23 min
Stop Being a Man-Child: Deep vs. Shallow Connections QuitByHealing - beat porn addiction & level up your life
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The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections.
The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through the lens of status. But shallow connections always leave you feeling empty and lonely, no matter how many people you're surrounded by.
This applies to both platonic connections as well as romantic ones. In response to widespread dissatisfaction, we see a lot of complaining and entitlement. Everyone's unhappy and in the modern dating discourse, everyone's trying to find someone to blame for this unhappiness. Someone other than themselves, that is.
Instead, let's look at exactly why this is happening and how you are being called to step up and take on the role of a mature man and the role of leadership in your relationships.
00:00 Intro
01:40 Two Modes of Connection
04:18 What Does it Mean to Connect Deeply?
08:27 Depth of Connection in Romance
10.37 Don't Know What You're Missing
13:22 How You're Stuck in Boyhood
14:30 Solution, Part 1
17:17 Solution, Part 2
18:40 Solution, Part 3
20:40 Growth Outside the Comfort Zone
21:57 Conclusion
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Join the QuitByHealing community: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/
The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections.
The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through the lens of status. But shallow connections always leave you feeling empty and lonely, no matter how many people you're surrounded by.
This applies to both platonic connections as well as romantic ones. In response to widespread dissatisfaction, we see a lot of complaining and entitlement. Everyone's unhappy and in the modern dating discourse, everyone's trying to find someone to blame for this unhappiness. Someone other than themselves, that is.
Instead, let's look at exactly why this is happening and how you are being called to step up and take on the role of a mature man and the role of leadership in your relationships.
00:00 Intro
01:40 Two Modes of Connection
04:18 What Does it Mean to Connect Deeply?
08:27 Depth of Connection in Romance
10.37 Don't Know What You're Missing
13:22 How You're Stuck in Boyhood
14:30 Solution, Part 1
17:17 Solution, Part 2
18:40 Solution, Part 3
20:40 Growth Outside the Comfort Zone
21:57 Conclusion
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/qbh/message
23 min