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Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction.

Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball" (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken.

I'm your host, Melissa Leger, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you're ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let's do this!

Find Melissa Leger at www.GumballLove.com
Instagram: @TheMelissaLeger
Email: Melissa@GumballLove.com
Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse

Gumball Love Podcast Melissa Leger

    • Relationships
    • 4.9 • 81 Ratings

Ever had a guy ghost you? He’s into you and suddenly he pulls away or cheats? Does he leave and come back into your life? This is a Gumball Guy. Gumball Love is attention addiction.

Attention is just like a Gumball, temporarily intense and sweet but soon the effect is gone. Guys addicted to the “Gumball" (any flavor of attention), get a high from the excitement, adoration and validation. During this cycle they appear to be falling in love. When the high is gone they pull away, ghost or cheat leaving you feeling confused, rejected and heartbroken.

I'm your host, Melissa Leger, professional relationship coach, creator of Gumball Love and the Back to You Academy. If you're ready to stop the cycle of toxic men, get through the break up once and for all, and finally get back to YOU, you are in the right place. This journey is about healing your heart, and you are encouraged to take the pace that is just right for you. In the process, you will build a foundation of confidence and strength that will make you unshakable, I promise. So get ready to level up your mindset and your lifestyle, as you awaken the seeds of greatness that are waiting to burst into full bloom. Let's do this!

Find Melissa Leger at www.GumballLove.com
Instagram: @TheMelissaLeger
Email: Melissa@GumballLove.com
Facebook group: Gumball Love VIP Clubhouse

    THE BLUE GUMBALL: Pity Me

    THE BLUE GUMBALL: Pity Me

    This episode is about the Blue Gumball, or as I like to call it, "Pity Me". This is the guy (or person, if it's one of your friends or family members), who is always complaining about everything and wants your constant sympathy and pity. You try and give them advice, but they never take action on anything. They just want to hear themselves complain.
    We all have our low moments where sometimes we just want to vent, and we just need a pep talk. But there is a difference between this, and the unhealthy attention addiction. 
    I break this down further in the episode, as well as how to spot when a guy wants a Blue Gumball, and when you are giving the Blue Gumball. I also offer suggestions about how to respond to the Blue Gumball, immediately shutting it down so you're not giving away your precious energy, love and nurturing to someone who will actually receive and appreciate it.
    If you think you're dealing with a Gumball Guy and feeling stuck, sad, confused, alone...PLEASE don't hesitate to book a call with me! I promise I'm not scary:) No situation is too messy...I love the mess! Check the links below to get in touch!
    Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group Other Suggested Episodes: The Red Gumball: Sex The Orange Gumball: Drama The Yellow Gumball: Entertain Me The Green Gumball: Compete with Her for Me

    • 27 min
    The Green Gumball: Compete with Her for Me

    The Green Gumball: Compete with Her for Me

    The Green Gumball: Green with Envy, Compete with Her for Me, is the guy who you'll be sitting with at your first or second date and he says, "I've gone on a few dates with this other girl, and I really thought she was it for me, but now that I've met you...I really like you too. I'm just not sure."
    Just imagine, how do you feel in that moment?
    You may feel the sudden urge to prove yourself worthy. Prove that YOU'RE the right choice, and start to compete with her. And that's exactly what gives him the high.
    Know that none of what he does is about you. It is HIS insecurity, and he's just manipulating you and trying to get a reaction so he can feel better about himself.
    In this episode, I give you all the red flags of a Green Gumball, how to respond when you're on a date with one or in a relationship with one, and how to stop going after these types of guys.
    Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group

    • 54 min
    THE YELLOW GUMBALL: ENTERTAIN ME

    THE YELLOW GUMBALL: ENTERTAIN ME

    Does it feel like you always have to be entertaining your guy, or he's bored?
    A while back I'd started a series assigning a different color or "flavor of attention" to each type of Gumball Guy.
    I've already done an episode on the Red Gumball, which is the guy who is all about sex, and the Orange Gumball, which is the guy who wants the intense drama. 
    In this episode, I talk about the Yellow Gumball, which is the guy who wants you to entertain him or put all your attention on him.
    He's that guy who is like a giant fussy baby...always too hot, too cold, the music is too loud or not loud enough, he's tired, he's bored at the party asking how much longer you have to stay. 
    He's looking on his phone rather than paying attention to anyone around him, if the attention isn't on him he's uninterested.
    We talk about: How to identify if he's a Red, Orange, or Yellow Gumball How to respond to the Yellow Gumball guy, especially if they're a family member and can't always be avoided Why we attract the Yellow Gumball Sneak peak of the rest of the upcoming colors  
    Other episodes mentioned: The Red Gumball: sex, porn, strip clubs, prostitutes, want a sexy picture, compliments on body, friends with benefits The Orange Gumball: drama. storms out. stonewalls, picks fights. punishes you when you don't do what he wants. calls you crazy. calls you names Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group

