82 episodes

⭐ "Powerful & funny & important, MDSML is a special & wonderful podcast! I’m so grateful for the stories that have been shared and to Lauren Deborah for creating such a meaningful and needed space for them."

⭐ "This podcast has charm and laughs!"

⭐ "This podcast is amazing, I’ve learned so much confidence and strength from the guests."

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Lauren Deborah (she/they) never had the 'coming out' they had their heart set on (the dramatic kind), as when she claimed she was ready, her Dad came out first…stealing Lauren's limelight. Lauren has since grown up and realized the world doesn't revolve around them (most days) and everything happens as it should.

In each episode, Lauren sits down with someone to delve into their coming out journey, sometimes with a cameo from someone they came out to like their parents, BFFs, co-workers, partners, or exes.

Listen along for amusing, relatable, and heartwarming conversations that normalize (and give a big hug to) every person's experiences and feelings coming out. We discover more about our most authentic selves each week and find ourselves being more visibly, comfortably, and wonderfully queer.

Past guests include drag sensations Jerrilynn Spears, Amy Grindhouse and Rogue, comedians Katie-Ellen Humphries, Andrew Johnston, Andrea Jin, Al Val, and Eman El-Husseini, novelist and theatremaker Curtis Campbell, producer and writer Jason T. Gaffney, host of You Made Me Queer Trevor Campbell and Australian Idol's Jasey Fox.

My Dad Stole My Limelight Lauren Deborah

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 6 Ratings

⭐ "Powerful & funny & important, MDSML is a special & wonderful podcast! I’m so grateful for the stories that have been shared and to Lauren Deborah for creating such a meaningful and needed space for them."

⭐ "This podcast has charm and laughs!"

⭐ "This podcast is amazing, I’ve learned so much confidence and strength from the guests."

🌈 As seen live at Vancouver Pride, iHeart Podcast spotlight features and Elizabeth Bank’s WHOHAHA’s featured podcasts.

Lauren Deborah (she/they) never had the 'coming out' they had their heart set on (the dramatic kind), as when she claimed she was ready, her Dad came out first…stealing Lauren's limelight. Lauren has since grown up and realized the world doesn't revolve around them (most days) and everything happens as it should.

In each episode, Lauren sits down with someone to delve into their coming out journey, sometimes with a cameo from someone they came out to like their parents, BFFs, co-workers, partners, or exes.

Listen along for amusing, relatable, and heartwarming conversations that normalize (and give a big hug to) every person's experiences and feelings coming out. We discover more about our most authentic selves each week and find ourselves being more visibly, comfortably, and wonderfully queer.

Past guests include drag sensations Jerrilynn Spears, Amy Grindhouse and Rogue, comedians Katie-Ellen Humphries, Andrew Johnston, Andrea Jin, Al Val, and Eman El-Husseini, novelist and theatremaker Curtis Campbell, producer and writer Jason T. Gaffney, host of You Made Me Queer Trevor Campbell and Australian Idol's Jasey Fox.

    Tom Ballard on the queer community coming together and getting sh*t done

    Tom Ballard on the queer community coming together and getting sh*t done

    In this episode I sit with comedian Tom Ballard (he/him) and discuss coming out over a meat pie, internet browser histories, coming out to ourselves, MySpace, letter-writing as a lost art, lying about being straight to taxi drivers and the insanity of the monarchy!
     
    Connect with MDSML:
    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
     
    Connect with my guest:
    -Follow Tom on Instagram: @tomcballard 
    -Follow Tom on X: @tomcballard 
    -Follow Tom on threads: @tomcballard 
    -Subscribe to Tom’s YouTube: @TomBallardAus 
    -Watch Tom’s latest special, It Is I, with 800 Pound Gorilla Records
     
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 49 min
    Eve Parker Finley on healing through creative outlets

