69: Healing the Parent Wound through Forgiveness Feel Pray Love

Feel Pray Love - Episode 69 - Healing the Parent Wound through Forgiveness

In this episode of the Feel Pray Love Podcast, our host Nikki talks about healing the parent wound, why it's so hard to forgive our parents, as well as the power and importance of forgiveness.

Hard to Forgive
-How do I forgive my parents?
-“Forgiving my mom was the most liberating journey I ever went on” - Nikki
-We are all on our own journey
-Why is it so easy to forgive everyone else for hurting us except our parents?
-“The wounds that were created when we were children with our parents, were created in the context of a codependent relationship” - Nikki
-As children, we needed to be codependent
-As adults, if a friend or a partner doesn't align with us, we can choose to walk away
-As children, we don't have the option to walk away from our household
-“The only person stopping me from having a relationship with my mom was me” - Nikki
-We think we can change our parents, and we cannot
-“What is love if it's not accepting someone as they are?” - Nikki
-As Nikki began to find a better understanding of her mothers pain, she was better able to forgive her

Forgiveness
-We've come here to go through difficult shit, pain, and loss, but those experiences are actually opportunities
-“When you learn to be okay with the darkness, this understanding strengthens naturally” - Nikki
-That same principle applies to our experiences with our parents
-Forgiveness doesn't mean that were excusing or accepting the behavior that caused us trauma
-“Forgiveness is about liberation of the self” - Nikki

Final Thoughts
-Examine the expectations you've created around forgiveness
-Nikki says she began thanking her mother, instead of picking her apart
-She challenges us to thank our parents for something the next time we talk to them

Links
Her Reclamation Course: www.nikkisunshine.info/store
Website: www.nikkisunshine.info
Instagram: @heartwombhealing
Email: hellonikkisunshine@gmail.com