Crazy Cool Family Don and Suzanne Manning

Today's Topic = Do’s and Don’ts of House Cleaning Systems
We got a great question from a Crazy Cool Parent recently and we decided to make it a podcast! Here is what he asked, 

"What is your advice about chores & rewards/allowance? We have 6 kids (ages 2-9) and we're really struggling with getting a workable chore plan.....Would love any resources you have on this!" -Crazy Cool Parent
Here is what we cover in today's episode:


Kids attitude is work/chores are not fun. “I don’t want to do it.” 
Work is necessary. How do we get our kids to believe/live out this idea?
What chore plans used in the past? Favorite one? Least fav? 
How did you get your kids to care about if the house was clean? 
How did you get them to clean up after themselves? 
Building Culture amidst the mess

If you are looking for better systems in your home when it comes to. cleaning. chores, and better habits, this podcast is for you! Suz and Macy share ideas, mindsets, and practical systems you can try TODAY! Listen and share with a friend! 

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“Play is their language; toy is their words.” - Kenzie 
Our 4th daughter, McKenzie joins the podcast today and PARENTS- YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS THIS EPISODE. There are so many valuable tools, mindsets, and words of wisdom shared by Kenzie. She is passionate about giving kids language and helping parents strengthen family relationships.  

“If you play with them when they are little, they will feel safe when they are older.” - Suz 
Topics:


How playing draws out a child 
Counselor's role in play therapy 
Allowing space for the work to unfold  
How to know if counseling is needed 
Identifying emotions and helping kids have language skills 
Other, parent included therapy options 
Being a present parent during the counseling season  

Questions to ask counselor:


Any personal “need to know” about counselor
Resources you can have to help child post session
What does confidentiality look like?
Knowing more about the process  
Asking to see the playroom  
How to honor the process post session  

Resources:


Raising Emotionally Strong Boys  
The Whole Brainchild  
Deeray (Author) has lots of helpful books  

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How do we talk about special needs within families?  
Humbly and with kindness. This topic can be sensitive and a lot of people do not know how to approach it. We invited Katie and Steve Keene onto today’s episode because they carry wisdom, experience, and passion for families who have special needs kids.  

Keene’s first son created a life they didn’t expect and brought special needs into their family. They’ve been married 23 years and have 5 children. They love all their kids and admit to the hardships their family faces due to special needs. BUT they have not let it discourage them - instead they are investing in family and helping other families do the same! They feel called outward to help families who were also struggling. They started a membership site and podcast as an avenue to help families have community.  

Steve and Katie Keene join us to talk about a unique and often sensitive topic within the family. They have experience with special needs children and have a passion for families with special needs children. Katie shares about the definition of special needs and how we are sensitive to it. There are so many needs impacting families daily. Steve dives deep into the power of asking, listening, and being willing to serve families such as theirs. Everything they say is insightful and practical!

Here are things talks about in this episode:

How special needs impacts family  
Parenting kids with high needs 
The value of community amidst raising kids with challenges  

How can you help families with kids who have special needs?

Ask AND keep asking!  
Truly listen to their needs and help them!  
Offer to help them in their homes 
Be transparent, don’t try to equate it to your life problems 
Don’t talk about yourself, listen to them – go further! 
Keep inviting them to events, even if you know they can’t come 

Katie and Steve have lots of ways they help families with special needs children. They value community and desire for every family to feel loved, known, and equipped to love their child, no matter what challenges they face. Check out their link below to learn how you can help or be helped in this area of family. 

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Do you want respect from your kids?
We valued this in our home, but what did it look like? Does respect equate to obedience? Talking in the correct tone and verbiage? If you want your kids to “Respect” you, there are a few things you need to consider investing in. In today’s episode we are going to discuss the battle for respect within a home. It looks different for every child at every age.  

If respect is a constant battle in your home, then this episode is for you! Let’s jump in!  

Things to unpack: 

What is your definition of respect?


How did this play out in your home when you had small kids?

Get on their eye level and use your words to direct them.
Show them respect when changing activities, treat them older than they are- like people not like lesser than. 


Middle aged?

Give them more responsibilities and opportunities to be given respect 


And now older kids?

As a parent you are building respect in the younger years for this season! Now is the time to talk with respect to your child.
Use questions, conversation, mistakes to grow respect.




What is at the heart of respect?

To like and value someone .




What is it about for the small, middle-aged, and older kid?

How do we find the root issue? (these are good but we did not address this... remember for another time) 




How did you correct your kids when they “disrespected” you?

Point it out- call it disrespect, and above all else be an example of respecting them first!



Verses: 

Proverbs 23:22 - Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old. 
Proverbs 1:8-9 - Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. (9) They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck. 
Exodus 20:12 - Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you. 

Conclusion:
What are 1-2 ways parents can cultivate mutual respectfulness in their homes? What do they do if they feel like it’s hopeless and their kids can’t unlearn their behaviors? 


Clear the slate: Ask for forgiveness 
Pay attention to your tone & facial expressions 
Have a conversation to define respect and the desire for it in your relationships 

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Rod Handley joins the podcast to talk about character, integrity, and accountability. 
He has been in FCA ministry for many years and has devoted his life to the Kingdom. He has had many decades of faithful service and we can learn a lot from his faith and wisdom. 

The word of the day is accountability. Rob talks about it in depth. Through his own journey with purity, he shares the supernatural power of God and how He uses accountability to bring believers together and pursue righteousness. 

Here is what we discuss in today's episode:

Definition of BIBLICAL accountability.
How/Why God made Rob passionate about accountability.
Practical ways to live in accountability.
How accountability can change the trajectory of your life.
The power of saying YES instead of "stop it." 
How to teach accountability to your children.

At the end of the day, scripture is clear that we cannot do this life on our own. We are not designed to live alone and remain holy. We need the personal relationship with God AND the accountability with people. Rob is passionate about accountability because he has seen the fruit in his life. 

Practical Tips fro


Lead with your lamp
Don't freak out
Hear and process what we hear from our kids to bring freedom

How can you live in accountability today?
Check out Rob's resources if you want to go deeper with this topic for you and for your family. 

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Do you feel like you have differences in discipline? How do you handle a disengaged spouse in a family?
Don and Suz talk about the HOT topic of different parenting styles. If you are feeling alone in parenting or on a different team than your spouse - then this podcast is for you! 

Things we talk about in this episode:


Building your parenting foundation together 
How to be a team in parenting decisions 
Focusing on values not methods (explanation is POWERFUL!)
Learning from our mistakes and avoid disunity in your parenting 

There are so many ways we can feel alone or on different pages when it comes to parenting with our spouse. We want you to learn from our mistakes. We share things in this podcast that will help you rethink parenting, being a supportive teammate, and discipling our kids in a way that builds relationships. 

We also speak specifically to the spouse who is carrying the relational load, and their spouse is checked out. If you can relate to this, listen to the podcast and really tune into the last 10-15 minutes - they are recorded for you. You are not alone and there is a lot of good truth in this episode to inspire and challenge you. 

Take in the truth today and share it with a friend who needs help in this area of parenting. 
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