I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman Osato

We fuxing with Black Mothers and Black Daughters today (or maybe not). The fractures between them are conversation topics covered in the annals of sociology, psychology, the chucch, and our homes. It is complex. The relationship with mine has been brought into full relief as I assess its shaky foundation. Mired by the cultural mores that say to have a vagina makes one less than - whose fault is it when the women are complicit in their own demise. This question keeps coming up as I consi...

We not fuxing with Diddy. Just no, we will not make it about him. But rather, what is it that the #ubw needs to sever the ties in these abusive relationships? When I consider the through line of when it is that people are more open to having conversations related to domestic violence against women, specifically Black Women, it is when the victim of the abuse, be it physical, emotional, verbal, or financial, speaks truth about it. Consider the abuse experienced by Rihanna (Chris Brown), Meghan...

I guess we were not fuxing with Mother's Day this year? With a recognition that this holiday can be painful for many, this particular Mother's Day was a reflective one for me. In this season in which I challenge all the things in which I have been trained to believe, the issue that continues to rear its head is the value (or lack thereof) that is placed on my motherhood based on my attachment to a man. Meaning, while I consider myself an amazing mother - I mean, the Uppity Black Girl in...

We fuxing with rest, in all its forms, because #ubw is exhausted. We are literally waiting to exhale. And if you are a #ubw of a certain age, you are most likely living the movie: Waiting to Exhale. The deep breaths continue. When we do back to back episodes related to the mistreatment, the humbling, the disdain, the disrespect, the persecution - the list continues (MISOGYNOIR).... we get tired. So today we focus on the things that rejuvenate us, and we fuxung with the seven forms of re...

My therapist tells me that I take a great deal of deep breaths during our sessions. I know why - its exhausting navigating the world as a card carrying member of the #ubw club. The people are out in full force, letting us know that misogynoir is here to stay, so my Sisters, be ready. From Amanda Seales, to whom so much disdain is pointed, to Marilyn Mosby, looking at potentially 40 years for some BullSh*t, to Angel Reese wearing rags in an empty room when introduced to the world as a me...

We fuxing with lust today, well tangentially fuxing with lust. What we really fuxing with is #ubw liberation and empowerment, and actually saying fux that definition of lust as "disordered." In my God girl and Goddess girl ways, I often find myself in conflict with some tenets of the Catholic Church. A recent homily that focused on the "Seven Deadly Sins," spent an inordinate amount of time highlighting the "deadly" sin of lust as the most damaging to humanity. The dictionary definition of lu...