Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD

Ep. 55 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: How saying no can save a friendship.
Blaire feels bad about saying no to friends. How can she think about things differently?
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a time you had to say no to a friend. What happened? How hard or easy was it for you to say no? How did your friend react? 
- Why is it important to say no to friends sometimes? How can saying no help a friendship? How can NOT saying no sometimes hurt a friendship? 
- Why do you think kids are sometimes nervous or uncomfortable about saying no to a friend? 
- What could you say if a friend is disappointed or annoyed when you say no? 
- When is it okay to say yes to a friend, even if it’s not exactly what you want?


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Ep. 54 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Showing up for friends the way they want.
Dimitri wants to what he can do to support a friend who is dealing with hard times.
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Think of a hard time you’ve been through. What kind of support from friends did you find helpful (or not helpful) during that time?
- How could giving advice hurt a friendship?
- What does Dr. Friendtastic mean when she says that your friend knows best what kind of support they need?
- Why might listening be a good way to support a friend who is going through a hard time? 
- What could you do to support a friend who doesn’t feel like talking about their problems?


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Ep. 53 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Knowing the difference between bragging and sharing good news
Bragging is annoying because it carries an implied putdown: “I’m better than you!” Lillian wants to know how to stay calm when someone is bragging. But are they bragging or just sharing good news?
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
Why is bragging NOT a good way to make friends? (Hint: How does it make other people feel?) What are some better ways to make friends?
What does Dr. Friendtastic mean when she says, “Most of the time, when people are bragging, there is no contest”? Why might keeping that in mind be helpful for staying calm when someone is bragging?
Have you ever felt envious of something good that happened to a friend? What was the thing that made you feel envious? How did you handle it? How did it affect your friendship?
Has anyone ever told you, “Quit bragging!”? Do you think you were bragging? Why or why not? What did you do after that?


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Ep. 52 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Dealing with hearsay
Tyler wonders how to fix things when his friend’s parents don’t like him.
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever tried to change how someone (kid or adult) views you? What happened? Why do you think reputations can be hard to change? 
- Why is it a good idea to try to get along well with your friends’ parents? 
- What are some ways that kids can show they are being respectful toward adults?
- Which of your friends do your grown-ups like the most? Why?
- When you make a mistake, why do you think it’s important to think honestly about what you did wrong? (Hint: What does that enable you to do?)


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Ep. 51 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Dealing with hearsay
Saoirse wonders what to do when a friend tells her another girl called her weird.
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Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus posts for parents.DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever been in a situation where you found out that someone was saying something mean about you behind your back? What were they saying? How did you handle it?
- Why does Dr. Friendtastic say it’s freeing to realize that what people say about you when you’re not around is none of your business? (Hint: What are some possible downsides of always trying to find out what people are saying about you when you’re not there?)
- How does repeating someone’s mean comment to someone else spread meanness? 
- What are some good ways that you’re “weird” (i.e., different from other kids you know)?


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Ep. 50 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Beyond the Magnet Myth of Friendship
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- What is the Magnet Myth of Friendship? Why is the Magnet Myth NOT true?
- How are friends different from fans?
- Why does bragging not help you make friends? (Hint: How are other kids likely to react?)
- How might worrying about not being “good enough” get in the way of making friends? 
- Dr. Friendtastic says to “focus on being interested rather than interesting.” What do you think that means? How could you show someone that you are interested in them?
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit. (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books and webinars at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes plus posts for parents sent to your email address.



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