55 episodes

Figure Out Your Life explores the experiences of a Black Woman Phd on a journey for the answers to life’s problems. Join Toya T weekly to learn tips and strategies for dealing with life situations, from navigating microaggressions in the workplace to shooting your shot in the DMs. If you’re looking for unfiltered advice, or a good story, Toya T is there for you.

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Figure Out Your Life explores the experiences of a Black Woman Phd on a journey for the answers to life’s problems. Join Toya T weekly to learn tips and strategies for dealing with life situations, from navigating microaggressions in the workplace to shooting your shot in the DMs. If you’re looking for unfiltered advice, or a good story, Toya T is there for you.

    Figuring Out How To Deal With Burnout

    Figuring Out How To Deal With Burnout

    Sick and tired? Need a break? In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I discuss workplace burnout and emotional exhaustion and share 6 ways to deal with this psychological syndrome. 
     
    Links mentioned in this episode:
    Burnout harms workers’ physical health through many pathways  Overloaded | Beyond Burnout  Workplace burnout is real and here’s how to cope Emotional exhaustion: what it is and how to treat it  8 black therapists on their best advice for coping right now 7 Virtual Mental Health Resources Supporting Black People Right Now Filling our Cups: 4 Ways People of Color can Foster Mental Health and Practice Restorative Healing How to Refuel When You’re Feeling Emotionally Drained How I Learned to Stop Glorifying the Hustle and Start Living Intentionally Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter  
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    Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject. 
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    Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions! 
    Contact with Toya T on social media:
    Website: www.figureoutyourlifeblog.com
    Instagram: @figureoutyourlifepod
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/figureoutyourlifepod
    Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

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    • 41 min
    Figuring Out Lessons From My 20s

    Figuring Out Lessons From My 20s

    In this episode of Figure Out Your Life Podcast, I reflect on my 20s and share 10 lessons I learned from it. So much happened in that decade that has impacted my life now--especially how I think and approach life--and I thought it would be helpful to share what I learned from those experiences in my 20s with others. Hopefully, this will help twentysomethings avoid some of the hard lessons I had to learn, or inspire thirtysomethings and older to reflect back and figure out what they learned from their 20s. 
     
    Links mentioned in this episode:
    Toya T’s 30 Things Before 30 YouTube Playlist  Vela Negra Candles Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter  
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    Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject. 
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    Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions! 
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    Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

    • 48 min
    Figuring Out How to Fight Imposter Syndrome

    Figuring Out How to Fight Imposter Syndrome

    The term "imposter syndrome" was coined by psychologists Clance and Imes in 1978 to describe the persistent feeling that one’s achievements have come about through some sort of accident, luck, or deception and that at any minute other people might find out you're an “imposter.” People of Color are particularly vulnerable to this phenomenon due to experiences with racial discrimination, racial-gender stereotypes of intellectual inferiority, and underrepresentation in professional spaces. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss imposter syndrome and share five tips on how to fight it before it hinders your success. 
     
    Links mentioned in this episode:
    CCW’s Alumnae Author Series with Mary Pattillo CC'91 and moderator LaToya Tavernier CC'05 Imposter Syndrome Hits Harder When You’re Black Why Imposter Syndrome Is Worse for Women of Color The Effects of Imposter Syndrome How to mitigate the detrimental effects of imposter syndrome in the workplace 9 Ways to Deal With Imposter Syndrome Before It Hinders Your Success Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): 
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    Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject. 
    Social Media Info: 
    Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions! 
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    Instagram: @figureoutyourlifepod
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    Twitter: @LuvBeing_ToyaT

    • 39 min
    Figuring Out the Negative Effects of Being a “Strong Black Woman”

    Figuring Out the Negative Effects of Being a “Strong Black Woman”

    Many black women in America feel pressured to act like or be seen as “strong,” projecting themselves as self-sacrificing, emotionless, and unbreakable in their daily lives. However, the “strong black woman” identity can actually be harmful to black women. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with my friends Claire Gibson, an intellectual property attorney, and Courtenay Barton, a philanthropist, about being black women in America and explore how the “strong black woman” identity can negatively impact black women’s lives and well-being.  
     
