Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc Dr. Pamela Kreiser

In this latest episode of our podcast, TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor tackle the intricate dance between mothers and their smartphone habits. With Mother's Day as our backdrop, we embark on a heartfelt exploration of personal anecdotes, unveiling the layers of guilt that often accompany excessive phone use, particularly when it interferes with meaningful moments with our children.
Our conversation is a poignant reflection of the ongoing struggle to strike a harmonious balance between fulfilling digital responsibilities and being fully present for our kids, shedding light on the phenomenon known as “technoference” and its impact on maternal contentment.
Delving into the research, we dissect studies that illuminate the effects of maternal smartphone engagement on children's emotional states and cognitive synchronization during face-to-face interactions. These insights serve as a sobering reminder of the need to navigate our digital lives mindfully, cultivating strategies to mitigate guilt and foster healthier coping mechanisms. We don’t just stop at analysis; we share actionable tips and techniques aimed at improving this dynamic.
From establishing designated "phone-free" hours to prioritizing self-care for mental and relationship well-being, our episode serves as a beacon of support for mothers navigating the intricate web of modern-day connectivity and parenting. Join us as we navigate this nuanced terrain with empathy, understanding, and a commitment to nurturing stronger, more present relationships.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Wolfers, Wendt, Becker, and Utz (2023), Pew Research Center, McDaniel & Radesky 
Technoference is defined as “everyday interruptions in interpersonal interactions or time spent together that occur due to the digital and mobile technology devices” (McDaniel & Radesky, 2018, p. 100.
Resources : 
Wolfers, Wendt, Becker, and Utz (2023) article: “Do you love your phone more than your child? The consequences of norms and guilt around maternal smartphone use”
https://academic.oup.com/hcr/article/49/3/285/7010694
Cartoon by Michael Leunig (2019):
https://www.leunig.com.au/curly-world/opinion-september-2020/35-news/recent-cartoons-images/988-mummy-was-busy
Research on Parental Burnout by Zhang, Hu, and Mao (2023):
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/01430343231201863
Pew Research on Teens and Parents Approach to Screen Time:
https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2024/03/11/how-teens-and-parents-approach-screen-time/
Research on Still Face and Babies:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3289403/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32857440/
Research on Reading and Phone Interruptions:
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/358408603_Reduced_mother-child_brain-to-brain_synchrony_during_joint_storytelling_interaction_interrupted_by_a_media_usage
Links :
AFAF Episode #015: What the Phub!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/49181892af68bd3170e025ea77a58de5

Are your loved ones left guessing about your true feelings? Do you often find yourself taking the safer route by avoiding emotional conversations? It’s easy to overlook the importance of identifying, labeling, and expressing our emotions effectively. However, enhancing our emotional expression is crucial for nurturing healthy relationships. After all, we’re emotional beings who sometimes think!
Join us in this episode as we dive back into the valuable insights from episodes 53 and 55. We’ll explore actionable strategies to help you better understand and convey your emotions. Tune in now to discover ways to strengthen communication with your closest relationship partners, ensuring that you leave no room for guesswork.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Marc Brackett
AFAF Episode #053: Sad? Mad? Glad? How to Expand Your Emotional Vocabulary
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6838118c4eb4b0ddd297f0f74e2edd26
AFAF Episode #055: All the Feels! How to Better Express Your Feelings
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/1b17807d586eb084ea5e45230bcd422b

Understanding Codependency and Hypervigilance
In this episode of Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc, we deep dive into the intricate dynamics of Codependency and Hypervigilance. Our guest, Carrie Johnson, brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to the table, enriching our understanding of these crucial subjects.
Join TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Carrie as we navigate the nuances of codependency, moving beyond its conventional ties to addiction and exploring its multifaceted manifestations in various relationships. Drawing from a poignant personal story shared by a student, our conversation sheds light on how codependency can manifest in interactions with narcissists and dependents alike, offering profound insights into the complexities of human connection.
Hypervigilance takes center stage as we unravel its impact on individuals navigating emotionally volatile environments. We explore how this heightened state of awareness influences coping mechanisms and discuss practical strategies for cultivating resilience and reclaiming autonomy.
Throughout the episode, we emphasize the transformative power of self-compassion, the healing journey of re-parenting oneself, and the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. Our exploration extends to valuable resources such as therapy and support groups, underlining the significance of seeking professional guidance and communal support in navigating these challenges.
Tune in as we champion self-awareness, advocate for nurturing meaningful relationships, and champion the invaluable practice of prioritizing mental well-being. This episode promises a wealth of wisdom and actionable insights for anyone seeking to unravel the intricacies of codependency and hypervigilance in their lives.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Murray Bowen (Family Systems) 
https://www.thebowencenter.org/core-concepts-diagrams
 
Resources : 
 