    Eve Parker Finley on healing through creative outlets

    I am honoured that my guest on this episode is comedian and musician Eve Parker Finley (she/her). We talk about the role of her art in her coming out and her emotional well-being. A behind-the-scenes note is that I kept trying to write the show notes for this episode and instead just got distracted multiple times watching clips of Eve performing because she is PURE JOY!
    Connect with MDSML:
    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
    In this episode:
    -Eve discusses how she has used music and comedy to figure out who she wants to be!
    -We hear the process and discovery behind the first song Eve ever wrote!
    -Using gender as a metaphor for other things is a thing Eve loves to do in her music and writing!
    -We hate the relationships we have been in where we have forgotten who we are, but the comeback from those? It is the most powerful thing!
    -Eve wrote a song for her parents and played it to them as her coming out!
    -It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not have it figured out. None of us have anything figured out!
    -We each share three songs from our crying playlists with each other and let me tell you, nothing feels like more of a bonding moment than that!
    -Taking scary plunges towards what sets our soul on fire is brave and beautiful! Eve shared her journey and it is gorgeous!
    -Growing up means growing more confident and out of our “No worries if not!” phase and we love that for us!
    -SHOUTOUT therapy! Always! Our longest and strongest relationships!
    Connect with my guest:
    -Follow Eve on Instagram:@eveparkerfinley
    -Follow Eve on TikTok: @eveparkerfinley
    -Eve’s album In The End
    -Eve’s latest release, her comedy song Screw You Steve
    -More of Eve: eveparkerfinley.contactin.bio/
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 47 min
    Jackie Hoffart on getting access to the things we had barely let ourselves dream about

    Jackie Hoffart on getting access to the things we had barely let ourselves dream about

    In this episode I got to chat with comedian, producer, host of New Moon Comedy and just all round wonderful human, Jackie Hoffart (they/them).
     
    Connect with MDSML:
    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
     
    In this episode:
    -Check out New Moon Comedy! One of the best shows in Canada!
    -Here we are with another story that involves my guest moving very, very far away from their hometown!
    -This interview has big two-cats-per-house energy and we love it!
    -How wonderful is it when you can see people on stage that help you discover or uncover your true self? What a gift!
    -Jackie gives a wonderful perspective on how they feel about identifying as non-binary, for now, until the language catches up and I love it very much!
    -In this chat, we hear how Jackie came out to themself first, and how big that experience is!
    -Hot tips for how to start identifying as a lesbian in this episode!
    -We are here to follow the butterflies that make us feel alive! And we are not taking anything less!
    -As Jackie puts it, there are infinite ways to be non-binary. Theirs’ took the surgical route and they kindly share that experience with us!
    -We are learning to make less space for folks to get our pronouns wrong! We have been choosing our battles, and maybe it is time to change that!
     
    Connect with my guest:
    -Follow New Moon Comedy on Instagram: @moonbasedcomedy
    -Follow Jackie on Instagram: @ostensiblyclear
     
    Resources:
    -Check out YVR Funny!
    -The article Jackie wrote in 2003!
     
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 48 min
    Limelight Mailbag with Jason T. Gaffney

    Limelight Mailbag with Jason T. Gaffney

    In this month's (and our first ever) Limelight Mailbag episode, I am joined by my wonderful co-host; filmmaker, podcaster, writer and dear friend Jason T. Gaffney! (P.S. I get so excited my voice goes high-pitched several times and Zoom is like “Nope! No sound here!”)
    We unpack this month’s limelight-stealing submission from Karen'Nicole.
    Connect with MDSML:
    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
    Connect with Jason:
    -Follow Jason on Instagram! @jasontgaffney 
    Connect with Karen'Nicole:
    -Hire Me to Create for You
    -karennicolemitchell.com 
    Resources:
    -The London Writers’ Salon
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 49 min
    Silvi Vann-Wall on intentionally checking in with ourselves

    Silvi Vann-Wall on intentionally checking in with ourselves

    Silvi Vann-Wall (they/them) is a writer, film critic, improv comedian and as I excitedly learned in our chat, also a frog enthusiast.
     
    I was introduced to their work via an important piece they published for the ABC (see the resources below) and was so honoured to get to know more about them and their journey.
     
