Wholiness

Andrew Baker
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I am my own hero, as well as my own monster. These conversations help me on that journey of integration and wholiness.

  1. 06/23/2024

    #031 - Something Bruce Banner Needs to Hear w/ Dr. Mort Orman

    Summary Dr. Mort Orman, a doctor of internal medicine and an anger elimination coach, focuses on understanding anger as a key to understanding other emotions. He believes that the mechanisms of how emotions are created are the same for all emotions. Dr. Orman's personal struggle with anger and his observation of the negative impact of anger on health motivated him to develop a process for analyzing and dealing with anger. He emphasizes the importance of awareness in managing emotions and highlights the role of conditioning and perception in shaping our emotional responses. Dr. Orman provides a framework of three filters that generate anger: perceiving someone doing something bad or wrong, perceiving harm or negative impact, and attributing blame to the person responsible. He suggests that recognizing and questioning these filters can help individuals gain control over their anger. The conversation explores the concept of emotions and how they can often be misleading. Dr. Mort Orman discusses the three filters that influence our emotions and how they can create a distorted view of reality. He emphasizes the importance of questioning our feelings and not blindly accepting them as truth. The conversation also touches on the impact of emotions in relationships and the need to recognize our own responsibility in conflicts. Dr. Orman provides insights into managing anger and suggests that understanding the root causes of anger can help in finding long-term solutions. Takeaways Understanding anger can provide insight into other emotions. Awareness is crucial in managing emotions. Anger serves as a way to establish boundaries and protect oneself. Emotions are influenced by conditioning and perception. Anger is generated through three filters: perceiving bad or wrong behavior, perceiving harm or negative impact, and attributing blame. Emotions can often be misleading and create a distorted view of reality. It is important to question our feelings and not blindly accept them as truth. Recognizing our own responsibility in conflicts can lead to better relationships. Understanding the root causes of anger can help in finding long-term solutions. Keywords anger, emotions, awareness, conditioning, perception, filters, blame, emotions, filters, reality, questioning, feelings, relationships, responsibility, anger management Sound Bites "If you understand anger, you will have tremendous insight into all the other emotions you have." "With anger, awareness is almost everything. With all emotions, awareness seems to be almost everything." "Anger is more about protecting our boundaries, not letting people abuse us, not letting people take advantage of us." "Our emotions are telling us what's... often is false." "We've made it into this religion now that thou must honor thy feelings." "When you're enmeshed in your feelings, you're not mentally processing what's going on accurately." Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Focus on Anger 04:09 Defining Anger and Frustration 07:36 The Evolutionary Role of Emotions 09:38 The Protective Role of Anger 12:32 The Importance of Emotional Regulation 16:45 Understanding the Internal Causes of Emotions 25:08 The Role of Perception and Conditioning 29:24 The Double Whammy of Anger 31:08 The Cult of Emotions 33:14 The Three Filters for Anger and Annoyance 37:13 The Tricks Our Brain Plays 39:28 The Either-Or Frames 41:46 Reducing Anger and Improving Relationships 48:42 Becoming Aware of Triggers 51:26 Reprogramming the Brain 54:03 Managing and Controlling Anger

