It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People Dr. Heidi

Hope, Healing, & Freedom for those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships is the mission of my work. Our guest today understands my work, maybe better than most. She has also worked with many who have some out of toxic relationships. She see too that oftentimes they were drawn to the same type of relationship over and over again. Bela helped them change that and find wonderful partners that made them happy.

Bela Gandhi is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. Her business, The Smart Dating Academy offers the best tips to start dating smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Steve Harvey, NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more… She is THE dating expert for Good Morning America and The Today Show and has regular appearances on both shows.

Today she tells us about her work and how she began in the relationship realm. She also expands on how she guides her clients though the dating process, no matter their background so they find what they are truly looking for.

Get to know her more by listening to her podcast.

https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/podcast

How did I end up here?

Good question because when I was where you are, I was asking the exact same thing.

I knew the decision to be in that relationship was not a good one. I knew it from the very beginning. 

How did I know? I could feel it. I knew something felt off but I could not put my finger on it.

Listen to todays episode and follow the pattern described. Does this sound like you and your situation.

If you are looking to take the TPA that was mentioned in the episode you can do that here on my website.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

If you are looking for answers as to why you are finding yourself in something that is not comfortable for you or you are suspecting may even be toxic for you, do not feel ashamed to ask. I didn't ask and it took me a long time to get where I am today. However, I am here today to be the person that I needed when I was trying to understand how I got there; for you.

To see all my offered services to educate, to empower, to support you click here:

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Why are these relationships so confusing?
Why is it so hard to make a decision?
Why do I find myself questioning if I have tried hard enough?
Do you find that you are asking yourself these same questions? 
Well, in truth there are a number of reasons as to why these relationships are so confusing, why we leave and go back, and why we question our decisions. In this episode I cover 10 reason why toxic relationships are so confusing. Take a listen and see if you can relate to the same thing within your relationship.
Dr Heidi is dedicated to helping you understand the situation you are in so that some of the confusion can be cleared. To find out more about the services offered follow this link: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
Or go to https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) and see if your relationship may indeed be unhealthy for you.

Always follow your intuition they say. Ok, what if we don't know how to recognize our intuition amongst the convoluted words of others. Your body has a built in defense system but overtime it seems to stop working for our good.

What are some signs that you could be receiving from you defense system headquarters? Well, you may feel tense, have circular thoughts, a pit in your stomach, or the sense you should avoid something, some place, or some person

All of these signs (different for different people) may indeed be your bodies natural defense system attempting to keep you safe.

It would be easier to see if it came with a flashing light or an electric shock and then an arrow pointing to the right choice, but it doesn't. Your intuition always comes in neutral, and does not tell you what to do.

WELL UNFORTUNATELY NEITHER THE FLASHING LIGHTS NOR THE ELECTRIC SHOCK HAPPENED IN MY SITUATION AND TADA... I MISSED IT.

Trusting your intuition is something that is learned. There may be mistakes, wrong decision, and opposite directions before you learn how to follow the safe route it is showing you.

Looking for guided support in your healing from unhealthy relationship? The services offered by Dr Heidi can be found in the link below. She has walked through the fire and now helps others do the same.

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024. 



By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option)



For more information and registration

https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who?



After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID. 



When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself.  The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)

 3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah! 

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page