    Links mentioned in this episode:
    The Misconception of the Strong Black Woman How the “Strong Black Woman” Identity Both Helps and Hurts Taraji P. Henson On Why She Denies The ‘Strong Black Woman’ Damages Us If You’ve Ever Called A Black Woman “Strong” or “Black Girl Magic,” You Need To Hear Taraji P. Henson’s Thoughts On It  Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter


    Where to find our guests:
    Claire Gibson
    Website: www.gibsonlaw.nyc 
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gibsonlawnyc/
     
    Courtenay Barton
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highheelsnbooks/



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    Have thoughts about the episode? Share on social media using #FigureOutYourLifePod and follow the podcast on Instagram. Email toyat@figureoutyourlifeblog.com with thoughts and questions! 
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    • 1 hr 22 min
    Figuring Out Dating and Sex (with the Flirty Savage)

    Figuring Out Dating and Sex (with the Flirty Savage)

    Dating can be complicated even during “normal” times. Add in masks, social distancing, and a highly contagious virus for which there is no cure or vaccine, and you get a bunch of people trying to figure out how to safely meet someone during a pandemic. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with the Flirty Savage, a Law of Attraction coach, about dating, relationships, and sex, and she shares tips for manifesting the relationship you’re looking for. 
     
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    Links mentioned in this episode:
    Flirty Savage  How to Date During a Pandemic The Only 8 Flirting Moves You’ll Ever Need Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter  
    Where to find the Flirty Savage:
    https://www.flirtysavage.com 
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFlirtySavage
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theflirtysavage/ 
    Flirty Savage Spirit: https://www.instagram.com/flirtysavagespirit/  
     
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    Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject. 
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    • 1 hr 8 min
    Figuring Out How to Cope with "Zoom Fatigue"

    Figuring Out How to Cope with "Zoom Fatigue"

    Have you been feeling emotionally drained or exhausted in a way that you hadn’t before back when life was “normal”? This type of mental and physical exertion are symptoms of “Zoom Fatigue.” With more and more people working from home, attending meetings, communicating with family and friends, and learning through video conferencing applications like Zoom, Skype, Google Meet, and Microsoft Teams, this fatigue is becoming a growing concern. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I discuss “Zoom Fatigue” and share 5 simple things you can do to prevent it.  
     
    Listen on iTunes, SoundCloud, Spotify, or Stitcher
    Links mentioned in this episode:
    'Zoom fatigue' is setting in: What it is and how to prevent it How to Combat Zoom Fatigue Here’s Why You’re Feeling Zoom Fatigue ‘Zoom fatigue’ is taxing the brain. Here's why that happens. Jeremy Bentham and the Panopticon Prison Sign Up For Figure Out Your Life Newsletter Click here to subscribe via RSS feed (non-iTunes feed): 
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    Looking for life advice? Send questions for the new “listener’s letter” segment that’s coming to the podcast. Once I get a critical mass of questions, I can add this segment to the show. Email toya@figureoutyourlifeblog.com and put hashtag #AskingToyaT in the subject. 
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    • 30 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
53 Ratings

53 Ratings

NenaZepeda ,

👏makes me feel good👏👏👏👏

Toya T does a terrific job in choosing a variety of hot topics! Sharing her own expertise or doing the research for us! My favorite part is ‘Help me figure this out?!’ This podcast has become a go to for cheering me up in these times of turmoil. Every week I’m looking forward to tuning in. Give us more !!!!!

"Chiilin With Joose" THE POD ,

I LOVE IT

New listener and I’m hooked. Started with the “aka’s” shes so much fun and has soo much energy. She has a way of explaining things and making you laugh at the same time. LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN TO THIS WONDERFUL PODCAST

_kellm ,

Inspirational AND entertaining!

Toya T is not only hilarious, but so inspirational and relatable! She speaks the truth and teaches you how to be your own cheerleader! Great podcast!

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