Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc

Dr. Pamela Kreiser
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Dr. Pamela Kreiser (with Meredith Edwards Nagel and Teighlor Polendo) shares her practical insights about how to improve relationships and promote peace—drawing upon her experience teaching graduate and undergraduate students, serving as a Lead Mediator, and training Mediators. Submit your questions to hello@afafpodcast.com KEYWORDS: Communication, Interpersonal Communication, Interpersonal Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Human Connection, Dyadic Communication, Interpersonal Communication Skills.

  1. 20h ago

    #144: How to Spot a Fake Apology (and Give a Real One)

    The TalkDoc & Co. discuss why “crappy” apologies (e.g., “I’m sorry if I offended you,” “I’m sorry you feel that way,” “I’m sorry, but…,” “you know I’m sorry,” “my bad,” or “I guess I owe you an apology”) feel empty because they shift blame, lack reflection, and show no effort. They outline research on the anatomy of an effective apology, emphasizing that it must focus on the offended person, include ingredients such as understanding the offense (not self-justifying), accepting responsibility, and offering repair, ideally with specificity and behavior change. They explore defensiveness, how bad apologies can further damage relationships, and how repeated harm makes apologies lose credibility, including in abusive patterns. They distinguish apologizing from asking for forgiveness and note forgiveness can be individual, even without receiving an apology, and they touch on cultural uses of “sorry” and overuse diluting impact.  Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :   Lewicki, Polin and Lount - An exploration of the structure of effective apologies. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-18054-006 Maddux and colleagues - Cultural Differences in the Function and Meaning of Apologies Cultural Differences in the Function and Meaning of Apologies Link : Link to AFAF Episode #003: Sorry Not Sorry - How to Apologize https://afafpodcast.podbean.com/e/sorry-not-sorry-1612932625/

  2. Jul 14

    #143: Never Have a Boring Conversation Again!

    Stop Having Shallow Conversations: 3 Simple Tools to Get People Talking TalkDoc & Co. discuss how shallow, unsatisfying conversations often come from asking too many closed or leading questions and not “hanging around” for the answer. They define closed vs. open questions and explain that opening the pathway requires commitment to listen without confirming a prewritten narrative. They share three practical tools to help others talk more: asking more open questions, using mirroring (repeating one or two key words from someone’s statement with respectful tone, as popularized by Chris Voss), and prompting with fill-in-the-blank fragments like “And that’s because…” or “So you feel…,” paired with longer wait time and silence. They note research that getting an interviewer to talk can increase likability, but warn not to use these tools with overly negative or toxic people. Homework: pick one tool, choose a context, and practice—especially with children. Music by Epidemic Sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts : Chris Voss, Dr. Brene Brown Resource : Chris Voss https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062407805?...

  3. 12/09/2025

    #142: Holiday Gathering Survival Guide: Navigating Difficult Conversations!

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo share real, honest, and practical ways to improve communication and relationships, especially during holiday gatherings. They recount personal anecdotes about family holiday experiences, discuss how to manage expectations, and tackle hard conversations around politics, religion, and personal life choices. The hosts emphasize emotional boundaries, curiosity, and connection. Key concepts from Brene Brown's “Rising Strong” and “Braving the Wilderness” are explored, focusing on managing emotions, handling conflict, and maintaining authentic interactions. The episode wraps up with practical tips and the importance of focusing on the bigger picture to enjoy a peaceful and meaningful holiday season. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. Brene Brown, Dr. Marc Brackett, Dr. Chandra Resources :  Rising Strong by Dr. Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/book/rising-strong/ Braving Wilderness  by Dr. Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/book/braving-the-wilderness/ Permission to Feel by Dr. Marc Brackett: https://marcbrackett.com/permission-to-feel/ Navigating Difficult People and Opinions During the Holiday by Dr. Chandra: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-pacific-heart/201711/navigating-difficult-people-and-opinions-during-the-holidays

  4. 11/25/2025

    #141: How to Manage Holiday Stress with Vanessa Trine, LPPC

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo welcome back licensed therapist Vanessa Trine, known for her expertise in anxiety disorders and trauma. Vanessa shares practical ways to handle holiday stress and anxiety, offering insights into maintaining balanced communication and setting boundaries. From discussing the difference between normal holiday stress and anxiety disorders to offering strategies for supporting partners and children during family gatherings, this episode is packed with helpful advice. Vanessa also introduces useful resources like the “Support Deck” and her “Creating Calm” anxiety relief course. Tune in for an honest and actionable guide to navigating the holiday season with a healthier mindset. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Vanessa Trine, LPPC Resources :  Support Deck: Therapeutic Practices to Help you Manage Big Feelings https://odddaughterpaper.com/products/support-deck Anxiety Course: Creating Calm - Anxiety Relief for anyone, anytime, anywhere https://www.theprocesswellnesscollective.com/creatingcalm-course Links : AFAF Episode 62: AFAF with Vanessa Trine on Anxiety and How It Translates Into the Body https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/062-afaf-with-vanessa-trine-on-anxiety-and-how/id1552837876?i=1000581539779 Vanessa Trine’s Website: https://www.vanessatrine.com

