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Are you looking for someone to share their deepest, darkest secrets on keeping their marriage spicy? Are you like, “puhhlease DISH on how to be a cool parent .. because, yeah ... I dunno!” Well Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner have got all you hubbies and wifeys - and mommies and daddies - covered, because each week they find a guest who will SPILL all their dirty secrets! Because we all wanna keep our marriages hot and our parenting cool!

Hot Marriage. Cool Parents. Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner

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Are you looking for someone to share their deepest, darkest secrets on keeping their marriage spicy? Are you like, “puhhlease DISH on how to be a cool parent .. because, yeah ... I dunno!” Well Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner have got all you hubbies and wifeys - and mommies and daddies - covered, because each week they find a guest who will SPILL all their dirty secrets! Because we all wanna keep our marriages hot and our parenting cool!

    Ep. 72 Jamie and Doug's Home Birth Story Quarantined

    Ep. 72 Jamie and Doug's Home Birth Story Quarantined

    Baby Hendrix is here!!! This episode is all about our home birth, and we get into ALL the details about what happened that day! He came SO fast!!! We’re recording from our bedroom on this episode because Jamie is still taking it easy, so you will hear baby Hendrix and Gracie some in the background! We’re definitely learning to adjust with 2 kiddos :)
     
     
    Show Notes:
     
    02:00 - Jamie shares that next week’s episode will be all about the 4th trimester - PSA it might get a little intimate!
    03:10 - Doug shares that even with all the crazy it was SUCH a great day!!!
    03:20 - Jamie shares that all the masks were sent out if you requested one!
    04:54 - Doug and Jamie share about Hendrix’s birth story.
    05:58 - Jamie shares that they thought for sure he would come early but he actually came 1 day AFTER her due date!
    07:34 - Jamie shares that she was ready for Baby Hendrix to come out because he was a big boy! 
    08:20 - Doug shares that before labor, he felt like they were totally prepared and that he felt in his gut everything would be great!
    09:20 - Doug commends Jamie for mentally preparing for this labor! He tells Jamie she is amazing :) Jamie shares what all she did to prepare for the labor.
    11:30 - Doug and Jamie shared that she was constantly thinking “I can endure anything for 1 minute!”
    12:03 - Jamie learned through Ina Gaskin’s book that positive affirmations are SO important. She also learned and kept in her mind the idea that any pain she was going through, Hendrix was also going through and she needed to stay strong and one with her son! 
    13:23 - Jamie shares that she doesn’t believe that you can have an orgasm after birth even though some women swear that you can!
    13:48 - Jamie shares that Doug had given her a back massager for Mother’s Day and she asked him to rub her feet while she used the back massager on her back. Doug thinks the joy of the massager and the footrub was what put her in labor!
    15:38 - Jamie shares that her biggest fear was that the baby would have shoulder dystocia (where the baby gets stuck inside) - this can be very dangerous even in the hospital!
    16:50 - By 10 am Jamie realized that the contractions were getting more intense and she was SO excited! She started timing the contractions at precisely 12:19 pm.
    18:17 - Zoe, our assistant, has been quarantining with Doug and Jamie and they both give her a big shoutout for all of her help that day!
    20:21 - Jamie shares that she did a Baby Mama dance on TikTok that she hasn’t shared yet!
    21:44 - Jamie shares that they also had 2 previous assistants (who are like sisters to her) come over to help that day, too!
    22:29 - Jamie shares how sorry she is to frans that she didn’t get to go livestream on Instagram for the birth. She really wished she could have and hopes that frans can understand and forgive her! She is so sad that she let some people down ;(
    27:23 - Jamie says a huge THANK YOU to those of you who said such kind words and were so supportive after she wasn’t able to go live on Instagram for the birth.
    28:30 - Doug shares that even though they didn’t get to go live, they did film everything for Couples Cam and for YouTube. Couples Cam starts on May 20! Not sure when the intimate details on YouTube will be up - stay tuned!
    33:07 - Jamie shares that one of the ways to ease her pain during labor was to squeeze combs and to squeeze Doug’s fingernail and thumb. She finally got in the tub and HIGHLY recommends using water during natural labor!
    35:07 - Jamie shares that the midwife made her get out of the tub because it was too hot and that was so hard to do! Jamie gets really vulnerable and shares that she has never felt like she needed Doug more than during this labor - she shares just how much she feels like their relationship grew and they bonded as a couple!
    37:38 - Jamie finally got back in the tub and it was go time! She f

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    Ep. 71 Married at First Sight S10 Bachelor Derek Sherman is BACK with a special Q&A Session; Things just got personal!

