19 episodes

Born On 3rd is a thought-provoking podcast that peels back the layers of the deep-rooted inequities within our society. Through conversations with industry leaders, creatives and storytellers, Born On 3rd seeks to bridge the gap between those born with privilege and the disenfranchised. Born On 3rd is a provocative change agent, hell-bent on creating more equal opportunities for all.

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Born On 3rd Tim Kaelin

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 21 Ratings

Born On 3rd is a thought-provoking podcast that peels back the layers of the deep-rooted inequities within our society. Through conversations with industry leaders, creatives and storytellers, Born On 3rd seeks to bridge the gap between those born with privilege and the disenfranchised. Born On 3rd is a provocative change agent, hell-bent on creating more equal opportunities for all.

www.bornon3rd.com

    Deconstructing Racism with Saira Rao

    Deconstructing Racism with Saira Rao

    Looking at – and owning – the truth about white privilege can be awkward, even painful, but it doesn’t have to be lonely. This episode of Born on 3rd brings us to the dinner tables where tough conversations are building community around honesty, inclusivity and respect. Host Tim Kaelin’s guest, Saira Rao, is sharing her personal journey from “pedigreed” lawyer and successful woman of color playing the Wall Street game to tireless crusader against white supremacy. As co-founders of Race2Dinner, co-authors of the must-read "White Women: Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better Paperback", and their documentary "Deconstructing Karen", Saira and her partner, Regina Jackson, are inviting us to get out of our comfort zones and do the work necessary to make real, sustainable change – for our kids, for the planet, for the sake of humanity. You’ll come away from this candid discussion feeling empowered to take a step, no matter how modest, towards challenging the system. In addition to providing accessible, actionable ways to get engaged, Saira illuminates the “why” behind our urgent need to break the interconnected cycles of oppression – from gun violence and misogyny to economic scarcity and religious manipulation.
    If you want to be part of the change you seek – however uncomfortable it may feel – pick up a copy of Saira's book. Watch the powerful documentary. You’ll see white privilege with a crystal clarity that can’t leave you anything other than changed. And consider sharing these resources with people you know so that they, too, can meet this reality face-to-face. The conversations that come next are where the work – and meaningful change – begin.
    Interested in gathering thoughtful women around the table for candid conversation? Find out more about how to book with Race2Dinner – and learn about the organization’s other programming – by clicking on this link.
    If you enjoyed this conversation and would like to listen to previous episodes, there are many great episodes available at this link. And please click here if you’d like to subscribe to our newsletter and join the conversation!
    FURTHER INFO/RELEVANT LINKS:
    More about Regina and Saira’s recent appearance on Dr. Phil. (https://www.drphil.com/shows/deconstructing-karen/) "White Women: Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better Paperback," by Regina Jackson and Saira Rao.( https://www.amazon.com/White-Women-Everything-Already-Racism/dp/0143136437) Find out more about Deconstructing Karen (available on Vimeo and iTunes). (https://itunes.apple.com/us/movie/deconstructing-karen/id1654085496?ls=1) A link for "Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents," by Isabelle Wilkerson FOLLOW OUR SAIRA:
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    • 55 min
    Inclusion in Adoption with Patrick Armstrong

