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Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.
Takeaways
Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery.
Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance.
Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.
Additional points discussed:
Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns. Impact of burnout on family dynamics. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support. Importance of preparation in family communication. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity. Emotional release and support in times of conflict. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns. Family dynamics during conflict resolution. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation. Rupture and repair work in relationships. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication. Parenting challenges and self-awareness. Generational differences in perspectives on communication. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.
Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest
02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want
03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience
04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No
05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards
06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero
07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain
08:26 Communication Challenges with Children
09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values
11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation
14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings
15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives
18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded
19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps
22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way
25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans
26:27 Staying in Rel
Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding
Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.
Takeaways
Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery.
Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance.
Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.
Additional points discussed:
Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns. Impact of burnout on family dynamics. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support. Importance of preparation in family communication. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity. Emotional release and support in times of conflict. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns. Family dynamics during conflict resolution. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation. Rupture and repair work in relationships. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication. Parenting challenges and self-awareness. Generational differences in perspectives on communication. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.
Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest
02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want
03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience
04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No
05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards
06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero
07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain
08:26 Communication Challenges with Children
09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values
11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation
14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings
15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives
18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded
19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps
22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way
25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans
26:27 Staying in Rel
38 min