A podcast for grandparents on-the-go with their grandkids! This podcast is for grandparents who want to hold special places in their grandchildren’s hearts.
The Adventures with Grammy Podcast Welcomes the Good Grandma
Episode 16 Show Notes:
Colleen Rife, the cofounder of goodgrandma.com, is the guest on Episode 16 of the Adventures with Grammy Podcast.
From her website:
Colleen Rife is a mother of five children and a grandmother to six grandchildren and 13 step-grandchildren. Colleen has always loved children and started babysitting at a young age. She was a nanny for a family in New York City the year after graduating from high school. Colleen taught art classes, gymnastics, and dance classes for eight years. All such classes were for children ages three to six years.
Colleen provided daycare in her home for special needs children; she assisted in a deaf and hard of hearing preschool, and she worked at American National Insurance as an office manager before moving in 2012. Colleen graduated from BYU in 1991 with an associate degree in Humanities and earned an associate degree from College of Southern Nevada in Deaf Studies in 2007; she graduated from Utah Valley University with a bachelorj degree in Elementary Education in 2014. Colleen taught 2nd grade for a year as an intern and kindergarten for two years thereafter.
Colleen’s fulltime job is now working on GoodGrandma, which requires her to spend lots and lots of time with her grandchildren. Colleen loves everything about GoodGrandma and hopes you will love it too!
Richard Rife, aka “Papa Rich,” is a founder of GoodGrandma. Richard has six children and 13 grandchildren, along with six step-grandchildren. He founded GoodGrandma, along with his wife, Colleen Rife, aka “Grandma Colleen.” Richard loves being a grandpa and believes that grandparents, acting appropriately in their role, can have a profound influence for good in the lives of their grandchildren.
Richard’s career has been as a corporate lawyer. After graduating from law school in 1980, Richard clerked for the Nevada Supreme Court, practiced with a litigation firm, and then acted as a foreign legal consultant for the largest law firm in South Korea. He has been general counsel for several large companies over the years and is active today as a Chief Legal Officer and member of the Office of the President for a large company. He also served as chief privacy officer for a worldwide organization.
During his career, Richard spent a decade in South Korea, and he speaks Korean fluently (at least he did when he had the chance to speak it).
In his spare time, Richard serves as a volunteer Board member (and corporate secretary) of a highly respected local charity that provides autism, respite, early intervention, and early head start services to children and families in Utah County. He also enjoys golf but is not nearly as good as he used to be. Richard was a great baseball player when he was a young man; he is a legend in his own mind, and his legendary baseball exploits seem to get better and better, the older he gets.
Our mission at GoodGrandma is to Give Grandmas Good IDEAS!
Building strong relationships with our grandchildren
Holidays and holiday traditions
Supporting our grandchildren’s parents
And many other topics
GoodGrandma is a place for grandmas and grandpas to share information and stories, all with the purpose of becoming better grandparents. We are a whole new generation of tech-savvy grandmothers; okay, not as tech savvy as our grandchildren, but more so than the generation that came before us. We can use technology to become better grandparents. We can use it to keep track of our grandchildren and to make sure we are there for those special moments, to help nurture them and share life experiences like never before.
Episode 15 Grandma Joi Shares Words of Wisdom
Joi Warburton, a grandmother to nine girls and one boy, shares her values and wisdom about parenting and grandparenting.
Links to organizations and books mentioned in the podcast are below:
Beatrice’s Goat by Page McBrier
Based on a true story, this heartwarming picture book shows how one gift changed the fate of a poor Ugandan family—especially the young girl who wanted to go to school.
More than anything, Beatrice longs to be a schoolgirl. But in her small African village, only children who can afford uniforms and books can go to school. Beatrice knows that with six children to care for, her family is much too poor. But then Beatrice receives a wonderful gift from some people far away—a goat!
Fat and sleek as a ripe mango, Mugisa (“luck”) gives milk that Beatrice can sell. With Mugisa’s help, Beatrice’s dream may come true after all!
