Ep - 59 Chemistry Isn’t Real Operation: Thriving Marriage

Welcome to Episode 59 of the Operation: Thriving Marriage podcast - "Chemistry Isn’t Real." No, we're not diving into conspiracy theories, but rather debunking the myth of instant chemistry in relationships.
In this episode, we explore how our notions of love have been shaped by fairy tales and romantic comedies, highlighting that love at first sight is merely lust. Thriving marriages aren't built on fleeting emotions or meet-cutes; chasing chemistry leads to short-term relationships and emotional struggles.
Compatibility, not chemistry, should be your focus. Compatibility is something you build not something that magically happens or a trait that exists when you meet. Compatibility involves shared values, mutual growth, and a symbiotic relationship that evolves over time through intentional efforts.
Learn how to build compatibility by prioritizing your spouse's needs, recognizing it as a gradual process, and reflecting on the positive changes in your relationship. Passion has its place, but it doesn't replace compatibility.
To dating couples: Take time to build compatibility with someone you envision a future with. Ask crucial questions about liking who you are becoming together and mutual sacrifice.
In conclusion, this episode reaffirms that compatibility, not chemistry, forms the bedrock of a thriving marriage. It's a journey built over time, focusing on each other's needs, and envisioning a future that surpasses the present. Tune in for practical insights on fostering lasting love.