    Ep. 71 Married at First Sight S10 Bachelor Derek Sherman is BACK with a special Q&A Session; Things just got personal!

    America’s most eligible and favorite bachelor is BACK! Derek Sherman is on again to answer ALL of your questions! A lot of you wanted to know if he is single and ready to mingle...listen to find out! :)
     
    Before Derek comes on, Doug shares the *hopefully last* pregnancy update and raves about how absolutely incredible Jamie is as a mother, entrepreneur, wife, and so many things! He also shares how potty training Henley is going!
     
     
    Show Notes:
     
    00:36 - Doug shares they have 1 week (or less) left til baby Hayes will be here!
    01:43 - Doug says that he doesn’t think anyone has a stronger work ethic than Jamie!
    03:56 - Doug shares that he is extremely proud of his wife and her strength and positivity during this difficult time.
    08:22 - Doug shares that everyone who reached out to them about their home and birthing center birth stories made a huge difference to them and helped them see the positive side!
    09:36 - Henley has started potty-training! They’re trying the commando way - diaper on for naps and bedtime only! She’s doing so well! She loves doing her pee-pee dance!
    11:49 - Doug and Jamie are going to be on Couple’s Cam and their homebirth will be videoed!
    13:31 - Doug shares that the hardest part of this time is not being able to hug family! 
    21:41 - Welcome back, Derek!
    22:46 - What did Derek learn about himself through MAFS?
    24:09 - How was he so patient?
    25:08 - Boxers or briefs? 
    25:37 - What is his ideal girl?
    26:22 - Did you think that Katie was a B-I-T-C-H?
    27:46 - What did Derek think of Katie getting jealous of his college date?
    29:43 - Would Derek be interested in either Taylor or Mindy?
    30:30 - What did Derek think about the cast of his season? 
    32:14 - How does it make him feel knowing that he has so many people’s support and love through this?
    33:47 - Did Derek think he was ready for marriage?
    34:18 - What are the top 5 things on Derek’s bucket list?
    35:04 - Did Katie cheating on Derek affect his view of marriage?
    36:00 - Would he do MAFS again?
    37:03 - Doug gives props to Derek for how he has handled everything and for not letting his situation get him down.
    40:06 - Next week on the podcast...there might just be a baby Hayes! :) 
     
    Stay clean, wash your hands, wash your face, wash your butt, and ya! Don’t get sick! 
    Talk to you next week!
     
    Derek’s Instagram: @drockingsherm
     
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    Ep. 70 Married at First Sight s10 STAR Derek Sherman Brings the Fire! Real Talk on Staying Married, Getting a Divorce & Everything in Between

    Ep. 70 Married at First Sight s10 STAR Derek Sherman Brings the Fire! Real Talk on Staying Married, Getting a Divorce & Everything in Between

    We are so excited to welcome a GUY onto our podcast! It’s been a while! Welcome, Derek to Hot Marriage, Cool Parents! Derek was a cast member of Season 10 of MAFS. He’s a fan favorite, an avid dreamer, hopeless romantic, an all around awesome guy! He shares his experience on MAFS and what he is up to now!
     
    Oh, and he’s America’s most ELIGIBLE bachelor!
     
    Before Derek comes on, Doug tells everyone about their last minute plans for their home birth and his excitement! Doug shares their progress on finding a baby name and wait for it…..they are so excited for baby….HAYES! 
     
    Show Notes:
     
