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On episode Nine, of Double Happiness Multiplied, we honour the families who sadly didn’t get to take one or more of their babies’ home.

Alexa Bigwarfe shares her story of grief following the loss of one of her twins, due to twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome.

Psychologist Dr Monique Robinson talks about the importance of grieving and reaching out and speaking to others who have experienced the loss of a multiple.

And, Joanne Beedie tells us of her devastation at being told the heart of one of her twins had stopped at just 21-weeks’ gestation.

They’re known as Angel Babies. They’re the precious souls who didn’t make it into the world alive, or they were only here long enough to exhale a few short breaths of love before passing away.

The sad reality of multiple births is that compared with singletons, babies from multiple pregnancies have a substantially higher rate of perinatal death. This higher rate of loss is largely due to preterm birth.

It’s not uncommon for one or two babies from a multiple pregnancy to die Inutero and the more embryos you have the more likely you are to have a loss.

The emotional pain and the strain on the family unit after losing one or more babies from a multiple pregnancy is undeniably excruciating.

Alexa Bigwarfe was has lived this very reality. She was diagnosed with twin-to-twin-transfusion syndrome when she was 20-weeks’ pregnant with her identical twin girls. By the time the condition was detected, the disease had progressed to stage 3, which made treatment options less effective.

“There was emotion overload just all the time, and I wanted to be happy and I wanted to have faith and believe, and I still believed when they were both born and they were both alive, I still believed the medical system was going to fix her, that it was still going to be okay,”

“So, when they told us it was time to turn off the machines, I didn’t believe it,” says Alexa



“There was emotion overload just all the time, and I wanted to be happy and I wanted to have faith and believe, and I still believed when they were both born and they were both alive, I still believed the medical system was going to fix her, that it was still going to be okay. So, when they told us it was time to turn off the machines, I didn’t believe it.”

~Alexa Bigwarfe – twin mum~

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Alexa explains how difficult it was to try and grieve one child while she had another one who was still trying to survive. She says the hardest part was trying to bond with her surviving twin.

“It was really difficult to bond with her for multiple reasons, I didn’t even get to hold her until she was about a week old, and then I was scared of bonding with her because I wasn’t sure that she was going to live either,” admits Alexa.

Empty arms

Alexa explains that she understood the pain that comes with the loss of a baby but she just couldn’t...