51 min
#022 - The Gates to Growth are Built with Shame w/ Michael Ostrelenk Wholiness
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- Self-Improvement
Summary
The conversation explores the concept of being a light warrior and bringing light to the darkness in the world. It delves into the importance of embracing the shadow and integrating all aspects of oneself for personal growth. The role of shame in hindering growth and the need for open communication and setting conscious agreements in relationships are also discussed. In this conversation, Andrew and Michael discuss the concept of happiness and its role in life. They explore the idea that happiness is temporary and impermanent, and that striving for it as the ultimate goal can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction. They also touch on the medicalization of emotions and the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, including sadness and grief. The conversation then shifts to the topic of ego and how it can manifest as both positive and negative self-talk. Michael shares his approach to helping clients work through their ego by focusing on physiological, psychological, and somatic aspects.
Takeaways
Being a light warrior means bringing light to the darkness in the world and embracing love, care, and compassion.
Embracing the shadow and integrating all aspects of oneself leads to personal growth and wholeness.
Shame can hinder personal growth and relationships, and it is important to work through and overcome it.
Open communication and setting conscious agreements in relationships are essential for deepening intimacy and authenticity. Happiness is temporary and impermanent, and striving for it as the ultimate goal can lead to disappointment.
It is important to allow oneself to feel a range of emotions, including sadness and grief, without medicalizing them.
Ego can manifest as both positive and negative self-talk, and it is important to become aware of and work through these patterns.
Working on physiological, psychological, and somatic aspects can help in addressing ego and developing a healthier sense of self.
Sound Bites
"We have an obligation, people living in the light, to bring light to the darkness."
"No tree can grow to reach heaven unless its roots reach down to hell."
"Emotions aren't good or bad. They just are."
"If I pretend one thing to keep the peace, it's still in me."
"Happiness is great, but it's temporary. If your main goal is happiness, you'll never most likely reach it because nothing is permanent."
"Our whole culture assumes we organize around happiness as a primary driver."
Chapters
00:00 Bringing Light to the Darkness
02:24 Embracing the Shadow
06:16 The Role of Emotions
09:36 Understanding Shame
13:57 Overcoming Shame
25:24 The Impermanence of Happiness
26:23 The Pursuit of Happiness
29:34 The Cultural Emphasis on Happiness
30:04 The Medicalization of Emotions
35:05 Finding Fulfillment in Smaller Purposes
43:24 Exploring the Ego and Self-Talk
46:20 Working Through Ego: A Holistic Approach
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Summary
The conversation explores the concept of being a light warrior and bringing light to the darkness in the world. It delves into the importance of embracing the shadow and integrating all aspects of oneself for personal growth. The role of shame in hindering growth and the need for open communication and setting conscious agreements in relationships are also discussed. In this conversation, Andrew and Michael discuss the concept of happiness and its role in life. They explore the idea that happiness is temporary and impermanent, and that striving for it as the ultimate goal can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction. They also touch on the medicalization of emotions and the importance of allowing oneself to feel a range of emotions, including sadness and grief. The conversation then shifts to the topic of ego and how it can manifest as both positive and negative self-talk. Michael shares his approach to helping clients work through their ego by focusing on physiological, psychological, and somatic aspects.
Takeaways
Being a light warrior means bringing light to the darkness in the world and embracing love, care, and compassion.
Embracing the shadow and integrating all aspects of oneself leads to personal growth and wholeness.
Shame can hinder personal growth and relationships, and it is important to work through and overcome it.
Open communication and setting conscious agreements in relationships are essential for deepening intimacy and authenticity. Happiness is temporary and impermanent, and striving for it as the ultimate goal can lead to disappointment.
It is important to allow oneself to feel a range of emotions, including sadness and grief, without medicalizing them.
Ego can manifest as both positive and negative self-talk, and it is important to become aware of and work through these patterns.
Working on physiological, psychological, and somatic aspects can help in addressing ego and developing a healthier sense of self.
Sound Bites
"We have an obligation, people living in the light, to bring light to the darkness."
"No tree can grow to reach heaven unless its roots reach down to hell."
"Emotions aren't good or bad. They just are."
"If I pretend one thing to keep the peace, it's still in me."
"Happiness is great, but it's temporary. If your main goal is happiness, you'll never most likely reach it because nothing is permanent."
"Our whole culture assumes we organize around happiness as a primary driver."
Chapters
00:00 Bringing Light to the Darkness
02:24 Embracing the Shadow
06:16 The Role of Emotions
09:36 Understanding Shame
13:57 Overcoming Shame
25:24 The Impermanence of Happiness
26:23 The Pursuit of Happiness
29:34 The Cultural Emphasis on Happiness
30:04 The Medicalization of Emotions
35:05 Finding Fulfillment in Smaller Purposes
43:24 Exploring the Ego and Self-Talk
46:20 Working Through Ego: A Holistic Approach
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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wholiness/message
51 min