7 min

Ask Alex - I'm Being Harassed for Not Being Gay Enough Alexandrea Merrell

    • Business

Alex - I work at a large postal processing center. I am openly gay and have been for 15 years. Because the work is boring, my co-workers and I share a fair bit about our personal lives, I know about their relationships, kids, hobbies, etc and they know about my personal life. It has been plesant for years and I have never had a problem about my sexuality. In fact, none of us has ever made a big del about being heterosexual or homosexual.  

About three months ago, there was a change in the way that we process packages. It meant combining our area with another area and about twenty people were brought over to our side of the building. One of the people that came across to our side (lets call him Chris) is also gay. But for him, everything that he does or says is about being gay and anyone who doesn’t agree with him about something is loudly branded a homophobe. Chris frequently comments that I am not “gay enough” or that I am ashamed of being gay. Im not ashamed at all, I just don’t think that I need to make everything about sex, especially at work.  Now I am getting anonymous emails trying to shame me into being some sort of activist.  Im sure its Chris. How do I make this stop? - Dominic

PR & Crisis Management expert, Alexandrea Merrell answers question about stalking, bullying, online harassment, and hate campaigns, and helps adults deal with personal and professional reputation crises to ultimately rebuild a stronger, more resilient, and joyful brand and life. AlexandreaMerrell.com

Alex - I work at a large postal processing center. I am openly gay and have been for 15 years. Because the work is boring, my co-workers and I share a fair bit about our personal lives, I know about their relationships, kids, hobbies, etc and they know about my personal life. It has been plesant for years and I have never had a problem about my sexuality. In fact, none of us has ever made a big del about being heterosexual or homosexual.  

About three months ago, there was a change in the way that we process packages. It meant combining our area with another area and about twenty people were brought over to our side of the building. One of the people that came across to our side (lets call him Chris) is also gay. But for him, everything that he does or says is about being gay and anyone who doesn’t agree with him about something is loudly branded a homophobe. Chris frequently comments that I am not “gay enough” or that I am ashamed of being gay. Im not ashamed at all, I just don’t think that I need to make everything about sex, especially at work.  Now I am getting anonymous emails trying to shame me into being some sort of activist.  Im sure its Chris. How do I make this stop? - Dominic

PR & Crisis Management expert, Alexandrea Merrell answers question about stalking, bullying, online harassment, and hate campaigns, and helps adults deal with personal and professional reputation crises to ultimately rebuild a stronger, more resilient, and joyful brand and life. AlexandreaMerrell.com

7 min

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