7. Codependency during Covid, Part 1: I Gave You My Tit, Gimme Dat Tat Ship Wreck

In the first part of a mini collection of episodes dealing with codependency during Covid-19, Nick and Suz go through an 11-question quiz (yoinked from a video by John Kim, aka: The Angry Therapist) that may determine whether you have dependent tendencies in your relationships. Grab a pen and tally how many of these questions you answer "yes" to:
1) Do you feel guilty for asserting yourself or speaking up?
2) Do you find yourself being the go-to for your friends/family/coworkers as a sympathetic ear or for favors--or are you the person others often seek out to verbally vomit on?
3) Does it sometimes feel like your feelings and needs don't matter?
4) Are you (or were you, growing up) the peacemaker in your family? Did your parents/siblings often fight and you had the job of the referee, smoothing things over?
5) Are you constantly disappointed by being let down by others, or by not being able to trust or rely on others?
6) Do you FEAR that if you told people how you really felt they would judge you or leave you?
7) Does it feel good to be relied upon? That is: do you derive self-worth/value in being the go-to?
8) Does it feel like very few people (or maybe none at all) really know you?
9) When someone is upset or angry, do you feel guilty-- even if you weren't the direct cause of their upset? Even if you had no involvement at all?
10) Do you find yourself obsessing about interactions with people long after the interaction is over?
11) Is it difficult to say no when someone makes demands on your time or energy?

(John Kim did an 8-minute video on this quiz-- we talked about it for an hour and 8 minutes... that's how we operate, guys.)

Let us know how YOU are finding ways to navigate your relationships during Covid isolation. How are you asking for what you need? How are you communicating differently? How have your relationship dynamics changed? 
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