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Eliminate the Fake Desires Caused by P*rnBrain
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When you use p*rn a lot, one of the consequences is that it changes and warps your desires. It's common for addicts to end up watching content that isn't even aligned with their true desires or even true sexual orientation.
In today's episode, we examine the phenomenon and explain how you can "uninstall" those fake desires and return to a healthy, wholesome and authentic sexuality.
Note: this is advanced content. If you are only just starting on your journey of addiction recovery, there is better content for you to start with.
I recommend the first episode of the podcast: https://youtu.be/MIRntVnoX34?si=dPopq2M7SvNuOucE
And this "how to quit" crash course: https://youtu.be/ttNE0Fd9PoI?si=lpu5g8QwD_TMkOdg
Chapters:
00:00 An Important Warning
02:13 Emotional Burden
07:16 How to Heal
09:10 Real vs. Fake Desire
12:44 What Happens When You Quit
14:00 How to Develop Healthy Desire
The most radical way to quit your addictions and reset your life: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=G7v2cPdbzEjdSJdb
What happens if you relapse? https://youtu.be/lNvWG65Ta0Q?si=WHwPbEPpOTf7z4sk
Why non-resistance is (scientifically) the best way to change: https://youtu.be/couAdusdd1w?si=dtuBOYkz4SXvWvhr
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Feeling stuck? You need to hear these 2 stories...
Do you ever feel like you're trying so hard to improve yourself and improve your life... but you're not making any progress? You're watching all this self help content, reading books, learning strategies, trying new things but you're just not sure if any of it is working.
If so, this is the most important message you need to hear. It's what I wish someone had told me 20+ years ago, when my own journey started. Only through years of experience in building several businesses and in developing my own skills (pretty much from total loser to living the dream life) did I finally understand what I'm sharing with you in this video.
Learn my system here: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/
00:00 - Intro
01:27 - Building a Successful Business
04:29 - Turning My Life Around
08:17 - Success Paradox
09:41 - Lesson from 2 Stories
10:55 - Why this is a Hidden Truth
12:41 - How to Actually Win
15:56 - Conclusion
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Does a girlfriend/wife solve your p*rn addiction problem?
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"You're just doing it because you're single! Once you get a girlfriend or wife, you'll be fine!"
This is what many people believe / hope about p*rn use and p*rn addiction. It's just a normal, harmless thing that guys do, right? And once you're partnered, the problems go away...
Unfortunately, the opposite is often true and users find that their habit causes even MORE problems when they're in a relationship than when they were single.
Today, we'll look at why this is and what you can do right now to prevent your addiction from ruining your next (or current) relationship.
00:00 Intro
01:03 My Story
06:17 How the addiction affects a relationship
08:58 When an addict gets into a relationship
11:10 What to Do: Single
15:28 What to Do: Partnered
17:18 Conclusion
How to take leadership in communication & relationship: https://youtu.be/u4kOqFU7oj0
How to establish healthy boundaries: https://youtu.be/ijVGplE45gI
How to completely reset your brain in 30 days: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA
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Watch my interview on the Modern Couples Summit: https://summit.modern-couples.com/#aff=skillmedia
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What you THINK you want is not what you REALLY want
...and realizing this is like a cheat code for life.
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You're making your life unnecessarily difficult by going after the things you want. Wait, what..? Isn't it a good thing to go for what you want?
Well, yes. But there's one problem: the things you THINK you want aren't what you REALLY want. And in many cases, going after what you think you want actually makes it harder for you to get what you really want.
I know this may sound a bit complicated, but that's exactly why I recorded this episode for the QuitByHealing podcast: once you understand this idea, it becomes a real life hack. It's what I used to shortcut my way to living my dream life. Sounds like a big claim, but I have the stories from my personal life to back it up.
So strap in and take notes. If you get it, this might just change your life.
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00:00 Intro
01:06 What You Think You Want vs. What You Really Want
01:25 I want the perfect physique
02:33 The Question
03:40 Lifting to Be Attractive to Women?
06:25 A shorter path to your goal
08:35 Direct or by Proxy?
09:07 I want a better jawline
10:04 I want status & respect
11:36 I want to be rich
14:10 Chasing Rainbows
14:41 Un-Addict Yourself
16:59 How to Do This
18:00 Conclusion
The ultimate way to quit your addictions, reset your dopamine levels & become a radically better version of you: https://youtu.be/sbPSY9ktLIA?si=klTCTyDrI2Qcbr7Y
The 3 stages of overcoming addictive behaviors: https://youtu.be/dXfLDUFt7jg?si=3i8Zs9zJ7Yq_CcwJ
Being bored is good, actually: https://youtu.be/60ak4oTpPG4?si=PgFD5p59RxlC8RM1
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How to Set Healthy Boundaries (like a real man) - and why it matters
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For men, our development is stunted by the modern world and most of us are stuck in "man-child mode" in many areas of our lives. In the last episode, I shared a technique you can use to form deep connections with people (like a mature man) instead of only shallow connections (like a child).
In this episode, we're looking at the flip side of this communication coin: how to establish and defend healthy boundaries.
This might sound simple, but the truth is that A) most likely no one has ever taught you how to do this and B) if you do this correctly, it's absolutely life changing.
If you:
find yourself surrounded by toxic people who don't support you
are a pushover and you're tired of it
want to be taken seriously
want to be able to make a powerful impression on people
want to be able to project authority
want to be a more desirable man
You absolutely NEED the tool of healthy boundaries in your toolkit.
00:00 Intro
01:28 Not Everyone Deserves Your Trust
04:00 What Are Healthy Boundaries?
05:15 An Example
06:13 What Unhealthy Boundaries Look Like
07:36 Mature Communication is Contagious
08:52 Make a Better Impression
09:59 Become a Man of Values
13:46 How to Handle Boundary Violations
15:42 Practice in Small Steps
16:23 How it Changes Your Life
18:12 Surround Yourself With Excellence
19:08 Conclusion
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Stop Being a Man-Child: Deep vs. Shallow Connections
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The world you live in is unfortunately keeping you stuck in man-child mode. This happens in many ways and one of them is the topic of this podcast episode: you never learn to create and cultivate deep social connections or deep romantic connections.
The world (especially the online media world) is obsessed with all the aspects of shallow and fleeting connection. It trains you to chase variety and to see social connection through the lens of status. But shallow connections always leave you feeling empty and lonely, no matter how many people you're surrounded by.
This applies to both platonic connections as well as romantic ones. In response to widespread dissatisfaction, we see a lot of complaining and entitlement. Everyone's unhappy and in the modern dating discourse, everyone's trying to find someone to blame for this unhappiness. Someone other than themselves, that is.
Instead, let's look at exactly why this is happening and how you are being called to step up and take on the role of a mature man and the role of leadership in your relationships.
00:00 Intro
01:40 Two Modes of Connection
04:18 What Does it Mean to Connect Deeply?
08:27 Depth of Connection in Romance
10.37 Don't Know What You're Missing
13:22 How You're Stuck in Boyhood
14:30 Solution, Part 1
17:17 Solution, Part 2
18:40 Solution, Part 3
20:40 Growth Outside the Comfort Zone
21:57 Conclusion
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