  5. 11/11/2025

    #140: Meet the Parents! How to Introduce Your New Partner to Family

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo delve into the dynamics of introducing a new partner to your family during the holidays. From deciding if your relationship is ready to tackling family traditions and expectations, this episode covers the practical steps and research-backed strategies to ensure the introduction goes smoothly. Learn how to prepare both your partner and your family, manage emotional climates, and debrief effectively post-visit to strengthen your relationship. Grab your cocoa and fluffy socks and tune in for essential tips on creating a supportive and harmonious holiday season. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. John Gottman, Dr. Brene Brown Resources :  Plamondon, A., & Lachance‐Grzela, M. (2018). What if they are right? Network approval, expectations, and relationship maintenance behaviors. Personal Relationships, 25(2), 190–204. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-18967-001 DePaulo, B. (2022, December 23). The thrill of going to holiday parties alone. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/202212/the-thrill-of-going-to-holiday-parties-alone Psychology Today: Should You Meet Your Partner’s Family? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201312/should-you-meet-your-partners-family

  6. 10/28/2025

    #139: Navigating Holiday Gift Giving and Money: Unwrapping Expectations

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the holiday pressures of gift-giving. They share insights on finding meaningful and thoughtful gifts, the impact of mismatched gifts, and how to avoid financial stress during the holidays. The conversation explores the importance of communication and relationships, practical gift ideas, and the benefits of generosity for both the giver and the receiver. Tune in for tips on how to make your holiday gifting more thoughtful and less stressful. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Resources :  Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer https://milkweed.org/book/braiding-sweetgrass The Psychology of Gifting https://www.reachdesk.com/blog/the-psychology-of-gifting-how-giving-drives-stronger-business-relationships The Psychology of Giving: Money and Generosity https://team.monetagroup.com/the-psychology-of-giving-money-and-generosity/ Dr Orna - Interview Clip - why talking about money is difficult (1:22) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKgB41pMf-s

  7. 10/14/2025

    #138: The Power of First Impressions: Navigating The World of Appearances

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo explore the profound impact of appearance on personal and professional relationships. From the concept of “pretty privilege” to the influence of grooming and scent, they delve into how your look can shape perceptions and opportunities. The discussion includes insights on confidence, the balance between natural beauty and grooming, and the societal biases tied to physical attributes. Listen in as they share practical advice on controlling aspects of your appearance to make positive first impressions and achieve your goals. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Resources :  Beauty and the Labor Market: Accounting for the Additional Effects of Personality and Grooming (Robins, Homer & French, 2011) https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-9914.2010.00511.x The Role of Fragrance and Self-esteem in Perception of Body Odors and Impressions of Others https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8592444/ Links : AFAF Episode #95: Can't Touch This! The Power of Nonverbal Touch https://youtu.be/4uMLVaXXDQg AFAF Episode #99: I Don't Like Your Tone! The Power of Nonverbal Paralanguage https://youtu.be/Bpyaqgug-XQ

  8. 09/30/2025

    #137: Don’t Say It! When NOT Talking Is the Best Communication Strategy

    In this episode of Asking For A Friend with TalkDoc, co-hosts Dr. Pamela Kreiser, Meredith Edwards Nagel, and Teighlor Polendo discuss the importance of editing our speech and the adage, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." They explore the impact of words on relationships and communication, providing insights into when silence is more beneficial than speaking. The conversation touches on practical tools for better communication, the power of curiosity and creativity in speech, and the need to avoid judgmental tendencies. Tune in for practical advice on managing the power of words and improving your relationships. Music by epidemic sound. SHOW NOTES: Experts :  Dr. Newberg, Dr. Waldman, Dr. Puff, Dr. Segal Resources :  Newberg and Waldman’s Book: Words Can Change Your Brain https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/309487/words-can-change-your-brain-by-andrew-newberg-md-and-mark-robert-waldman/ Dr. Puff’s Article: The Power of Our Words https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meditation-for-modern-life/202301/the-power-of-our-words Dr. Segal’s Article: What We Say Matters https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-empathy/201810/what-we-say-matters

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Dr. Pamela Kreiser (with Meredith Edwards Nagel and Teighlor Polendo) shares her practical insights about how to improve relationships and promote peace—drawing upon her experience teaching graduate and undergraduate students, serving as a Lead Mediator, and training Mediators. Submit your questions to hello@afafpodcast.com KEYWORDS: Communication, Interpersonal Communication, Interpersonal Conflict, Relationships, Mediation, Human Connection, Dyadic Communication, Interpersonal Communication Skills.

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