    Inclusion in Adoption with Patrick Armstrong

    Understanding Adoption and Its Effects on Adoptees with Patrick Armstrong
    Patrick is an intercountry, transracial, Korean American adoptee. He was born in Korea and then adopted by a white family in the United States. Patrick had all he wanted while growing up, but it felt like something was missing.
    For the first 30 years of Patrick's life, he lived in a state of rejection of his Asian and Korean identities and worthiness. He was fighting to fit in. At 30, he had the wake-up call that got him in a state of reclamation.
    In this episode, Patrick shares his experience as an adoptee, how it affected him and how he is dealing with it today. Also, Patrick shares how he has been on a journey to find his first family.
    Key Talking Points of the Episode:
    What does "Born on Third" mean to Patrick? What base does Patrick think he was born on? How Patrick handled rejection Was Jackie Chan an inappropriate representation of Korean culture? Patrick's attempt to fit in as a white  Positive and negative experiences with adoption. Same-race adoption Finding your family and their history How Patrick learned the Korean culture Advice to white parents looking to adopt a child Inclusion in adoption Mirror moments The gaslighting of adoptees as adults Patrick's thoughts on adoption as a whole Quotes from the Episode:
    "We want to be part of this culture and fit into this community. But at the end of the day, if it comes at the expense of who we are, we're never going to fit in."
    "I think for many people adoption, like that connection to culture ends once you've been adopted."
    "There is a one in a billion chance that I’ll ever get answers to why was I adopted, why was I given up"
    "…separated from your family, separated from your country of origin…It’s tough"
    Connect with Patrick Armstrong: 
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/patrickintheworld/ 
    Website: https://www.patrickintheworld.me/ 
     LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickarmstrong219/ 
     

    • 1 hr 7 min
    The Colorful Image of God with Katherine Martin

    The Colorful Image of God with Katherine Martin

    In this episode, Katherine Martin, author of the book The Colorful Image of God, joins me to talk about social injustice and how she challenges White Christians with the disconnect between their belief in “imago Dei” and the injustices that Black people, and other People of Color, face today. Katherine shares her thoughts on being born on the 3rd, how her father’s death changed her life, her inspiration to write her book, white culture and Christianity and how we can use white privilege differently. 
    Key Talking Points of the Episode:
    [05:27] How the death of Katherine’s father affected her
    [17:36] What inspired Katherine to write the book
    [27:22] Was Jesus white?
    [32:47] The Bible is not black and white. It is gray
    [39:23] Understanding white culture
    [51:39] How to use privilege in a different way
    [01:02:03] What’s wrong with the culture of white privilege?
    Quotes from the Episode:
    “The Bible is a reflection of the hands that hold it.”
    “People don’t believe what you say unless you prove it.”
    “Whiteness is the norm or likes the dominant culture, and then everything else is different. And compared against whiteness.”
    “We do the best we can until we know better. And once we know better, we do better.”
    “If we want all people to be able to live their best and fullest lives, and then there are things that we can do to help create more access and opportunity every day in our choices for that to be true.”
    Resources Mentioned in the Episode:
    https://katherinelearns.com/
    https://katherinelearns.com/book/
    https://a.co/d/15yNl96
     

    • 1 hr 3 min
    Know Your Worth with Monique Kelley

    Know Your Worth with Monique Kelley

    How would you feel if someone discriminated in public and no one came to your rescue? Would you have the courage to stand up for yourself?
    In this episode of Born on 3rd podcast, I have the privilege of hosting the amazing Monique Kelley. She recently became an associate professor at Boston University's College of Communication. She's the faculty advisor for the university's award-winning Public Relations Student Society of America chapter. She's also an entrepreneur, the founder of Monique Kelley Consulting, and a founding member of the Women's executive organization called chief.
    Monique grew up in New Jersey with her Iranian mom and Black dad from Trenton. Growing up, Monique had room to be independent and autonomous. Monique is a strong believer that you are what you tell yourself. Growing up, she challenged herself to do many things, especially in sports, even when she knew it wasn't her stronghold.
    In this episode, we dig deeper into understanding how we can have intentional diversity and inclusion.
    Key Takeaways from the Episode:
    Inaction is inexcusable: If you see or hear something racist, sexist, homophobic, or offensive, you must act. Being silent by the standard is signaling your approval. Putting fancy inclusive words up on a sign or painting them on the wall in an office to put them in an employee handbook does not make an organization inclusive. Take time to learn about other people's cultures. It will help you understand them better. Quotes from the Episode:
    "I'm a strong believer in you are what you tell your mind."- Monique Kelley
    "Belonging is accepting people for who they are."- Tim
    "Stop focusing so much on what you don't have and focus on what you do have and how you can add value."- Monique
    "Any negative energy or negative experience that I have, I'd like just to flip it on its head and use it as fuel."- Monique
    Connect with Monique Kelley:
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/moniquekelleygigliotti/ 
     

