1 hr 10 min
Ep 7 | Not Everyone Needs to Be a Mother The Adults Aren't Alright
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- Personal Journals
More and more Millennial women are opting to either delay becoming mothers or choosing not to have children altogether. Why? Sabrina Osborn is back and we dig into just that in this episode.
We also confront the deeply-rooted societal belief that a woman “isn’t successful” or “doesn’t know real love” until she’s a mom- a trash take that we take where it belongs: to the dumpster.
In this episode:
Choosing to be childless today
The things we have heard (or people have said!) to us re: the choice not to have children
Why more and more women (and couples in general) are choosing to remain childless
The gender pay gap and how it relates to women having children
Note for the moms out there: we support you! Your decision to have children in whatever form that takes and how you feel about your role as a mom is valid and important.
Timestamps:
4:00 Societal idea that you are not successful or complete unless you become a mother and where that comes from
9:35 Completely inappropriate/misguided things people have said to us when they learn we don’t want to be moms
24:55 The argument that it's actually selfish to have kids you don’t really want than it is to choose to remain childless
27:55 Statistics time: why women are delaying having kids, the enormous cost of raising a child, and the link between children and a woman's earning power in the workplace
36:42 Subscribing to the accepted life plan of having kids and then discovering I actually didn't want them
40:05 Brina briefly catching baby fever
49:15 If motherhood is the "best" thing a woman can do, why aren’t we unconditionally supportive of ALL single moms? Especially single moms of color and women in lower socioeconomic classes?
55:00 The media + entertainment we consume is a huge part of our (and society's) programming
1:00:05 Holding space for women who want to become mothers and cannot (infertility, etc) and are judged as “selfish”
Follow Sabrina:
IG: @sabrinaO0318
Twitter: @SabrinaO0318
Show notes + links:
Older millennials have lived through 2 economic crises—and it’s affecting their decisions around having kids
Millennials Were Already Putting Off Having Children. Then the Pandemic Hit.
How To Respond To People Who Shame You For Not Wanting Kids
Follow The Adults Podcast + Ashley:
IG: @theadultspodcast | @ashrockchalk
Twitter: @ashley_white
theadultspodcast.com | lestylorouge.com
*This episode was recorded in 2021
More and more Millennial women are opting to either delay becoming mothers or choosing not to have children altogether. Why? Sabrina Osborn is back and we dig into just that in this episode.
We also confront the deeply-rooted societal belief that a woman “isn’t successful” or “doesn’t know real love” until she’s a mom- a trash take that we take where it belongs: to the dumpster.
In this episode:
Choosing to be childless today
The things we have heard (or people have said!) to us re: the choice not to have children
Why more and more women (and couples in general) are choosing to remain childless
The gender pay gap and how it relates to women having children
Note for the moms out there: we support you! Your decision to have children in whatever form that takes and how you feel about your role as a mom is valid and important.
Timestamps:
4:00 Societal idea that you are not successful or complete unless you become a mother and where that comes from
9:35 Completely inappropriate/misguided things people have said to us when they learn we don’t want to be moms
24:55 The argument that it's actually selfish to have kids you don’t really want than it is to choose to remain childless
27:55 Statistics time: why women are delaying having kids, the enormous cost of raising a child, and the link between children and a woman's earning power in the workplace
36:42 Subscribing to the accepted life plan of having kids and then discovering I actually didn't want them
40:05 Brina briefly catching baby fever
49:15 If motherhood is the "best" thing a woman can do, why aren’t we unconditionally supportive of ALL single moms? Especially single moms of color and women in lower socioeconomic classes?
55:00 The media + entertainment we consume is a huge part of our (and society's) programming
1:00:05 Holding space for women who want to become mothers and cannot (infertility, etc) and are judged as “selfish”
Follow Sabrina:
IG: @sabrinaO0318
Twitter: @SabrinaO0318
Show notes + links:
Older millennials have lived through 2 economic crises—and it’s affecting their decisions around having kids
Millennials Were Already Putting Off Having Children. Then the Pandemic Hit.
How To Respond To People Who Shame You For Not Wanting Kids
Follow The Adults Podcast + Ashley:
IG: @theadultspodcast | @ashrockchalk
Twitter: @ashley_white
theadultspodcast.com | lestylorouge.com
*This episode was recorded in 2021
1 hr 10 min