Unapologetically Sensitive Patricia Young

Distorted Self-Image; Internalizing How You are Positively Reflected

How can you internalize the positive ways others see you in order to shift your distorted self-perception? How do you nurture secure attachments? What prevents you from having intimate relationships with others? Jen and I talk about what it was like for her to come to CA, and for us to meet in person for the first time in our 5-year friendship.  We explore our fears, & how this shifted our relationship. We also explore ways to savor connection.
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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Listen to episode 193 to hear about Jen's surprise visit to San Diego. Take the time to check in with your needs and feelings in relationships, and communicate them clearly to your partner or friend. Practice nonviolent communication by separating needs from strategies and avoiding making assumptions or personalizing situations. Reflect on the positive parts of yourself that you experience through others, and work on empowering yourself to see those qualities through your own eyes. Embrace your personal living style without seeking reassurance or approval from others. Consider using Marco Polo or FaceTime to build deep, meaningful relationships with long-distance friends. Remember to factor in the impact of ADHD on maintaining friendships and take steps to mitigate those challenges. Take the risk to be vulnerable with friends and loved ones, and cultivate a vocabulary that allows you to talk about GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us 
LINKS 
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Patricia’s Links
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy R

Embracing Vulnerability and Setting Boundaries for Deeper Connection

Vulnerability can be an uncomfortable but empowering experience, resulting in stronger connections with others and increased emotional resilience. If you crave meaningful connections, you must allow yourself to be vulnerable, even when it feels uncomfortable. When setting boundaries, we often deal with a part that feels very young and disempowered. We forget we are grown *ss adults. We talk about specific tools and ways to regulate uncomfortable feelings and practice speaking your truth.
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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC 
HIGHLIGHTS
·     Reach out for support when feeling overwhelmed, lonely, or scared.
·     Practice setting boundaries in relationships and honoring your own needs.
·     Recognize and validate the emotions you are experiencing, even if they seem conflicting.
·     Practice self-compassion when dealing with life's challenges and be gentle with yourself when anticipating potential issues.
·     Reflect on past experiences and how you've grown through them, using those lessons to navigate current situations.
·     Consider your relationship with your body and how you can take care of it as you age.
·     Embrace your finely-tuned nervous system and its reactions.
·     Counter perfectionism by accepting imperfections and embracing life's messiness.
·     Stay connected with others, even when life gets busy or challenging.
·     Practice mindfulness and being present in each moment, rather than getting caught up in past or future worries. 
GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us 
LINKS 
Jen’s Links 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com 
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ 
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
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Managing Stress Reactions through Self-Care


How do you manage stress reactions—especially when you struggle to set boundaries? Sometimes it can be difficult to assert your needs. I share a story of risking looking like that person in my own home. We talk about the importance of understanding what you are willing to tolerate in relationships and what might come up if you struggle to set boundaries. We also talk about the intimacy that develop when we are able to risk and be vulnerable with those we love.
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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
·         Fortify your personal boundaries and enhance your well-being as a highly sensitive individual.
·         Master the art of self-care to manage stress reactions and maintain balance in life.
·         Foster empathy and understanding to strengthen relationships and foster meaningful connections.
·         Embark on a journey of personal growth and self-awareness, discovering ways to cope with emotional triggers.
·         Bolster your emotional regulation by embracing support from loved ones and building a nurturing circle.
The resources mentioned in this episode are:
·         Consider reading Emily Nagoski's book, Burnout, to learn more about handling stress and setting boundaries.
·         Take time for self-care by scheduling specific days or moments in a month for doing something nice for yourself.
·         Practice asserting yourself and setting boundaries in different situations, even if it feels uncomfortable.
·         Communicate openly with family members or friends about your struggles with setting boundaries and ask for their support.
·         Reflect on where you feel a no in your body and honor that feeling when setting boundaries.
·         Be mindful of rules and social etiquette in public spaces, and assert yourself when needed. 
GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski PhD, & Amelia Nagoski DMA 
Jen’s Links
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Managing Dysregulation with Compassion & Mindfulness