    Connect with MDSML:
    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
     
    In this episode:
    -Our sexual resume does not define our sexuality!
    -How nice is being able to change how we identify as we change and grow in life?
    -We discuss what it is like for Silvi to “be non-binary and have a feminine body”!
    -We hope this conversation serves as a place to let gender-diverse people know that there are others like them and I want the cishets to listen and learn more about gender diversity too!
    -Google is free! Stop asking people to do the emotional labour of educating you!
    -We hear from Matt, Silvi’s husband, and hear what it is like to discover who we are and experience that in a long-term relationship!
    -Lockdowns were revealing for queers, to say the least!
    -Silvi and I shared the same fears as children: that our parents could read our minds! Our very gay minds! Terrifying!
    -Silvi is great at checking in with themself every day, keeping their finger on the pulse of who they are!
    -Did you get pulled out of class to draw dogs? No? You mustn’t be as talented as Silvi! Sorry!
     
    Connect with my guest:
    -Connect with Silvi on Twitter/X @silvireports 
     
    Resources:
    -Here is the article I read that led me to Silvi! 
     
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 52 min
    Curtis Campbell on creating and existing from a place of honesty

    Curtis Campbell on creating and existing from a place of honesty

    -Join the FREE mailing list for queer joy! hilaurendeborah.substack.com 
    -Email the pod to say hi or share a limelight-stealing story! mydadstolemylimelight@gmail.com
    -2SLGBTQIA+ resources
    Curtis Campbell is a playwright, novelist, theatremaker, director and producer. Dragging Mason County, Curtis’ YA book was released last fall. Around Toronto, you may see Curtis being awesome in the comedy world and the theatre world. Please enjoy this truly invigorating conversation.
    In this episode:
    -We revisit the times we worked together via little digital boxes on our laptops!
    -Curtis tells us about Dragging Mason County, the YA novel released last year!
    -We chat about how we want to exist in this world and how we want to define ourselves!
    -Creativity is such a wonderful way to explore who we are!
    -Growing up is a lovely way to find out we no longer have to prove our credentials as queer folk!
    -EVERYTHING Curtis is working on — both solo and collaboratively — is without any exaggeration, perfection. I am delighted to chat about all of this important, joyful, intelligent work!
    -People are hungry for queer comedy!
    -As queer folks, making stuff for ourselves vs making ourselves more palatable for others is something we have to think about, and we discuss that in this episode!
    -Everyone’s homework after listening is to go away and create bad things! We deserve it!
    Connect with my guest:
    -Follow Curtis on Instagram: @curtisdangcampbell 
    -Get your hands on Dragging Mason County: annickpress.com/Books/D/Dragging-Mason-County 
    -More of Curtis: linktr.ee/campwrites 
    Behind the scenes:
    -Podcast production and editing made possible by: Alexi Johnson and the team at @604podnetwork
    -Theme Music: Shawn Kangro
    -Logo Art: @raphe.ca

    • 1 hr 3 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
6 Ratings

6 Ratings

regardingdew ,

Can’t stop listening!

I feel joy and openness amplified with every episode I listen to and am grateful to learn something new each time. The conversations are layered with so much insight, curiosity, and humility... SO necessary, so good!!

~Jazz ,

GenderMeowster (they/them) loves Lauren Deborah (she/her)

Lauren! How are you so talented and great?! This show is a wonderful reflection of so many happy queer adult stories. Lauren is humorous, and her guests are incredible. I love the three guidelines at the beginning of each episode. The laughter and energy in the show is a treat to listen to. Thank you for making this show and I can’t wait for even more episodes! Hot tip to new listeners, check out season 1 episode 1 and the. Season 3 episode 1 for super cute Lauren-and-Dad action. 🥹🔥🌈

Where's Matt ,

Webcrawelrs

Ali Segel reccommended this from the webcrawlers podcast so this gets five stars. Hope I spelled her name right. Anyways, when I came out to my mom she then came out to me as bi and revealed tnat like she had some affair while I was a child and was like very, very close to almost divorcing my dad. It was bonkers. and like YEAH stole my limelight. Crazy. Shif. Melissa Stetten is cool too

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