    56 min

  2. 06/16/2024

    #030 - It Doesn’t Have To Be This Hard w/ Angelo Valenti

    Summary The conversation explores the concept of making life easier by avoiding unnecessary difficulty. Angelo Valenti emphasizes the importance of putting forth effort to achieve desired results, but also highlights the need to find easier ways to overcome struggles. He encourages individuals to focus on what brings them joy and contentment in life, rather than constantly chasing external measures of success. The discussion also touches on the role of sales and the mindset needed for success in the field. The conversation explores themes of identity, ego, mindset, and personal growth. It emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, curiosity, and continuous learning. The speakers discuss the impact of distractions and the need to find joy in effort. They also touch on the role of willpower and desire in achieving goals. The conversation concludes with a reminder to prioritize health and enjoy life. Takeaways Putting forth effort is necessary to achieve desired results, but it's important to find easier ways to overcome struggles. Focusing on what brings joy and contentment in life is more important than constantly chasing external measures of success. Success in sales comes from being passionate about helping others solve their problems. Separating self-worth from net worth is crucial for finding true happiness and contentment in life. Excuses and manipulations often stem from a desire to protect the ego. Approach challenges with a growth mindset and view them as opportunities to learn and grow. Train your mind to think positively and focus on opportunities. Question your beliefs and ask yourself why you feel the need to do certain things. Take time for solitude and reflection to clear out distractions and gain clarity. Increase your desire for hard work by making it enjoyable and framing it as a game. Prioritize health and enjoy life while you have it. Keywords making life easier, avoiding unnecessary difficulty, effort, desired results, joy, contentment, success, sales, identity, ego, mindset, personal growth, self-reflection, curiosity, continuous learning, distractions, joy in effort, willpower, desire, health Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Definition of 'Easy' 02:48 Overcomplicating and Making Things Harder 05:51 Evolutionary Psychology and the Tendency to Overcomplicate 09:13 The Importance of Effort and Finding Easier Ways 12:43 Internal Locus of Control and Achieving Results 14:58 Defining Joy and Contentment 22:55 Separating Self-Worth from Net Worth 24:05 Finding Joy and Contentment in Life 25:13 Chapter 1: Exploring Insecurity and Identity 27:08 Chapter 2: The Power of Mindset and Curiosity 29:42 Chapter 3: The Importance of Solitude and Reflection 33:39 Chapter 4: Finding Joy in Effort 46:48 Chapter 5: Increasing Desire for Challenging Tasks

    52 min

  3. 06/10/2024

    #029 The Practice of Feeling Good w/ Fletcher Ellingson

    Summary The conversation explores the practice of feeling good and the importance of setting standards. It emphasizes the need to be curious about our beliefs and values and how they shape our thoughts and actions. The discussion also touches on the role of therapy in self-inquiry and the power of vulnerability. Overall, the conversation highlights the significance of intentional practices and the potential for personal growth and transformation. The conversation explores the concepts of detachment, identity, and success. It emphasizes the importance of understanding that we are not our thoughts, bodies, or emotions, but rather the observers of them. The idea of detachment from identity is discussed, with the recognition that accomplishments and failures do not define who we are. The key to success is knowing who we are, knowing our desired outcome, and taking consistent action. The conversation concludes with an acknowledgement of the importance of showing up and putting in effort in life. Sound Bites "If I edited and made a hundred videos, who's to say I wouldn't fall in love with it? You know?" "It's a practice to become vulnerable in our daily lives... in a therapy session you can just kind of let it all out because you know that this is a safe place to really look ugly if you want to." "The practice of feeling good is learning how to influence the thinking so that you have say on the thoughts that come into your mind." "What was their life like? What happened to them? What you know, you know, one of the things people frequently say, like, well, they should do this. Oh, boy, that's a that's a trap, right?" "Compassion leads to a different line of thinking and that different line of thinking gives you access to different actions." "Compassion ends in a place of like, you should feel love for yourself. Like it's okay. Just go make some progress." Takeaways Feeling good is a practice that requires skill and intentionality. Therapy provides a safe space to practice authenticity and vulnerability. Standards, not just values, determine the quality of our lives. Curiosity helps us challenge our beliefs and explore new perspectives. Intentional practices can lead to personal growth and transformation. We are not our thoughts, bodies, or emotions; we are the observers of them. Detaching from our identity and recognizing that accomplishments and failures do not define us can lead to a sense of freedom and empowerment. Success is defined by knowing who we are, knowing our desired outcome, and taking consistent action. Acknowledging ourselves for showing up and putting in effort in life is important for personal growth and development. Keywords feeling good, practice, standards, curiosity, beliefs, values, therapy, vulnerability, intentional practices, personal growth, detachment, identity, success, observer, thoughts, emotions, accomplishments, failures, consistent action Chapters 00:00 The Power of Therapy: Vulnerability and Authenticity 01:31 Learning to Enjoy the Ride: Shifting Focus from Outcomes to Process 04:44 The Practice of Feeling Good: Influencing Thinking and Setting Standards 37:52 The Practice of Detachment and Intentional Identity 41:51 Putting Out Value and Consistent Action 01:17:21 Acknowledging Personal Efforts and Showing Up