    04:15 - Doug shares that this episode is a two-part episode with Derek - the second part will be all of our fran’s questions!
    04:58 - Doug shares the baby name they have chosen - Hayes Douglas!
    06:00 - Doug shares a special connection they learned between the name Hendrix (his top choice for baby boy names) and their angel baby’s name Johnathan. 
    06:42 - Doug shares the funny story behind naming Henley - Jamie had no idea what Doug’s last name was the morning after they got married! 
    09:00 - Doug shares that over the weekend they had another visit with the midwife and she brought the tub over - they got to hear Hayes’s heartbeat too!
    17:36 - Jamie asks Derek what made him want to sign up for MAFS?
    18:48 - Derek shares how he broke the news that he was going to marry a stranger to his family!
    20:51 - Jamie asks Derek what his thoughts were when he saw Katie on their wedding day.
    21:49 - Doug asks Derek if he felt like experts followed what he was wanting in a spouse?
    23:05 - Jamie tells Derek that to viewers they seemed happy on the honeymoon - she asks Derek to walk listeners through what happened off camera?
    26:26 - Derek talks about a time during the honeymoon when Katie asked him to join her in the shower.
    26:50 - Doug asks if they consummated the marriage on the wedding night?
    28:03 - Jamie asks Derek to share what he thinks went wrong after the honeymoon?
    29:59 - Jamie asks Derek what it felt like to have Katie not appreciate his dreams.
    34:54 - Doug asks Derek if he still has a relationship with Katie’s father?
    36:23 - Jamie asks Derek if he ever felt like he could have fallen in love with Katie at some point?
    37:43 - Derek shares what kept him holding on all the way to the end - that things would change.
    40:00 - Derek shares what all happened during the reunion and previous conversations he had with Katie; especially one where they agreed he would not share about her affair. 
    42:52 - Derek shares that he finds out that she was having an affair not long after their honeymoon!
    44:02 - Doug asks Derek why they stayed together on decision day? They wanted to try it without the cameras.
    46:12 - Jamie asks Derek if Zach and Katie got drinks before or after he and Katie split up?
    47:00 - Doug asks Derek what it was like being witness to some of Brandon’s lashouts?
    48:30 - Derek shares what he is up to right now and he IS single, ladies! He also shares some of his bucketlist with us!
    52:50 - Doug gives props to Derek for giving their relationship every possible chance that he could!
    54:05 - Next week tune in for Derek’s Q&A Session!
     
    Stay safe, wash your hands, don’t cough, all that! :) Talk to you next week!
     
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    Ep. 69 Married At First Sights Fan Favorite Mindy Shiben Tells All! The Good, Bad, & Ugly of Getting Married At First Sight!

    Ep. 69 Married At First Sights Fan Favorite Mindy Shiben Tells All! The Good, Bad, & Ugly of Getting Married At First Sight!

    Put your hands up in the air and welcome MAFS Alum from Season 10, Mindy Shiben! She is here to chat ALL things MAFS and tell us what’s new!
     
    Mindy Shiben aka America’s Sweetheart joins us today. She is hands down one of the most caring, genuine, and mature cast members from MAFS. She’s a super talented figure skating coach and honestly an all around catch. 
     
    Before Mindy comes on, we share pregnancy updates (including getting tested for COVID-19!) and Jamie gets real about some struggles she is dealing with during this difficult time. Doug and Jamie also give a MAFS reunion recap. 
     
     
    DISCLAIMER....This interview was recorded in advance. Information on Covid-19 is changing by the day. That being said, if you have any questions or concerns please do your own research or consult cdc.gov.
     
    Show Notes:
     
    03:25 - Jamie is officially 37 weeks pregnant! YAY! Full term! 
    03:42 - Jamie shares about how she had to get tested for COVID-19.
    04:10 - Jamie shares that she had to consult doctors due to taking Prozac during pregnancy as the midwife was concerned that it could affect baby boy Hehner during labor.
    12:13 - Jamie shares that she is very overwhelmed with this pregnancy.
    12:48 - Doug shares that there are going to be some things during this pregnancy that are out of their control due to COVID-19. 
    14:07 - Doug shares that Jamie is superwoman to him :) Jamie feels bad that she is unable to currently help in the hospital.
    15:25 - Jamie asked her sister to make 50 masks - let us know if you are in need of one - jamie@jamieotis.com! We want to give them all away!
    16:20 - Doug shares that they have gotten all of the supplies they need for the homebirth!
    17:28 - Doug shares that he feels like at home there is going to be a large amount of relief doing the homebirth instead of the hospital birth.
    18:32 - Bombshell! Katie and Zach went out for drinks! 
    19:45 - Doug shares that he thinks Derek gave his all week after week, and its sad that he has a broken heart!
    20:31 - Doug shares that he believes that everyone who goes on MAFS will benefit in ways they didn’t know they would! It brings a brighter future!
    26:08 - Welcome, Mindy, to Hot Marriage Cool Parents!!!
    26:23 - What made Mindy want to be married at first sight?
    27:17 - How did Mindy break it to her parents that she was going to marry a stranger? And how have her parents handled it since then?
    29:28 - Doug asks Mindy what her thoughts were on her wedding day?
    31:39 - Mindy talks about when things changed with Zach.
    34:31 - Doug asks Mindy if she saw things in Zach that did line up with what she was wanting.
    35:15 - Did they have sex during the experiment?
    36:22 - What happened with Mindy’s previous best friend who then started talking to Zach in private?
    39:23 - Doug and Jamie commend Mindy for the way she handled herself maturely with everything that happened with Zach.
    40:00 - Jamie praises Mindy for being so strong during the reunion!
    41:25 - What were Mindy’s thoughts going into the reunion? Would she be willing to give Zach another chance?
    45:00 - What’s going on with Mindy now?
    46:38 - Mindy shares that she has been getting into virtual dating - kind of the opposite of MAFS! :)
    48:35 - Mindy shares that she had a phone call with Zach during recording that made her have some hope.
    49:21 - Mindy shares that she feels like she has gotten stronger from the experience and would do it again!
    54:26 - Derek is on the podcast next week!
     
