42. Anxious Attachment Style. Learn about Secure Attachment with Erika Straub @_anxiousfemale The School of Higher Consciousness

Welcome to the ATTACHMENT STYLE Series!

Did you know that the quality of the bond you developed with your parents in the first months and years of your life determines how you bond with your romantic partners?  You can develop a secure attachment or an insecure attachment style (anxious, avoidant, or disorganized).

This work is called Attachment Theory and this series (episodes 40 - 43) dive deeper into the different attachment styles:


Episode 40: Introduction to Attachment  Theory
Episode 41: Secure with Eli Harwood @attachmentnerd
Episode 42: Anxious with Erika Straub @_anxiousfemale
Episode 43: Avoidant with Adam Lane Smith @attachmentadam

Want to you know your style?  Click HERE to take a quick quiz and click HERE for more resources.

Erika is our “anxious” attachment style expert and educates us on the qualities and characteristics that are unique with the secure attachment style. The focus is on anxious attachment, but we cover a lot more than just the basics. This is an incredibly insightful episode for anyone who is anxiously attached or anyone in relationship with an anxiously attached partner!

More about Erika:  Erika has her BA in psychology and MA in Depth Psychology, and her expertise in the field emerged through her own self exploration, trauma work, and loss of her father at age twelve. Check out her links below to see her offers!

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Episode Timestamps:


Meet Erika (6:08)
Address the anxious style (13:00)
Fears of the anxious attacher (23:26)
Grief (26:59)
The Anxious internal world (39:12)
Indicators of healing (49:33)
Defensiveness & inner masculine (52:56)
Healthy inner masculine (01:01:30)
Healthy inner feminine (01:02:45)
Advice to an avoidant partner in partnership (01:06:23)
True intimacy (01:09:19)
When someone doesn't do the work (01:11:18)
Erika's offerings (01:14:44)
Erika's billboard advice (01:13:42)
Parenting advice (01:15:30)
Outro (01:19:19)

Erika Resources:


Anxious Female Instagram
Erika's Offers
Erika's Website

Podcast Socials & Resources 


Podcast Instagram: @higher_consciousness_schoool
Website: The School of Higher Consciousness
Attachment QUIZ
The Attachment Project Website

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