36 min

E202 - HSP/SPS & CPTSD: The Cycle of Toxic Shame & Guilt (and how to Break it‪)‬ UNDERSTANDABLE

    • Mental Health

Can you guess how much % of people with complex trauma symptoms experience this cycle of toxic shame and guilt?

100 % of them. BUT many of them have no clue that they have a shame based identity.

Therefore, in today’s episode 


You will experience the difference between shame and guilt


Will understand the shocking link between shame and complex trauma as a sensitive person

Will discover how guilt nurtures our shame within our relationships



And in the end I will show you at which position you can finally break the cycle to free yourself from toxic shame.

I was honestly really surprised when I found out how much shame there is in trauma and where to actually break the cycle.






► Links and Resources:

Tim Fletcher's Circle of Shame: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=5P9juq4DH9GuhDaq  

► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! 

YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠Google Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy9kYzYwNTY2Yy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw⁠Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ 



► Episode Timestamps:

0:00 Overview

1:40 Shame - A Hidden Topic & Sensation

3:12 What is Shame?

5:33 What is Guilt?

6:38 Shame vs. Guilt

7:28 Why are Toxic Shame & Guilt Crucial to us?

10:39 How Does Toxic Shame Feel Like?

13:43 The Origin of Toxic Shame

15:23 The Second Source of Shame

16:33 How Shame Manifests Through Our Lives

19:50 The Cycle of Toxic Shame and Guilt

26:46 The Circle of Shame by Tim Fletcher

28:50 How to NOT Heal from Shame

30:19 Where to Break the Cycle of Shame & Guilt?

33:40 The Cycle of an Authentic Self

35:40 Final Thoughts

► Reach Out To Me :)

E-Mail: info@understandable-podcast.com

► Book List *Ad-Links

- The Highly Sensitive Person - Elaine N. Aron: https://amzn.to/3OQEmhT

► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. 

Can you guess how much % of people with complex trauma symptoms experience this cycle of toxic shame and guilt?

100 % of them. BUT many of them have no clue that they have a shame based identity.

Therefore, in today’s episode 


You will experience the difference between shame and guilt


Will understand the shocking link between shame and complex trauma as a sensitive person

Will discover how guilt nurtures our shame within our relationships



And in the end I will show you at which position you can finally break the cycle to free yourself from toxic shame.

I was honestly really surprised when I found out how much shame there is in trauma and where to actually break the cycle.






► Links and Resources:

Tim Fletcher's Circle of Shame: https://youtu.be/IOQTfqUdypc?si=5P9juq4DH9GuhDaq  

► Subscribe On Your Favorite Platform! 

YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGiJdF0yeTyRJanW_uSICDw?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/2gaheQLxBwByM9txVzlpI6⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/understandable/id1399616905⁠Google Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy9kYzYwNTY2Yy9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw⁠Amazon Music: ⁠https://music.amazon.de/podcasts/ee3580cb-61c5-4aa1-9ad4-1204014078e7/understandable⁠ 



► Episode Timestamps:

0:00 Overview

1:40 Shame - A Hidden Topic & Sensation

3:12 What is Shame?

5:33 What is Guilt?

6:38 Shame vs. Guilt

7:28 Why are Toxic Shame & Guilt Crucial to us?

10:39 How Does Toxic Shame Feel Like?

13:43 The Origin of Toxic Shame

15:23 The Second Source of Shame

16:33 How Shame Manifests Through Our Lives

19:50 The Cycle of Toxic Shame and Guilt

26:46 The Circle of Shame by Tim Fletcher

28:50 How to NOT Heal from Shame

30:19 Where to Break the Cycle of Shame & Guilt?

33:40 The Cycle of an Authentic Self

35:40 Final Thoughts

► Reach Out To Me :)

E-Mail: info@understandable-podcast.com

► Book List *Ad-Links

- The Highly Sensitive Person - Elaine N. Aron: https://amzn.to/3OQEmhT

► About: Insight through understanding yourself: Our mission is to make topics regarding your personality understandable and relatable. We aim to help you to gain insight into your true personality to feel more inner peace and love.

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education. See the content as a starting point for self-advocating. 

36 min