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    Ep. 68 Bachelor's Bekah Martinez Choosing Unmedicated Birth and Chatting with Our Midwife

    Ep. 68 Bachelor's Bekah Martinez Choosing Unmedicated Birth and Chatting with Our Midwife

    Today we are super excited to welcome to our show the beautiful SUPER-Mom and Boss Babe, Bekah Martinez! 
     
    Bekah Martinez was on the Bachelor and after she was on the Bachelor, she started dating Gray and got pregnant within a couple months (their first couple dates!).  We are excited to talk to her about her birthing center birth story as well as her future plans for a home-birth with her current pregnancy!
     
    Before Bekah comes on, we share with you guys the initial phone call Doug and Jamie had with a home-birth midwife - who they have since hired! 
     
     
    DISCLAIMER....This interview was recorded in advance. Information on Covid-19 is changing by the day. That being said, if you have any questions or concerns please do your own research or consult cdc.gov.
     
    Show Notes:
     
    0:27 - Jamie shares that she was having contractions! Thankfully they stopped!
    1:15 - Doug shares that their midwife will not deliver before 37 weeks. Jamie thinks baby boy will be early.
    7:45 - Doug and Jamie have a big announcement! They are going to star on Couple’s Cam! This is a new show on Lifetime catching up with all the couples who are still together from Married at First Sight! They also share that they are going to be filming the birth of their baby boy!
    8:10 - Doug and Jamie share that Jessica from this season’s MAFS is a nurse and has been moved to the COVID Unit! She’s working quite a bit and Jamie and Doug give another shoutout to all the amazing frontline workers!
    8:25 - Doug and Jamie give a recap on the MAFS finale! 2 couples stayed together - Derek and Katie and Austin and Jessica.
    11:23 - 32:48 - Phone Call With Midwife (she gave us permission to share the call ;))
    34:44 - Jamie wants to know if listeners think that taking placenta capsules helps with the baby blues?
    37:11 - Welcome to the show, Bekah!
    38:24 - Jamie asks Bekah if she feels like she fell in love with Arie on the Bachelor.
    42:39 - Bekah shares how she met Gray while the Bachelor was airing, and 3 months into their relationship she got pregnant.
    45:15 - Doug commends Bekah and Gray for doing couple’s counseling.
    46:35 - Bekah shares that she had a gut instinct that Gray would be a great father even though they hardly knew each other - and her gut was right!
    49:35 - Doug shares that he and Jamie were at a rough point in their relationship while pregnant with Henley, but that having Henley brought them closer together.
    51:00 - Jamie asks Bekah what made her want to have a birthing center birth and how the experience was for her. Bekah shares that she had been interested in pregnancy and birth before getting pregnant and had already sought out more natural options and wanted to be in an environment where her knowledge about her own body was trusted.
    54:30 - Bekah shares how Gray reacted when she told him that she was pregnant. His first reaction was that he had a really big smile on his face! But then wanted to have a conversation about how it would all work out. 
    55:14 - Bekah shares that she felt like a birth center would be a good middle ground option between a home-birth and a hospital birth. She found her birth center by looking on Yelp!
    59:22 - Bekah shares her plans for a home birth this time around.
    61:18 - Doug asks Bekah if she did an unmedicated birth at the birth center. She didn’t have any options for traditional pain management. She shares that the #1 reason for transfer to a hospital during birth center births tends to be maternal exhaustion. 
    62:40 - Bekah recommends the book Ina May’s Guide to Natural Childbirth.  
    63:26 - Bekah shares that she looked at birth with the idea of the pain of childbirth being the pain of progress. It’s your body doing what it is supposed to be doing. She talks about how she would call the contractions moments, since things go back to normal in between contractions.
    66:24 - Bekah shares that it is importa

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    Ep. 67 Jamie and Doug's Birth Plan for Baby #2!

    Ep. 67 Jamie and Doug's Birth Plan for Baby #2!

    It’s the Doug and Jamie show today! We are super excited to share with listeners our decision on having a HOME BIRTH! We have done tons of research and are ready to share the facts with you! 
     