    • 43 min
    How to See Your Value When You Don't Feel Like Enough

    How to See Your Value When You Don't Feel Like Enough

    In this episode, I'm answering your questions!
    **Trigger warning: suicide is discussed in this episode**
    We've got scenarios like..
    After the fifth date, when things seemed to be going great and even the topic of marriage was touched upon, seemingly out of no where the guy says he doesn't think they're a good fit. Our girl wants to know, "What did I do wrong?" A woman is worried she isn't as established or successful in her career as the potential guy is Lastly, an ex boyfriend told a woman that she wasn't good in bed. Then, she saw a new guy for a bit, and the guy ghosted her, so she believes it's confirmed that she's not good in bed The answers to these questions lie in understanding our own unique value, as well as the importance of communication.
    Tune in to learn how to see your own value and worth, especially when you don't feel good enough, and how to see ghosting from a whole new perspective.
    Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group

    • 46 min
    Soni Pelty Left an Abusive Marriage, Discovered Herself, and Found Real Love

    Soni Pelty Left an Abusive Marriage, Discovered Herself, and Found Real Love

    If you are currently considering leaving your marriage, going through a divorce, or dating after divorce, you're gonna want to listen to this episode for some serious inspiration!
    Soni Pelty got married at age 19 through an arranged marriage, as is custom in her Indian heritage. 
    Things seemed fine the first couple months, until she discovered her husband's porn addiction.
    After 22 years of dealing with this addiction, physical and emotional abuse, and fighting, Soni finally got the strength to leave the marriage after some wise words from her then 15 year old son. 
    In her 40's and getting back into the dating game, Soni went on 300..yes, 300 dates!! With very clear intentions about what she wanted, until she finally found the man of her dreams and got remarried! 
    But it wasn't just about finding the man. The most important part for Soni was finding herself and realizing her worth. Now, she helps other women do the same as a relationship coach.
    Highlights of this episode: Soni explains the process of arranged marriage and what this experience was like for her at 19 years old How her marriage began to fall apart and what finally led her to divorce him Advice for women currently considering divorcing, or recently divorced How Soni began to discover herself and what she wants, and her journey going on 300 dates and finding the love of her life  
    Follow and Work with Soni https://www.limitlesslovewithsoni.com  Instagram: @sonipelty Limitless Love Podcast Join the Private Facebook Group Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group

    • 1 hr 12 min
    How to Elevate Your Life on a Budget

    How to Elevate Your Life on a Budget

    In this episode, learn how to elevate your life and boost your energy levels on a budget. We'll talk about how to bring hobbies, community, and people into your life like fitness trainers, personal chefs, personal assistants...and not break the bank. You'll learn how to focus on only the things that you do really well and that bring you joy, and outsource or systemize the rest.
    When things in our life are out of order, disorganized, not clean..and when we're out of shape or not keeping up with eating healthily, we start to feel bad about ourselves and it causes negative ripple effects in other areas of our life.
    We really need to get our priorities straight. So often I see women say they don't have enough to hire a fitness trainer but they're shopping in Amazon for their next pair of shoes. 
    In order to, to elevate your life, you have to actually commit to the idea of investing in yourself, and know that you are worth it. Know the value of you living a healthy life, where you'll have the energy to help even more people.
    We'll go over:
    How to hire a trainer on a budget How to get comfortable at the gym and actually  look forward to going Getting a better night sleep How to eat better, save time on shopping for groceries and meal prep and hire a personal chef How to hire the right person for you Life coaching on a budget Business assistance on a budget How to get out of your house more and get involved in the community How to preserve your energy when politics come up  
    Follow and Work with Melissa The Back to You Academy is officially closed, but you can still work with Melissa one-on-one! Click here to view services or reach out via email: melissa@gumballlove.com  Direct Message Melissa on Instagram, @themelissaleger Join the VIP Facebook group

    • 49 min

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Hooked!

I heard about this podcast a week ago and am hooked! I love all the advice and the variety of topics she covers. I have so much to catch up with. Keep it going, you have a fan here!

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Melissa has helped me so much over the last year and half. First I binged her older podcasts and totally related to what I was thinking/felt. I thought there was something wrong with me. She offered 30 minute complimentary session on a Saturday afternoon. I jumped on the opportunity to speak directly with her about what was going on in my life. That was one of the best decisions. I joined the back to you academy shortly after. Between the weekly podcasts, the weekly calls, and monthly one on one calls, Melissa changed my mindset. She helped me realize I am worthy and to not rush the process. I loved working with her and building friendships with Melissa and the other women in the group. I am grateful for all their support.

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Finally !!

Finally !! After years of going through relationship turmoil I have found my answer!!! Thank you so much for having the courage to get your message out in the world , your approach is easy to understand and relatable !!Love you to the moon and back !!!

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