I Can't Fux With You! Confessions of An Uppity Black Woman Osato

We fuxing with rest, in all its forms, because #ubw is exhausted. We are literally waiting to exhale. And if you are a #ubw of a certain age, you are most likely living the movie: Waiting to Exhale. The deep breaths continue. When we do back to back episodes related to the mistreatment, the humbling, the disdain, the disrespect, the persecution - the list continues (MISOGYNOIR).... we get tired. So today we focus on the things that rejuvenate us, and we fuxung with the seven forms of re...

My therapist tells me that I take a great deal of deep breaths during our sessions. I know why - its exhausting navigating the world as a card carrying member of the #ubw club. The people are out in full force, letting us know that misogynoir is here to stay, so my Sisters, be ready. From Amanda Seales, to whom so much disdain is pointed, to Marilyn Mosby, looking at potentially 40 years for some BullSh*t, to Angel Reese wearing rags in an empty room when introduced to the world as a me...

We fuxing with lust today, well tangentially fuxing with lust. What we really fuxing with is #ubw liberation and empowerment, and actually saying fux that definition of lust as "disordered." In my God girl and Goddess girl ways, I often find myself in conflict with some tenets of the Catholic Church. A recent homily that focused on the "Seven Deadly Sins," spent an inordinate amount of time highlighting the "deadly" sin of lust as the most damaging to humanity. The dictionary definition of lu...

We fuxing with rage and pleasure today. This rage card keeps showing up and this rage indeed is warranted. The way the world comes at the #ubw, it is a wonder we have not all ended up in the clink. Instead we have trained ourselves to suppress these feelings and move forward with plastic smiles. We need no physician to tell us that suppression of feeling will not end well. The reinforcement of the suppression of true feeling bleeds into all aspects of our lives. Thus the version the world rec...

Me and the legions of #ubw who have been silent for so long, most definitely are not fuxing with misogynoir. At least we must be intentional in our attempts to not be complicit actors. It would be unfair to jump to Diddy and the minefield of misogyny that is hip-hop, without examining my own participation given my love of hip-hop - the more vulgur, misogynostic, the better! I know - it is contradictory. However, if I say I am living a life of alignment, that everything that I say and do are a...

We outside. We outside. We on Spring Break ya'll, but this #ubw still has something to say. Confusion is one of the things that I don't like to fux with. I enjoy clarity about what is happening around me, so that I can properly assess situations. Unfortunately, the luxury of clarity regarding understanding - why is it, that when we think about Black Women - the emotional and physical harm that befalls us- we accept that that mistreatment is just par for the course?It's confusing (but not surp...