    1h 18m

  4. 06/02/2024

    #028 - Let Pain Be Your Guide, Not Your Opponent w/ Austin Page

    Summary Austin Page shares his personal story of overcoming addiction and turning his life around. He emphasizes the importance of being open and vulnerable about our struggles, as it can inspire and help others going through tough times. Austin also discusses the mindset shift necessary for lasting change, focusing on building a new identity and making choices that align with the person we want to become. He highlights the significance of leveraging pain and discomfort as motivation for growth and emphasizes the need to listen to our conscience and use regret as a guide. Austin also emphasizes the importance of making consistent deposits into ourselves through intentional actions. The conversation explores the importance of intentionality and self-control in making decisions that align with long-term goals. It emphasizes the idea of being intentional about actions and considering the consequences before making choices. The speakers discuss the significance of taking small steps and building belief through consistent action. They also touch on the importance of mindset and perspective in overcoming challenges and setbacks. The conversation concludes with a discussion on visualization and the power of real, authentic conversations. Takeaways Being open and vulnerable about our struggles can inspire and help others going through tough times. To create lasting change, we need to shift our mindset and focus on building a new identity. Pain and discomfort can be leveraged as motivation for growth and personal development. Listening to our conscience and using regret as a guide can help us make better choices. Making consistent deposits into ourselves through intentional actions is crucial for personal growth and success. Be intentional about your actions and consider the consequences before making choices. Take small steps and build belief through consistent action. Develop a mindset and perspective that empower you to overcome challenges and setbacks. Visualize the actions you need to take and focus on the process rather than the outcomes. Authentic conversations have a unique power and cannot be replicated by AI. Sound Bites "I almost died... woke up in a hospital room." "It is possible to turn things around even when you think it's tapped, you're done." "I'm from a small town... not much to do, so you just find your way into partying and drinking." "I could have half a bowl and feel pretty good about that." "Is that juice worth the squeeze?" "Am I ready to accept the result that this action is going to give me?" Takeaways Being open and vulnerable about our struggles can inspire and help others going through tough times. To create lasting change, we need to shift our mindset and focus on building a new identity. Pain and discomfort can be leveraged as motivation for growth and personal development. Listening to our conscience and using regret as a guide can help us make better choices. Making consistent deposits into ourselves through intentional actions is crucial for personal growth and success. Be intentional about your actions and consider the consequences before making choices. Take small steps and build belief through consistent action. Develop a mindset and perspective that empower you to overcome challenges and setbacks. Visualize the actions you need to take and focus on the process rather than the outcomes. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Austin's Story 04:09 From Rock Bottom to Transformation 07:19 Changing Your Environment and Building a New Identity 09:29 The Power of Pain: Facing Challenges Head-On 23:34 Using Negative Emotions as a Guide for Better Choices 25:31 Making Deposits into Yourself: The Key to Personal Growth 30:37 The Power of Intentionality and Self-Control 33:16 Avoiding Judgment and Embracing Empathy 37:16 Taking Action and Developing Resilience 42:51 The Relationship Between Action and Belief 45:21 The Role of Visualization in Achieving Goals

    59 min

  5. 05/26/2024

    #027 - The Kids Are Not Alright... still w/ Richard Capriola

    Summary Teenage mental health has been a problem for over a decade, and the pandemic has heightened it. Social media has negatively impacted teenage girls' self-image and self-esteem. Substance abuse declined during the pandemic but has rebounded slightly. The primary substances of abuse among teenagers are alcohol, marijuana, and vaping. The increase in THC content in marijuana and the presence of fentanyl in other drugs pose significant dangers. Social media and the fast-paced, stressful world contribute to teenagers' struggles with mental health and substance abuse. Treatment plans should focus on addressing the underlying issues and providing individualized care. In this conversation, Richard Capriola discusses the challenges parents face when trying to get their teenagers into treatment for substance abuse or mental health issues. He emphasizes the importance of parents taking responsibility and making decisions in the best interest of their child, even if the child resists. Capriola also provides advice for parents on how to navigate the process and support their child's mental health. He highlights the need for parents to learn the warning signs of substance abuse and to develop good listening skills to communicate effectively with their child. The conversation also touches on the impact of social media and the importance of focusing on effort rather than outcomes. Takeaways Teenage mental health has been a long-standing issue, and the pandemic has exacerbated it. Social media has a negative impact on teenage girls' self-image and self-esteem. Substance abuse declined during the pandemic but has started to rebound. Treatment plans should focus on addressing the underlying issues and providing individualized care. Parents may face resistance from their teenagers when trying to get them into treatment for substance abuse or mental health issues, but it is important for parents to take responsibility and make decisions in the best interest of their child. Parents should learn the warning signs of substance abuse and be proactive in addressing any changes they see in their child's behavior or well-being. Developing good listening skills and reflecting back the feelings behind their child's words can help parents communicate effectively and build a strong relationship with their child. Focusing on effort rather than outcomes can be beneficial for both parents and children, as it promotes growth mindset and resilience. The dedication and passion of professionals working in the field of mental health give hope for the future of mental health care. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 00:46 The Impact of Social Media on Teenage Girls 01:38 Substance Abuse Trends Among Teenagers 35:39 Recognizing Warning Signs and Taking Action 41:41 The Power of Listening and Reflecting Feelings 48:57 Focusing on Effort: Promoting Growth Mindset 54:29 Hope for the Future: Dedication of Mental Health Professionals Keywords teenage mental health, substance abuse, social media, self-image, self-esteem, alcohol, marijuana, vaping, THC, fentanyl, treatment plans, teenagers, treatment, substance abuse, mental health, parents, responsibility, warning signs, listening skills, effort, outcomes

