59 min
2 - Be Connected: Coping with Loneliness Plan Be
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- Self-Improvement
Full transcript available at: https://www.stephanieolegario.com/podcasts/plan-be/episodes/2148090703
Join the free Meetup - Harmony Collective: https://www.meetup.com/the-harmony-collective/
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Summary:
Why are people feeling lonely How can we be more connected How to cope with feeling lonely Join our community – Harmony Collective
Highlights:
00:01:07
Loneliness is an epidemic.
00:01:49We are connected digitally more than ever, in a way that we could be more responsive by the second. And yet we're so separate. We're so separate…
00:02:17We're talking about really serious disconnection. But we're craving connection. So that's why today's episode's really important. We're going to go over. This whole idea about loneliness is an epidemic right now. A lot of people are experiencing it silently suffering.
00:05:40But it's that longing for that human connection. We love that feeling and anyone can say that they're like, I don't need this…we still do. Why else are we still looking around for something that feels that way?
00:15:09Nothing is ever static. The only thing that's consistent in life is change.
00:18:35But people start to feel lonely when they feel like they don't belong, and they can't have people who vibe with them.
00:19:08Sometimes relationships have a time and place. And there's lessons to be learned during that time and place, but it also has a time to end or it could be outgrown.
00:20:33If change and transitions are part of life, so is loneliness. We're always going to be in pursuit of that sense of belonging: that sense of feeling seen and heard and understood by others. And once you acknowledge that we're always gonna have this in her life. There's going to be times in transition periods where we're going to have to find it new people.
00:22:40Sometimes we expect people to fill that void of loneliness in ourselves.
00:24:51It starts with us to fill that void of loneliness.
00:25:54if I have that void within myself, and feeling that loneliness within. Will anybody ever be good enough for me to fill it?
00:26:35Loneliness is a serious epidemic right now. A lot of people are going through it.
00:30:06We’re setting ourselves up for more loneliness by the way that we set up our lives. What might be convenient like on demand? Quick answers, texting like rapid fire responses like getting things done that way, sending an email. There's no connection.
00:30:58We're losing that sense of connectedness with human beings.
00:34:13This is human connection, community feeling, that sense of being seen, heard, understood, a sense of belonging and feeling. Community dies when people are too self-sufficient. Communities help lift you up, make you feel good, grow, feel a sense of belonging. feel a sense of purpose like you're contributing to something.
00:35:37You're numbing out every day, because you feel so lonely watching all this TV binging on episodes, seasons of things, playing video games and just putting the headphones on and not listening, you know.Being overstimulated and finding things to keep busy keeping busy with stuff to make you busy. You're like. Oh, no, no, no, I can't go and hang out, because I'm so busy doing this stuff just to make you so feel like you're doing something. But really you're lonely inside.
00:41:05If you don't do the self-awareness work and inner work. You'll always feel lonely because you'll always continuously be adapting yourself to someone who you are not, and you will be more disconnected to not only other people, but disconnected to yourself, because you won't be able to have those meaningful relationships and have quality. When I say quality it's in your perspective of quality, social connections because they will never be true. They will be based off of some facade that isn't real.
00:46:45It's not that a lot of people who are independent want to be doing it on their own. We've been so ingrain
Full transcript available at: https://www.stephanieolegario.com/podcasts/plan-be/episodes/2148090703
Join the free Meetup - Harmony Collective: https://www.meetup.com/the-harmony-collective/
Contact Stephanie here: hello@stephanieolegario.com
Summary:
Why are people feeling lonely How can we be more connected How to cope with feeling lonely Join our community – Harmony Collective
Highlights:
00:01:07
Loneliness is an epidemic.
00:01:49We are connected digitally more than ever, in a way that we could be more responsive by the second. And yet we're so separate. We're so separate…
00:02:17We're talking about really serious disconnection. But we're craving connection. So that's why today's episode's really important. We're going to go over. This whole idea about loneliness is an epidemic right now. A lot of people are experiencing it silently suffering.
00:05:40But it's that longing for that human connection. We love that feeling and anyone can say that they're like, I don't need this…we still do. Why else are we still looking around for something that feels that way?
00:15:09Nothing is ever static. The only thing that's consistent in life is change.
00:18:35But people start to feel lonely when they feel like they don't belong, and they can't have people who vibe with them.
00:19:08Sometimes relationships have a time and place. And there's lessons to be learned during that time and place, but it also has a time to end or it could be outgrown.
00:20:33If change and transitions are part of life, so is loneliness. We're always going to be in pursuit of that sense of belonging: that sense of feeling seen and heard and understood by others. And once you acknowledge that we're always gonna have this in her life. There's going to be times in transition periods where we're going to have to find it new people.
00:22:40Sometimes we expect people to fill that void of loneliness in ourselves.
00:24:51It starts with us to fill that void of loneliness.
00:25:54if I have that void within myself, and feeling that loneliness within. Will anybody ever be good enough for me to fill it?
00:26:35Loneliness is a serious epidemic right now. A lot of people are going through it.
00:30:06We’re setting ourselves up for more loneliness by the way that we set up our lives. What might be convenient like on demand? Quick answers, texting like rapid fire responses like getting things done that way, sending an email. There's no connection.
00:30:58We're losing that sense of connectedness with human beings.
00:34:13This is human connection, community feeling, that sense of being seen, heard, understood, a sense of belonging and feeling. Community dies when people are too self-sufficient. Communities help lift you up, make you feel good, grow, feel a sense of belonging. feel a sense of purpose like you're contributing to something.
00:35:37You're numbing out every day, because you feel so lonely watching all this TV binging on episodes, seasons of things, playing video games and just putting the headphones on and not listening, you know.Being overstimulated and finding things to keep busy keeping busy with stuff to make you busy. You're like. Oh, no, no, no, I can't go and hang out, because I'm so busy doing this stuff just to make you so feel like you're doing something. But really you're lonely inside.
00:41:05If you don't do the self-awareness work and inner work. You'll always feel lonely because you'll always continuously be adapting yourself to someone who you are not, and you will be more disconnected to not only other people, but disconnected to yourself, because you won't be able to have those meaningful relationships and have quality. When I say quality it's in your perspective of quality, social connections because they will never be true. They will be based off of some facade that isn't real.
00:46:45It's not that a lot of people who are independent want to be doing it on their own. We've been so ingrain
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