Co-Dependent No More by Melody Beattie
https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomore
 
Co-Dependents Anonymous
https://coda.org/
 
Alcoholics Anonymous (Al-Anon)
https://al-anon.org/
 
Adult Children of Alcoholics by Woititz
https://www.amazon.com/Adult-children-alcoholics-Geringer-Woititz/dp/B000720PS8
 
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Gibson
https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Children-Emotionally-Immature-Parents-ebook/dp/B00TZE87S4
 
Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
https://www.boundariesbooks.com/
Links :
Instagram Emily H. Sanders LMFThttps://www.instagram.com/emily.sanders.therapy/?hl=en
Instagram Lisa Romano @LisaRomano
https://www.instagram.com/lisaaromano/?hl=en
 
AFAF Episode 71: AFAF with Carrie Johnson on People Pleasers!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/f51d610dd854351ecace50e61afb0c01
 
AFAF Episode 59: Anger Management! How to Tame Your Temper with Christopher Faris and Carrie Johnson
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/d3a4aa5fad6104f0aafc2a80e3cb04dc
 

Celebrating Episode 100  
In the 100th episode of “Asking for a Friend with TalkDoc,” hosts TalkDoc, Meredith, and Teighlor celebrate the milestone by revisiting the very first episode titled, “The Message Received is the One That Counts.” 
We discuss the challenges and misunderstandings that arise in communication, particularly focusing on the negative perception of sensitivity. Through personal anecdotes, we explore how being labeled as 'too sensitive' impacts relationships and communication, suggesting that sensitivity should instead be seen as a strength. 
We delve into the importance of acknowledging the impact of our words on others, rather than justifying intentions, and offer strategies for better understanding and validating each other's feelings in conversations. The episode underscores the value of empathy and the significance of how messages are received in shaping effective and compassionate communication.
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to AFAF Episode #001: Our First Full Episode!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/6dce9b4a421e11cc80560cc626684dde
Link to AFAF Episode #000: Nice to Meet You!
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/dc060c5a327d77522d1f2e3a5322d7b8

Have you ever been told, “I don't like your tone?” That simple statement carries a world of significance. It reflects not just the words spoken but also the emotional context and intention behind them. Our tone of voice serves as a powerful vehicle for transmitting feelings, attitudes, and intentions in every interaction.
In this episode, we explore the intricate world of nonverbal communication, with a focus on tone as a vital component of paralanguage. Join TalkDoc, Meredith and Teighlor, as we unravel the layers of how tone can profoundly shape the interpretation and reception of our messages.
From the volume and pitch to the pace and clarity of our speech, every nuance of tone plays a crucial role in conveying emotions, confidence levels, and overall competence. Drawing from personal experiences, we share anecdotes that illuminate how tone can either strengthen or strain relationships and communication dynamics.
We dive into fascinating research on how voice pitch can influence attraction and how subtle variations in tone can reveal underlying emotions or hidden intentions, often speaking louder than words alone.
Ultimately, this episode serves as a gentle reminder of the power of tone in our everyday interactions. By becoming more aware of our tone and learning to adjust it consciously, we can unlock the potential for more meaningful, empathetic, and impactful communication in both personal and professional realms.
Tune in as we unravel the nuances of tone and its profound impact on our relationships and communication efficacy.
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SHOW NOTES:
Experts :  Gottman, Gottman Institute, Guerrero, Touch Research Institute
Resources : 
Maya Angelou quotation:
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Gottman and Notarius (2004): Observing Marital Interaction
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1741-3737.2000.00927.x

In case you missed it, we are back with another AFAF Rewind! This is your chance to revisit Episodes #023 and #024: How to Manage Gaslighting (Part 1 and 2) 
In this compelling two-part series, we delve deep into the often-misunderstood concept of “gaslighting” with Staci Ross, M.A., L.M.F.T., an expert in the field.
Discover the nuanced layers of gaslighting as Staci breaks down this extreme manipulation tactic. Unveiling its systemic nature, she reveals how gaslighting is an intentional effort to erode a person's sense of self over time, strategically dismantling their support systems and fostering isolation. Join our insightful conversation with TalkDoc, Meredith, Teighlor, and Staci as we explore the subtle warning signs of gaslighting and empower you with strategies to break free from these toxic relationships.
Staci's wealth of knowledge extends beyond theory, as she draws upon her personal experiences to shed light on these destructive patterns. Tune in to gain invaluable insights into discerning gaslighting and learn actionable steps to reclaim your sense of self. 
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SHOW NOTES:
Link to full AFAF Episode 23:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/172b1da84e9ef9e99153bd3d3622698b
Link to full AFAF Episode 24:
https://pod.link/afafwithtalkdoc/episode/3a5b4efae31991c46b80678dfad86f9f