    58 min

  6. 05/19/2024

    #026 - Your Life Actually Isn't Painful Enough.. w/ Scott Allan

    Summary Procrastination is often seen as a negative behavior, but it can also be a matter of perspective. There are times when waiting or delaying action is necessary. However, procrastination can have negative consequences, as seen in the story of the credit card bill. Fear is a common underlying factor in procrastination, as people tend to put off tasks they are afraid of. Deep focus and mindfulness are key to overcoming procrastination. Deep focus involves working on one task at a time, while mindfulness helps in being aware of the present moment and avoiding mental clutter. Diet and lifestyle choices, such as reducing sugar intake, can also impact focus and productivity. In this conversation, Scott Allan and Andrew discuss the importance of pain as a motivator for change and the power of visualization. They explore how the brain is wired to future cast pain but not pleasurable experiences, and how to use this knowledge to our advantage. They also touch on the concept of mental clutter and its impact on our ability to find purpose and lead a purposeful life. Keywords procrastination, perspective, fear, deep focus, mindfulness, diet, lifestyle, pain, motivation, visualization, brain, mental clutter, purpose Takeaways Procrastination can be a matter of perspective and is not always a negative behavior. Fear is often the underlying factor in procrastination, causing people to put off tasks they are afraid of. Deep focus and mindfulness are essential in overcoming procrastination and improving productivity. Diet and lifestyle choices, such as reducing sugar intake, can impact focus and mental clarity. Pain is often the catalyst for change and the motivation to break free from addictive behaviors. Visualization can be a powerful tool for creating change, but it's important to focus on the process and actions rather than just the desired outcome. Mental clutter, or mental chaos, can hinder our ability to find purpose and lead a purposeful life. Taking time for mindfulness and decluttering our minds can help us gain clarity and focus. Purpose is not a singular thing, but an ongoing journey of personal growth and becoming a better human being. Leading by example and empowering others to find their own greatness is a key aspect of living a purposeful life. The Perspective of Procrastination Overcoming Fear and Procrastination Harnessing the Power of Visualization Leading by Example and Empowering Others "Procrastination for the most part, we see it as a bad thing and don't get me wrong. It can be a negative behavior, but I think it's also a lot of his perspective as well." "Procrastination is when you know that you need to take action towards something and you're not doing it because you're scared to do it." "Procrastination is always about putting off something you fear doing." "I only change behavior when there's pain. Is there really any other way to do it?" "There are aspects of your brain that allow you to future cast pain and feel it in the present. But you do not have the brain structures to really do that for pleasurable experiences." "Visualize yourself 20 years from now, like kind of broke and tired. And now it was 20 years later. I had no more time left and, and my dream is gone." Chapters 00:00 Procrastination and Taking Action 07:08 Deep Focus and Mindfulness 25:03 The Impact of Quitting Sugar 30:35 Finding Motivation and Creating a Vision 48:40 The Power of Purpose and Leadership