    • 1 hr 5 min
    A Mother Knows with Coleen Galvin Yaroshenko

    A Mother Knows with Coleen Galvin Yaroshenko

    Welcome back to another installment of Born On Third, this week on the show I welcome Coleen Galvin Yaroshenko to discuss her journey from growing up in the dugout to winning the whole game. Coleen was raised by two abusive parents with mental deficiencies and addiction. Though her childhood was rough, the lessons learned from that experience were even greater. She used her life-tools to raise two happy children, one of which is transgender. Coleen is a true example of resilience, grit, and wisdom.
     
    Key Takeaways:
    Coming to terms of an abusive/hard past is the first step to moving forward with life People in the LGBT community are 4x more likely to commit suicide than their cis peers. Suicide is the second leading cause of death in ages 10-24. You are born with the toolbox your parents passed down to you; whether those tools are broken or not it is your responsibility to heal from trauma Episode Highlights:
    [00:52] Introduction to Coleen Galvin Yaroshenko
    [03:03] What base were you born on?
    [07:32] Born with your parent’s toolbox
    [13:11] Starting the healing process
    [17:50] Finding the perfect balance when raising children
    [22:35] Changes in the family
    [32:00] Naming your child again
    [37:08] Loving a child that is trans
    [47:00] Educate yourself about the LGBT community
    [51:13] Fighting to change policies
    [53:12] What base are you on now?
    [55:00] Outro
     
    The Trevor Project
    Books:
    Trans Mission - Alex Bertie 
    Love Lives Here: Amanda Jette Knox
    Not Just a Tom Boy -Casper J. Baldwin
    The Trans-Gender Issue : An Argument for Justice -Shon Faye
    Trans Like Me/ CN Lester
    Tranny: confessions of Punk Rock’s most infamous anarchistic sellout- Laura Jane Grace
     

    • 58 min
    Support Art with Matt Driscoll

    Support Art with Matt Driscoll

    In this episode of Born on 3rd, I welcome Matt Driscoll, an award-winning tattoo artist, entrepreneur, and Co-Owner of 9th Realm Tattoo and Art Gallery in Salem, MA. Listen in as Matt and I talk about how he’s bringing light into the world through the art of tattooing along with his candid thoughts on how society views people with tattoos.
    We discuss how Matt’s upbringing in Southern California has impacted his art, why he moved out to the East Coast, and how the culture differs from SoCal culture. He speaks on why he got into art and his path to becoming a tattoo artist and shop owner. Matt highlights his relationship with money, wealth, and success, how his parents’ absence affected his life, and his challenging experience raising his little sister.
    Then, he reflects on the increasing acceptance of tattoos in America juxtaposed with the ever-present discrimination of people based on their skin color.
    “Even if my subject matter is dark, I want to bring some light into this world, so everything I do is like bright-colored. I just always try to put emotion in things, man, I love it. I want to make someone feel something by looking at an image.” – Matt Driscoll
    Remember to support your local artists!
    Connect with Matt Driscoll:
    Check out Matt’s art on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raptorlazer
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    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
21 Ratings

21 Ratings

DFatu ,

Important, incredible conversations

Long overdue review as I’ve been listening to Born On 3rd since the beginning.

Tim is doing important and necessary work having conversations about polarizing topics that are dividing our society. The guests who share their time and stories are all extremely open and honest and provide an incredible perspective on topics everyone should care about: privilege, race, sexuality, poverty, adversity, institutional bias, and more.

I come away from every episode having learned something, or being given a chance to reflect inwardly on my own privilege and how to put it to use to try and help others.

Born in 3rd is exceptional, every human should listen.

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