Heifer Project International is a charitable organization that donates livestock to poor communities around the world, giving other families like Beatrice’s a chance to change their lives.
One Hen: How One Small Loan Made a Big Difference by Katie Smith Milway
Inspired by true events, One Hen tells the story of Kojo, a boy from Ghana who turns a small loan into a thriving farm and a livelihood for many.
After his father died, Kojo had to quit school to help his mother collect firewood to sell at the market. When his mother receives a loan from some village families, she gives a little money to her son. With this tiny loan, Kojo buys a hen.
A year later, Kojo has built up a flock of 25 hens. With his earnings Kojo is able to return to school. Soon Kojo's farm grows to become the largest in the region.
Kojo's story is inspired by the life of Kwabena Darko, who as a boy started a tiny poultry farm just like Kojo's, which later grew to be the largest in Ghana, and one of the largest in west Africa. Kwabena also started a trust that gives out small loans to people who cannot get a loan from a bank.
One Hen shows what happens when a little help makes a big difference. The final pages of One Hen explain the microloan system and include a list of relevant organizations for children to explore.
One Hen is part of CitizenKid: A collection of books that inform children about the world and inspire them to be better global citizens.
Heifer international https://www.heifer.org/
Giving an animal is like giving someone a small business, providing wool, milk, eggs and more. Animal donations can provide families a hand up, increasing access to medicine, school, food and a sustainable livelihood. Your animal donation will support the lives of families in need. The one you choose is up to you.
World Vision https://www.wvi.org
World Vision’s focus is on helping the most vulnerable children overcome poverty and experience fullness of life. It helps children of all backgrounds, even in the most dangerous places, inspired by its Christian faith. “Together we can protect children today and empower them for tomorrow.” Robert Pierce, in 1950, founded World Vision as a service organization to meet the emergency needs of missionaries. In 1975, development work was added to World Vision's objectives. It is active in more than 90 countries with a total revenue including grants, product and foreign donations of USD 2.90 billion.
14. Almost 3 million grandparents in the United States are raising their grandchildren
Episode 14 looks at the issue of grandparents raising their grandchildren.
That list of grandchildren includes former presidents Barack Obama and Bill Clinton, comedians Carol Burnett and Jamie Foxx, and musicians Eric Clapton, Willie Nelson and 50 Cent (U.S. Grandparents Are Raising Millions of Kids, and It's Tough | Health News | US News).
Across the United States today, grandparents are raising almost 3 million children (U.S. Grandparents Are Raising Millions of Kids, and It's Tough | Health News | US News)
With approximately 1/3 of those children relying solely on their grandparents for support (23 Statistics on Grandparents Raising Grandchildren – Father Matters).
Only 11% of grandparents are raising their grandkids because of the death of one or both of that child’s parents. (23 Statistics on Grandparents Raising Grandchildren – Father Matters).
Drug addiction, especially to opioids, is the reason most grandparents are raising their grandchildren (Why More Grandparents Are Raising Children | The Pew Charitable Trusts (pewtrusts.org)).
Lisa Holliday, a grandmother who is raising her granddaughter, is today’s guest.
Lisa founded helpinggrandparents.com because when she stepped in to help her grandchild, she found few resources available for grandparents. She doesn’t want that for other grandparents who experience similar difficult times.
She has a Facebook group by the same name and offers a virtual support group to grandparents across the globe.
Facebook: Helping Grandparents
Three books she recommends (all copy from Amazon descriptions):
The Grandfamily Guidebook: Wisdom and Support for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Paperback – August 28, 2018
by Andrew Adesman (Author), Christine Adamec (Author)
Are you one of nearly 3 million grandparents across North America raising your grandchildren as part of a grandfamily? You may have done all this parenting stuff before, but times have changed since you raised your own kids, and you likely never thought you’d be raising kids again.