    No matter what decision our awesome listeners make in their birth plans, we want you to know that we support you ALL! We just wanted to share the facts we’ve learned in case anyone else is weighing the options during this crazy time! As always, make sure you are talking with your doctors and with other professionals when weighing all of the options :)
     
    DISCLAIMER....This interview was recorded in advance. Information on Covid-19 is changing by the day. That being said, if you have any questions or concerns please do your own research or consult cdc.gov.
     
    Show Notes:
     
    2:40 - We have exciting news! We are going for it …. we’re gonna have a homebirth!
    4:15 - Jamie shares that as a nurse she has never had a home birth transferred to her where the mother or baby was doing poorly.
    4:50 - Hospitals don’t have enough PPE (personal protective equipment) and they don’t have enough staff - they are being overworked! 
    5:22 - Jamie shares that she wants to be selfless and have the birth at home to help out the difficulty in the hospitals right now with the coronavirus.
    5:40 - Doug wants listeners to know - he is 100% on board with the homebirth!
    6:09 - Jamie wants listeners to understand that the point of the podcast is just to share research and share her experience as a labor and delivery nurse - this isn’t intended to sway anyone.
    8:15 - Jamie explains the details of a homebirth.
    9:25 - Jamie shares that when doctors augment labor (do something to expedite labor) such as pitocin or breaking a woman’s water - you can come into contact with a “risk” in the hospital and that can eventually cause a C-Section to have to happen.
    10:20 - Jamie shares what a birthing center is in comparison to a home birth or hospital birth.
    11:14 - Midwives from birthing centers will be with you during your birth, even if you have to be transferred to the hospital. The majority of them have privileges and rights to practice at hospitals.
    11:33 - Birthing centers and midwives with home births take an all natural approach. Home Births are the MOST natural. 
    12:14 - The biggest pro right now of a homebirth is that right now you are going to avoid catching germs that are lingering around at the hospital.
    12:55 - Home births have very intermittent monitoring so you can get up and move around during labor! Big pro!
    13:40 - A midwife who does home births comes with medications to stop hemorrhaging, she comes with medications for your baby, she comes with oxygen - she means business! These midwives are trained medical professionals!
    15:00 - A big pro about home birth is that your partner is able to be with you!
    16:15 - Being able to deliver in water with a home birth is a huge pro! 
    16:30 - No one is telling you you need to speed up your labor in a home birth or at a birthing center! It’s not a rush - you are the only person that the midwife is taking care of! 
    17:55 - All of the follow-up visits from homebirth happen in your own home!
    19:08 - Jamie shares that she definitely wants to try to have either her or Doug catch the baby!
    20:20 - With a home birth or birthing center birth, you are guaranteed to have your midwife during the birth.
    20:57 - You get as many coaches as you want during labor and can even have your children be a part of your labor experience! Jamie shares that she is worried about the pain part of it scaring Henley.
    21:44 - Jamie shares cons of a homebirth:
    -if an emergency happens, they are 20 minutes away from the hospital
    -there is no medicinal pain relief
    -a lot of insurances do not cover a home birth or a birthing center (sad!)
    -you have to submit your own social security and birth certificate info
    -you don’t have hel

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Hockeychic899 ,

Birth Day

Jamie, it broke my heart that people could say absolutely anything negative to you about what should only be a wonderful experience and memory. I guess haters gonna hate as they say. Your true FRANS love and support you. Having had a. Epidural your first time you had NO idea how different or difficult it would or could be and you did your best, and guess what! Your best IS more than good enough!! I did not have an epidural for either of my kids (only because it was not offered)-my first was easy-peasy and calm and beautiful. My second was 9 lbs 12 oz which was 2 lbs heavier and 2 inches longer than my first and was NOT easy-Peasy. You never know from one to the next. You just celebrate your beautiful son and family and stop apologizing for doing what was best for your family and the health of you and the baby! Tune out the negative- they don’t matter!

readingrenee ,

Sweet love and a few baby

I have been listening and watching this couple since day one. I love the couple, honestly I like Doug a little more I also love Doug’s parents. We all need them a little more! God bless hostess extraordinary Jamie, Doug, Henley Grace and baby

CatCaul89 ,

Great podcast, Jamie please done apologize for not going live!

I love the pod, I’ve followed you guys since MAFS. Jamie, please please DO NOT apologize for not going live (or not staying live) during your labor/birth. You do NOT owe anyone anything with regard to your birth! You thought you wanted/could do something, but labor & delivery is such a wild ride, you have no idea what will happen and how you feel. Anyone who doesn’t understand that is NOT a “frand”. <3

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