Dadvengers #33 - Aaron Dale Dadvengers Podcast
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- Kids & Family
Aaron Dale is an author and the social media content creator behind @raisingboys_2men. A single father raising his two sons, he has helped thousands of parents to think about putting their children first in co-parenting situations.
In this episode, Aaron talks about growing up surrounded by strong female role models, having an absent father, and how this experience showed him how not to be a dad!
Although he doesn’t live with his children full time, Aaron is a hands on dad to his two sons, who he co-parents with their mum’s. This has given him a wealth of experience that make this episode very insightful to parents from all backgrounds.
We also delve into mental health and how Aaron sought the support of a therapist, which he believes is something that can help many people parents or not.
A huge thanks to Aaron for joining us and sharing his experiences. 💙
Time Codes
3:44 – “He came to see me when I was 9… he said he was going to make more effort. I don’t think I saw him after that until I was 16." - Aaron on his relationship with his dad as a child.
6:12 – “Expecting him to come at 6 and he doesn’t show up until 10, that messed with me more than expecting him not be there at all." - Aaron tells us the impact of having an unreliable parent.
8:00 – “My mum got a partner… I’ve got a representation of a man living with me and he turned out to be abusive. A terrible example of a man.” - Aaron on experiencing more negative male role models throughout his childhood.
11:12 – “If a platform like mine was around when I was growing up, maybe one of the messages would have got through to my dad… that drives me to continue." - Why Aaron runs Raising Boys 2 Men.
12:13 – “I wasn’t shown to how to be a dad, but I knew how to not be a dad." - Aaron on becoming a parent, and how he coped with that change.
19:50 – “Co-parenting only means that the intimate relationship is no more. Your roles as parents have never changed." - What co-parenting means to Aaron.
23:24 – “Our love for the child needs to be stronger than the hate for the other parent."
26:13 – “It started as a virtual diary... I just want to share my story to help others. I am speaking my truth and it is the journey I have been through." - How Aaron started his platform and his ethos in running it,
30:30 – “I am the type of man that will go and go until I explode... so I found a therapist and it was the best thing I could have done." - Why Aaron sought therapy and why he recommends everyone do it.
35:26 – “There is so much noise… everyone has an opinion. Sometimes we have to mute it and think what is best for me"
37:21 – “As adults we have the cheat codes to life, that we can give to our kids to help them… it is so important that we give those codes to our children." - Aaron on how he is raising his children.
41:37 – "My son has me and his step-dad. I would never stop another man giving that love to my son and his mum." - Why step parents can be great additions to our children's lives.
50:10 – Aaron’s dad superpower.
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Aaron Dale is an author and the social media content creator behind @raisingboys_2men. A single father raising his two sons, he has helped thousands of parents to think about putting their children first in co-parenting situations.
In this episode, Aaron talks about growing up surrounded by strong female role models, having an absent father, and how this experience showed him how not to be a dad!
Although he doesn’t live with his children full time, Aaron is a hands on dad to his two sons, who he co-parents with their mum’s. This has given him a wealth of experience that make this episode very insightful to parents from all backgrounds.
We also delve into mental health and how Aaron sought the support of a therapist, which he believes is something that can help many people parents or not.
A huge thanks to Aaron for joining us and sharing his experiences. 💙
Time Codes
3:44 – “He came to see me when I was 9… he said he was going to make more effort. I don’t think I saw him after that until I was 16." - Aaron on his relationship with his dad as a child.
6:12 – “Expecting him to come at 6 and he doesn’t show up until 10, that messed with me more than expecting him not be there at all." - Aaron tells us the impact of having an unreliable parent.
8:00 – “My mum got a partner… I’ve got a representation of a man living with me and he turned out to be abusive. A terrible example of a man.” - Aaron on experiencing more negative male role models throughout his childhood.
11:12 – “If a platform like mine was around when I was growing up, maybe one of the messages would have got through to my dad… that drives me to continue." - Why Aaron runs Raising Boys 2 Men.
12:13 – “I wasn’t shown to how to be a dad, but I knew how to not be a dad." - Aaron on becoming a parent, and how he coped with that change.
19:50 – “Co-parenting only means that the intimate relationship is no more. Your roles as parents have never changed." - What co-parenting means to Aaron.
23:24 – “Our love for the child needs to be stronger than the hate for the other parent."
26:13 – “It started as a virtual diary... I just want to share my story to help others. I am speaking my truth and it is the journey I have been through." - How Aaron started his platform and his ethos in running it,
30:30 – “I am the type of man that will go and go until I explode... so I found a therapist and it was the best thing I could have done." - Why Aaron sought therapy and why he recommends everyone do it.
35:26 – “There is so much noise… everyone has an opinion. Sometimes we have to mute it and think what is best for me"
37:21 – “As adults we have the cheat codes to life, that we can give to our kids to help them… it is so important that we give those codes to our children." - Aaron on how he is raising his children.
41:37 – "My son has me and his step-dad. I would never stop another man giving that love to my son and his mum." - Why step parents can be great additions to our children's lives.
50:10 – Aaron’s dad superpower.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
50 min