    55 min

  7. 05/12/2024

    #025 - The Unseen Work Behind Success w/ Corey Poirier

    Summary The future of the coaching industry is uncertain due to variables like AI and deep fakes. Blockchain may be used to create secure spaces for coaching. Coaching delivery may change, with AI providing quick answers to questions. Coaches will need to bring unique value to stand out. The coaching industry may undergo a major transformation and some forms of coaching may no longer exist. Comfort is being uncomfortable and expanding beyond what is easy. Social norms and external validation can distort our perception of reality. The work behind success is often unseen. Finding joy in the journey is important. The conversation explores the theme of finding fulfillment in the journey rather than waiting for the destination. Corey shares stories of people who achieved success but still felt unfulfilled, emphasizing the importance of enjoying the process of building towards a goal. Andrew mentions Alex Hormozi's concept of playing infinite games and the danger of constantly seeking more happiness. They discuss the role of shame and guilt in hindering enthusiasm and the need to dissolve these negative emotions. Corey and Andrew also touch on the challenges of balancing work and family life, highlighting the importance of prioritizing and setting boundaries. Takeaways The coaching industry may look very different in the next 10 years due to variables like AI and deep fakes. Blockchain technology may be used to create secure spaces for coaching and verify authenticity. Coaches will need to bring unique value and expertise to stand out in a world where AI can provide quick answers. Comfort is being uncomfortable and expanding beyond what is easy. Social norms and external validation can distort our perception of reality. The work behind success is often unseen and requires perseverance. Finding joy in the journey and living in the present moment is important for fulfillment. Finding fulfillment in the journey is more important than waiting for the destination. Constantly seeking more happiness can lead to a never-ending cycle of dissatisfaction. Shame and guilt can hinder enthusiasm and need to be dissolved. Balancing work and family life requires prioritization and setting boundaries. Sound Bites "Coaching what it looks like today. We won't even recognize coaching in 10 years when we look back at today." "Coaching could take place in a private space protected by blockchain, ensuring authenticity and privacy." "Coaches will need to bring something unique that only they can offer in a world where AI can provide quick answers." "Fulfillment is in finding a way to enjoy the journey in building to the destination." "People will do that with happiness, where when people say they want to be happy, they really just mean they want to be happier." "The thing that kept me from treating the game like a game was the shame that I felt that I had already lost the game." Keywords coaching industry, future, AI, deep fakes, blockchain, coaching delivery, unique value, transformation, comfort, social norms, external validation, joy in the journey, fulfillment, journey, destination, happiness, infinite games, shame, guilt, work-life balance

    59 min

  8. 05/05/2024

    #024 - Your Counterfeit Life Is Killing You w/ Jon Alwinson

    Summary The conversation explores the themes of going all in, facing fear, navigating acquisitions, making strategic decisions, the role of faith in sales, building character and confidence, and the importance of identity. The guest, John Owens, shares his experiences and insights on these topics. In this conversation, Andrew Baker and John Owens discuss the importance of faith, mentality, and toughness in sales. They emphasize the value of going through tough experiences and how it builds confidence and skills. They also discuss the significance of mindset and being the right person in sales, rather than just focusing on what to say. They highlight the importance of putting the customer first and truly listening to their needs. They also touch on the traits of successful salespeople, such as competitiveness and responsibility. The conversation concludes with insights on hiring the right people and the importance of being authentic and confident in asking for next steps. Takeaways Going all in is essential for success, even though it can be scary. Acquisitions can be terrifying, but with the right company and culture, they can be successful. Faith can play a role in sales by providing a sense of purpose, ethics, and trustworthiness. Building character and confidence are crucial for salespeople, but often overlooked. Identity is important in sales, and it should be detached from outcomes and comparisons. Going through tough experiences builds confidence and skills in sales. Being the right person in sales is more important than just knowing what to say. Putting the customer first and truly listening to their needs leads to success in sales. Successful salespeople possess traits such as competitiveness and responsibility. Being authentic and confident in asking for next steps is crucial in interviews and sales. Sound Bites "If you only give 25% and you still fail, it's just cause you didn't put enough effort, not because you suck." "Unless you go all out, you're not gonna be successful and that's in anything in life." "Tuck-in acquisitions in general are scary. They're terrifying." "I start with faith, but that's the foundation for me" "I try not to hire people who haven't gone through adversity" "It's not as much about what we say. It is more how we say it" Keywords going all in, fear, acquisitions, strategic decisions, faith in sales, building character, confidence, identity, faith, mentality, toughness, skills, mindset, customer-centric, authenticity, competitiveness, responsibility, hiring Chapters 00:00 Going All In 01:21 Navigating Acquisitions 21:23 The Importance of Identity 27:52 Faith, Mentality, and Toughness 31:59 Being the Right Person in Sales 35:09 Putting the Customer First 39:04 Traits of Successful Salespeople 45:17 Authenticity and Confidence

    56 min
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I am my own hero, as well as my own monster. These conversations help me on that journey of integration and wholiness.

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  • Creator
    Andrew Baker
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2024
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Andrew Baker
  • Show Website
    Wholiness