137 episodes
Behind Our Smiles Marriage Podcast Joe and Tara Buchanan
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4.9 • 140 Ratings
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Welcome to the Behind Our Smiles Podcast! We’re your hosts, Joe & Tara Buchanan. We were married in 1997, we have four amazing children, and we want to share with you the real-life behind our smiles... The things we still struggle with, the things we finally have victory over, and the truth from God’s Word that we know will always carry us. Join us for some candid conversations as we look for ways to pursue a connection with God and each other and find joy even in the struggle.
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Episode 136: Let's Cuddle
Do you like to cuddle with your spouse? Cuddling isn’t just for babies and puppies! Taking time each day to hold each other and enjoy that physical closeness is great for our physical and mental health! In this episode we share about why we love cuddling and how it has benefitted our marriage!
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Episode 135: I'm Not Talking To You! (The Four Horsemen Part 4)
This is our final week in our series on the Gottmans’ Four Horsemen. Our final horseman is stonewalling, which is when one person withdraws and refuses to engage in a conversation. When is stonewalling harmful and when is it helpful? How do we handle conflict when we are flooded with uncomfortable emotions? In this episode we share our experience with stonewalling and how we keep it from hurting our connection.
Gotmman's Four Horseman: Stonewalling
More about Stonewalling from the Cleveland Clinic
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Episode 134: You're So Stupid! (The Four Horsemen Part 3)
We are in third week of our series on the Gottman’s Four Horsemen. One of the most dangerous of all the horsemen is contempt, which John Gottman calls the “sulfuric acid for love”. Contempt begins when simmering negative thoughts about our spouse grow into a belief that our spouse is inferior to us and is insignificant. In this episode we share about the dangers of contempt and how it can creep into our marriage.
The Gotmman Institute: Contempt
Contempt in Marriage: Greg Smalley
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Episode 133: You're So Defensive! (The Four Horsemen Part 2)
This is our second episode in our series on Gottman’s 4 horseman as we tackle to the topic of defensiveness. When the horse of defensiveness is running wild in our marriage, we go into self-protection mode and take responsibility for our behavior. In this episode we’re sharing our struggle with defensiveness and some of the ways to combat it.
Gottmans' Four Horsemen: Defensiveness
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Episode 132: You Always You Never (The Four Horsemen Part 1)
This episode is our first in a series where we are discussing the Gottmans’ work on the “Four Horsemen”: the four conflict patterns that can cause damage in our relationships and marriages. We’re starting with criticism, which is bringing up a concern by describing our partner (You always you never) and attacking them as a person. When the horse of criticism is running wild in our marriage, we will feel devalued, rejected, and hurt. In this episode, we share our struggle with criticism and some of the ways to combat it.
What is Criticism?
How to complain without criticizing
How Criticism poisons your marriage
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Episode 131: What Makes You Smile?
Every week, we love to share the stories behind our smiles. We talk about how we pursue connection and find joy even in the struggle. But we know that you have a story behind your smiles, as well! Have you and your spouse overcome obstacles in your marriage? Is there a time God intervened in an otherwise hopeless situation? We’d love to hear about it! We’re handing you the mic so you can share your story. You can click HERE to use our new WowGod microphone. Just click on the microphone, talk into your phone, enter your email, and press SEND!
Or just share with us what makes you smile about your husband or wife!
When sharing your Wow God Story:
Keep it a true story from your own life! Aim for about nine minutes. Tell us about a time when God provided the strength or resources to conquer a seemingly insurmountable challenge. What was the obstacle and what was the turning point? How is your life different now? To connect with us on social media:
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Customer Reviews
Wonderful people and hopeful, and challenging conversations
I really love this show. I look forward to the weekly conversation and the different topics they provide. I would encourage everyone to listen to them. They are hopeful, challenging, respectful, and full of joy. Every time I listen to this podcast, I smile. Thank you for all of the time, energy and effort you put into making your podcast.
The Buchanans’ voices make me happy
This podcast will make you a better person and a better couple. Love the Buchanans and grateful for their podcast.
This podcast makes me happy
Where have you been m whole life?
I know you’re on episode 75 or so, but I still chose to begin at the beginning and I am a half a dozen episodes in or so. I highly recommend that others just beginning start with the first episode. It has helped me learn a little bit about who you are, and understand how applicable your words and opinions are. It all feels so common sense, but even these first few episodes have really helped me formulate some better ways to relate to my spouse. It also helped me to find the right words to help him feel, respected, loved, and heard. Thank you.