211 episodes
How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Dr Maryhan
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- Kids & Family
The How Not To Screw Up Your Kids podcast is for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. With twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now.
Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in.
Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults.
What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way.
I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode.
My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation.
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Helping Girls Navigate Friendships with Amy & Jess
This episode was originally released in 2022, but friendships are still one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did.
They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough. Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys.
Here are the highlights:
(02:41) How the book came to be
(05:59) The difference between boys and girls
(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children
(17:12) Mom has issues too
(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you
(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle
(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned
(42:03) Be humble
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Friendships - the whole nine yards
In this series of three episodes I'll share how to help our children make good friendships, keep them, and how to avoid the dramas and toxicity.
Here are the highlights:
(2:55) Friendships aren’t permanent
(5:27) Different friends for different seasons and reasons
(9:02) One friend or lots?
(11:42) Gender differences
(13:18) Support the way your child likes to socialise
(15:12) Core skills that make a good friend are learnt at home
(18:09) Importance of turn-taking
(20:09) Encourage a curiosity about other people
(23:25) Red and green friends
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Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Reframe Mistakes
Today's bucket emptying episode is for your children and I'm setting you a challenge and mindset shift to help your children take those plunges and not see mistakes or failures as catastrophic.
The challenge is to start reframing mistakes and failure a full stop, and instead to start seeing it as a comma. Let me explain what that I mean.
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Siblings; How To Create Harmony
A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn’t just in how you deal with it in the moment it’s in how your child sees themselves in your family.
Here are the highlights:
(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics
(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?
(5:31) What role does your child have within the family?
(8:59) Birth order matters
(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?
(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see
(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other
(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality
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Sibling Dynamics
Children who grow up in the same family experience the family very differently. Siblings vie over the same family resources. When siblings fail to find their niche - conflict ensues. I'll help you audit your family to unravel the root of the issues.
Here are the highlights:
(1:40) Psychological context of individual
(7:37) Sibling rivalry is normal
(8:21) Focus on needs
(10:44) Comparison
(12:20) You don’t have to like someone to love them
(14:15) Respond to the motive, not behaviour
(15:03) Family roles
(17:50) Daily individual time with each child
(20:20) Don’t judge, referee or take sides
(21:45) Family connection
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Bucket Emptying Episodes; Emotions & The Glitter Jar
In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I want to show you a really great bucket emptying tool and strategy for your children that is the glitter jar.
Now, obviously a glitter jar is rather lovely and beautiful and very aesthetic in your home, but it's also a superb way of explaining emotions to children and teens, whether that's big emotions around anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, or whether it is around overwhelm, stress and anxiety.
I'd love to see your glitter jars, share your photos to contact@drmaryhan.com, and please share this episode with your friends, family and colleagues that need some extra support.
💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend
💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes
💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube
💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.