How to Use the Honeymoon Phase IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective

What is the Honeymoon Phase?
This podcast is in response to a question that I recently got from one of our podcast listeners. So, Gosia, this podcast is for you. 
Back when my wife and I hosted a podcast about foster parenting we had an episode all about using the honeymoon phase as a foster parent. 
One thing that we had noticed as foster parents was that a lot of foster parents would discredit and discount the positive behaviors of their foster kids, and say things like, "They're just on their best behavior right now," or "It's just the honeymoon phase. It won't last."
This mentality does not help you as a parent. It actually limits you as a parent, and it keeps you from taking advantage of one of the most powerful phases in your teen's life!
The honeymoon phase is simply a period of change in your teen's life, and often in their relationship with you when they are trying their best. The honeymoon phase is often short-lived and seen as "not their true behavior." 
Think of a honeymoon with a young newlywed couple. They are both on their best behavior. They are both trying to impress the other person. They are both treating the other person with more love and compassion than they might down the road. 
As foster parents we would often experience the honey moon phase with new foster kids, kids who were returning to our home from a court mandated stay at a detention center, or with kids, even our own kids, recently after they have gotten in trouble. 
The honeymoon phase is actually a powerful time when your teen is doing their best!
Why do Parents Hate the Honeymoon Phase?
Lots of times parents think that their teenager is simply trying to manipulate them by exhibiting the behavior that the teen thinks that their parent wants to see. 
I've heard parents say, "This isn't the real them", or "This won't last."
Because of this mentality, many times parents end up being upset at their teens for doing exactly what they wanted their teen to do in the first place. 
As mentioned in the Arbinger Institute book, Leadership and Self-Deception, this is am example of "being in the box."
The Honeymoon Phase is Actually AMAZING!
The truth is, the honeymoon phase is AWESOME! 
Think about it . . . 
. . . Your teen is doing their best. . . 
. . . They are trying to change and be better. . . 
. . . They are on their best behavior. 
The honeymoon phase is something that should be recognized, appreciated, and celebrated. 
Easy Tips to Use The Honeymoon Phase
Join In On the Honeymoon Phase
Get excited with them. 
Match their level of effort. 
Be on your best behavior too!
Appreciate and Celebrate Their Effort
Understand that it's hard to change.
They are making a huge effort. 
Be grateful for their willingness and desire to change. 
Promote Growth and Set Goals
During the honeymoon ph
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