In this episode, you will be able to: 1. Learn the importance of honoring your personal needs and setting boundaries to maintain your emotional well-being. 2. Recognize the impact of differentiating past traumas from present experiences to feel more empowered. 3. The importance of cultivating authentic connections through vulnerability and empathetic listening. 4. Uncover some tools for healing through journaling, meditation, and IFS.
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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
The resources mentioned in this episode are:
Practice self-awareness and tune into your feelings and needs, especially during moments of dysregulation. Honor your emotions and personal boundaries by taking breaks, resting, and setting limits as needed. Use cognitive tools, such as present moment focus, to help manage dysregulation and negative thought patterns. Find a supportive group or community where you feel comfortable and understood, and avoiding situations that make you feel othered. Invest in helpful tools, like noise-cancelling earplugs, to make sensory experiences more manageable. Educate yourself about your own neurodivergence, such as autism, to better understand your needs and experiences. Communicate your needs to friends and loved ones, and allow them to support you during difficult moments. Recognize and challenge unhealthy attachment patterns or expectations in relationships. Practice self-compassion and avoid self-judgment, recognizing that taking care of yourself is not quitting or failing. Seek therapy or support from a mental health professional if needed to help navigate challenges related to being a highly sensitive person. GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS
Why haven’t I healed or awakened yet with Jeff Foster-- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRLKZN1LRFM
Jen’s Links 
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com 
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ 
Patricia’s Links 
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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The Power of Speaking Up; Boundary-Setting in Therapy and Beyond

How do you navigate ruptures in therapy if the therapist overshares, or does not meet your needs? Rupture and repair are possible. Are there ways to self-disclose in appropriate ways that benefit the client? We share a vignette about therapeutic rupture. As a client, do you know how to bring up concerns to your therapist? As a therapist, are you creating safety for your clients, so they know that you welcome their feedback? If done skillfully, repair work can create a stronger therapeutic bond, and more intimacy.
GUEST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC 
HIGHLIGHTS
Speak up if your therapist violates your boundaries or wastes your time. You have a right to use your voice and say that this behavior was not okay. Consider giving your therapist feedback if they make a mistake or have an off day. This can help repair any ruptures in the therapeutic relationship and strengthen the alliance. Remember that therapy is a partnership, and you have agency in the process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need or express your feelings. If you're struggling to show up authentically, consider seeking out a therapist or coach who can help you feel safe and supported. If you're a therapist, practice skillful self-disclosure by sharing information in a measured, appropriate, and helpful way that helps your clients feel connected. Be open to discomfort and learning to tolerate it. The goal of therapy is not always to feel better, but to learn how to manage conflict and discomfort in a healthy way. GUEST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us
LINKS 
Jen’s Links
Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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Setting the Groundwork for the Holidays with the Emotionally Immature Person part 2
Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents explains why we repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP) even when you don’t want to. She talks about how to stay in touch with your true self and how to plan your actions to support you.  She also helps you understand when to confront and when to let go, as well as providing tools and mantras to remind you that you have needs, and a right to exist.
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 Lindsay Gibson, PsyD.
 HIGHLIGHTS
5 Hallmarks of an Emotionally Immature Parent/Person (EIP)
1.    Egocentric
2.    Poor empathy
3.    Not self-reflective
4.    Look at reality through the lens of their own emotions
5.    Avoids emotional intimacy
Here are some of the questions Dr. Gibson responds to:
How do Emotionally Immature Parents (EIPs) or Emotionally Immature Persons get you to knuckle under and let them do what they want (emotional coercion)?
What makes you repeatedly give in to an Emotionally Immature Parent (or Person) even when you don’t want to?
Dr. Gibson talks about what makes you give in even when you have a bad feeling about it. Why don’t you listen to your instincts when confronted with a pushy EIP?
How do you stay in touch with your true Self, and plan your actions according to what’s healthy and less stressful for you?
What’s the best overall approach, or the mantra to remember to get through a holiday visit without serious stress?
When do you let things go, and when do you confront?
GUEST BIO 
Lindsay Gibson, PsyD. has been a licensed clinical psychologist for over thirty years and specializes in individual adult psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is the author of four books. Her book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents remains a #1 Amazon Best Seller. The follow up to this book is Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents, and the 2nd edition of her first book Who You Were Meant To Be has been recently released on Amazon. Her latest book, Self Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was just released in September 2021. In the past Dr. Gibson has served as an adjunct assistant professor teaching doctoral psychology students.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and she works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
LINKS
Dr, Gibson’s links
Website— http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/
Patricia’s Links
HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/
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