui.podia.com/healing-the-masculine-how-to-step-into-modern-day-masculinity



Apply to work with Jen 1:1 here: jencui.com/1on1



Website: https://www.jencui.com/

Podcast: https://www.jencui.com/podcast

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jencuicoaching/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jenthesoulwhisperer



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We've all been there-

Your partner didn't take out the trash and now you feel like they don't care about the cleanliness of the home.

The person you've been dating doesn't respond to a text all day, and now you're bitter and anxious thinking they ghosted you.

Your significant other didn't do the thing you secretly wanted them to do that would have made you feel loved, so now you feel rejected.

It's so human to make assumptions on other people's intentions, and when we default to negativity, it often isn't true and actually shows us where we have insecurities, unspoken desires, and feelings that need to be communicated.

Witness a vulnerable live life coaching session with Chloe who was feeling unloved after her boyfriend didn't greet her the way she expected at the airport and see how leaning INTO the honest feelings you're experiencing is the best (and sometimes the only) way to unblock the flow of love in your life and in your relationship.



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