Life For Experts Harya Danniswara

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How to avoid loneliness?” Loneliness is a common experience, and I’m sure most of us have been there. Research shows that 80% of those under 18 years of age and 40% of adults over 65 years of age have been reported to feel lonely at a certain point of time, with levels of loneliness gradually diminishing through the middle adult years and increasing again in old age. I can’t even imagine how this number has probably progressed since the pandemic, with many people losing their relatives, friends, or other things that matter to them. Although it’s hard to measure loneliness precisely, according to the CDC there is strong evidence that loneliness can produce health risks, especially in elderly people.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "What are the best practices of consuming coffee daily?” Well hello there, my fellow coffee addicts! Welcome to my favorite episode of Life for Experts ever! I drink coffee everyday, and for all of you who have the same habit, coffee has practically become a part of our lives. For us, everything about coffee is good - its taste, its aroma, its stimulant effect, and more others. But believe it or not, a long time ago coffee was once believed to be an inducer of cancer, which made it seen as a bad substance to drink daily.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "Should we invest in property?” Be honest with me and answer this question: how often do your parents advise you to invest in property as soon as possible? For me, the answer is always. The generation X and baby boomers see property as the best way to invest money in, both for the definite increase in long term value and also a sign of success and wealth. The millennials, not as much. With more and more types of investment instruments emerging in this digital age, the situation has offered much simplicity towards the younger generation that makes them slowly shifting away from property as a main choice of investment. Now both sides present valid points.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How can I stop procrastinating?” Ah, the sweet problem of the modern world. I believe we are all aware of this issue, and how multiple sources and platforms are actually trying to get into the bottom of this. Well, it is true, more and more of us built the tendency to waste our time and procrastinate. According to a study from the University of Calgary, the proportion of us who chronically procrastinate has increased from 5% in 1978 to 26% in 2007. What a huge growth, right? What’s worse is that, the younger we are, the more prone we are to this particular trap.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "When should I apologize?” Mistakes are bound to happen. And in every mistake, there is always at least one person to blame. Sorry, let me rephrase. In every mistake, there is always at least one person that causes it. Ideally, finding the root cause is the way to fix a mistake, but in reality, it is not that simple. Since feelings and ego are usually part of the equation, sometimes it is difficult to do so. Previous researchers had focused almost exclusively on the victim’s perspective, especially how apologies can trigger good impact for ourselves. However, they barely investigated why apologies can be so hard to make.

The question I would like to discuss with you today is "How can I even start forgiving someone?” Despite the fact that forgiveness is an act of giving to another person, the heart of forgiveness is about our own self. Multiple research throughout the course of decades, has also come up with the same conclusion: forgiveness provides vital benefits to our mental and physical wellbeing, such as reduction in stress, depression, and increase in compassion and better yet, increase in immune response. So before we move on to the practical things we can do to start forgiving someone, ensure that you understand how we are not doing it for others, but instead we are doing ourselves a favor. This will echo over and over again over the course of us practicing the act of forgiveness. Hence, knowing that early in the process will shape a strong foundation of willingness, which will help you withstand every step and efforts in habituating forgiveness. And then, after we have had a robust awareness of doing ourselves some good, there are three practical tips that we can do to practice forgiveness, and helping ourselves in getting accustomed to it.