What has led to all these family issues and the growing need for grandparents to step up? Now more than ever, substance use and addiction have made many birth parents simply unfit for the job, whether the problem is alcohol, opioids, or other drugs. Family dynamics might also be undermined by parents’ mental health or medical problems, incarceration, or a simple lack of preparedness for family responsibilities. Whatever the reason for your new role, you must now help your grandchildren adjust to their extended family as part of their everyday life, through the best care you are able to provide. While your new role means that you will likely have to change the way you live, the kinship care you provide your grandchildren might make all the difference in the world.
In The Grandfamily Guidebook—which leading medical experts have called a “must-have” resource for grandparents raising grandchildren—authors Andrew Adesman, MD, and Christine Adamec offer expert medical advice, helpful insights gleaned from other grandparents, and data mined from the 2016 Adesman Grandfamily Study—the broadest and most diverse research study of its kind to date. You’ll also find hands-on tips you’ll be able to reference whenever you need them, including how to cope with difficult birth parents, school issues and social-life challenges, problem behaviors that stem from a difficult past, and your own self-care.
Starting with its foreword by the renowned Dr. William Sears, across this book you will find practical, inspiring help as you navigate the financial impacts, legal considerations, and medical issues that commonly arise when grandparents and grandchildre...
13. What do you do when your child is melting down?
When putting together this episode of the podcast, I reflected on what my late husband and I had said we wanted for our children when they became adults.
We wanted them to be happy, healthy, and able to afford the toys they would want to buy. We wanted our sons and our daughter to be confident and kind, and we wanted them to know how to cook, to do their laundry, and to change a flat tire. We were not perfect parents, but as I watch my now adult children, I know we gave them a firm foundation and the skills they needed to become contributing members of society. In short, we raised emotionally competent people.
Emotional Competence is the focus of part one of today’s podcast. Positive discipline is the focus of part two. Each guest is an author, and each guest will give us tips on how to raise well-adjusted human beings.
Our first guest is Doug Noll, the author of the book De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less (Simon & Schuster, September 2017), which was the winner of the Book Excellence Award for 2017.
I invited him to be a guest because of his passion for teaching parents, grandparents and educators why understanding child development and using appropriate discipline strategies lead to children becoming resilient, emotionally competent adults.
For his innovative work, Doug Noll has been voted as one of the Best Lawyers in America since 2005, by US News & World Report and has been recognized since 2006 as a Northern California Super Lawyer. He is listed in the Who’s Who of International Commercial Mediators. He has been honored as Lawyer of the Year in 2014 by Best Lawyers in America. In 2014, Doug was honored as a Purpose Prize Fellow by Encore.org. In 2018, Doug was named the Distinguished Neutral of the Year by The National Academy of Distinguished Neutrals. Along with his colleague Laurel Kaufer, Doug Noll was named California Attorney of the Year in 2012 for their pro bono Prison of Peace project.
De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less will teach you how to calm an angry, upset person of any age while remaining centered and calm. You will also learn how to calm yourself down quickly and efficiently. You will be able to take insults, provocations, and disrespect from others without losing your cool. You will be able to stand in the presence of very strong emotions and say exactly the right thing in exactly the right way in exactly the right moment. In short, you will gain an immense amount of control over your emotional life. You will learn how to solve a problem without anger. This will give you a power you never imagined possible.
De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less: Noll, Douglas E.: 0001582706557: Amazon.com: Books
Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences
Our second guest is Joyce Fields, an author who has combined her passion for writing with her mission to inspire people to make the world a better place. The mother of two sons, eight grandchildren and four great grandchildren shares with us the 12 “ingredients” she says families need to raise great children. The book Her book is Mother’s Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising Great Kids, draws upon the values her family has passed down from generation to generation.
Joyce Fields was born and raised in Detroit, Michigan. She now resides in Arcadia, California.
12a. Visiting Museums with Children
Episode 12 Show Notes
This version adds the omitted introduction voiceover!
12. Visiting Museums around the World with Children
Episode 12 Show Notes