Not So Normal Parenting Wendy Gossett Personality Prodigy, Best Selling Author, Parenting Coach

In this episode, we shift focus from the body center to the heart center, which includes Enneagram types 2, 3, and 4. The heart center deals with issues of attention and self-image, often grappling with feelings of grief, shame, and worthlessness. We dive deep into the characteristics of Type 2s, who derive their self-worth from being helpful and appreciated by others, but may struggle with insecurity and dependence on external validation.
We'll discuss how to identify and reframe negative thought patterns common to Type 2s, providing strategies for fostering self-awareness and healthier relationships. An illustrative listener's story about a Type 2 ESFJ daughter highlights practical advice on using a two-way journal to improve communication and understanding between parents and children.
Key insights include recognizing the importance of self-care, managing feelings of guilt and overwhelm, and addressing deeper psychological patterns rooted in childhood experiences. We'll also explore the unique challenges Type 2s face, such as dealing with pride, resentment, and the tendency toward martyrdom.
Join us as we offer tools and insights to help Type 2s find their own worth and navigate their emotional landscapes more effectively.
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In this transformative episode, Wendy Gossett shares personal insights and practices that can change your life. Kicking off a new Enneagram series, Wendy discusses the struggles of all nine types, starting with Type 9, the Peacemaker. Learn how these struggles affect thoughts and feelings, and discover ways to reframe thoughts to improve your well-being and coach your children effectively.
Explore Wendy's this podcast launched in April 2024, for more insights on Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram. Wendy's book, "Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens," provides additional guidance for parents managing diverse personality types within their families.
With over 60,000 thoughts buzzing in our heads daily, it's crucial to be aware of how these thoughts shape our feelings and actions. Wendy uses relatable examples and offers specific strategies to help you recognize, reframe, and supervise your thoughts. She highlights the importance of thought awareness and provides practical steps for parents to coach their children using the Enneagram.
Key techniques include keeping a thought journal, questioning your thoughts, and understanding the emotional impact of your thoughts. Wendy emphasizes that changing your thought patterns can lead to a better life and healthier relationships.
 
Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com
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In this episode, we delve into the Enneagram Type 1, known as The Perfectionist. The Enneagram serves as a powerful tool to help parents recognize their unconscious thought patterns, enabling them to guide their children toward self-awareness and positive transformation. Type 1 children often fixate on imperfections in their environment and themselves, striving for perfection and control.
We start with an introduction to Enneagram Type 1, explaining how these individuals tend to focus on what needs to be fixed. Their unconscious thought patterns can lead to feelings of frustration, anger, and rigidity. The host shares a personal anecdote about the challenges faced while recording episode 16, illustrating the struggle with perfectionism and the importance of being flexible and forgiving of oneself.
The episode includes a listener question from an INFJ Type 1 father who struggles with his ISTP Type 8 son, who resists rules and chores. The host advises focusing on connection before correction, recognizing the son's need for independence, and engaging in activities the son enjoys to build a better relationship.
We also explore the different variants of Type 1:
Self-preservation Ones: Worriers who focus on controlling their environment.
Social Ones: Intellectuals who strive to set an example for others.
One-on-one (Sexual) Ones: Express anger and are highly critical, resembling Type 8 in their intensity.
For growth, Type 1s need to become aware of their unconscious patterns and reframe negative thoughts. Strategies for personal development include practicing forgiveness, empathy, flexibility, and self-care.
Common challenges for Type 1s are discussed along with ways to reframe their thoughts:
Perfectionism: Embrace progress over perfection and view mistakes as opportunities for growth.
Anger: Channel anger constructively and focus on positive change.
Resentment: Practice forgiveness and let go of grudges.
Anxiety: Stay present and practice mindfulness techniques.
Guilt: Understand that everyone makes mistakes and move forward after making amends.
Rigidity: Embrace flexibility and spontaneity.
Criticism: Shift from criticism to constructive feedback and recognize everyone's strengths.
Judgment: Practice empathy and understanding.
Tension: Use relaxation techniques to alleviate stress and prioritize self-care.
The host offers encouraging words and affirmations to help Type 1s reframe their thoughts and focus on positive growth. The episode also includes spiritual insights, referencing biblical encouragement not to worry and highlighting the importance of faith and trust in a higher power.
Listeners are encouraged to email questions to WendyGossett.com and explore further resources such as the "Understanding Your Family 101" session or the "Not So Normal Parenting" Facebook community for support and guidance.
Website: WendyGossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com
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Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
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In this transformative episode, we delve deep into the struggles of Enneagram Type 8, exploring how their quest for control and fear of vulnerability shape their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Whether you’re a Type 8 or a parent of one, this episode offers vital insights into managing these powerful dynamics.
We'll revisit some foundational concepts from Episode 15, emphasizing their importance in understanding all Enneagram types. For those familiar, feel free to jump ahead to the 12-minute mark to dive straight into Type 8 specifics.
Type 8s, located in the body or gut center of the Enneagram, focus intensely on control and often express their underlying emotion—anger—openly. We'll explore how their intense energy, need for control, and fixation on justice manifest in their daily lives and relationships.
Additionally, we’ll discuss the instinctual variants of Type 8s—self-preservation, social, and sexual—and how these influence their behavior. From the intensity of their play to their resistance to authority, understanding these facets can help parents and educators support Type 8 children more effectively.
Join us as we unpack practical strategies to help Type 8s reframe their thoughts and embrace vulnerability, fostering healthier relationships and emotional well-being. Plus, hear personal anecdotes, including a touching story about a Type 8 child navigating a family move, to illustrate these principles in action.
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Tune in for a powerful discussion that promises to enhance your understanding of Type 8s and enrich your approach to their unique challenges.
 
Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com
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Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
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I am not exaggerating when I tell you that this episode could transform your life! I speak from personal experience because the practice I am going to tell you about changed mine. This will be the first of an Enneagram series where I talk about the struggles of all nine types, how those struggles effect our thoughts and feelings and then how you can reframe the thoughts and coach your children to do the same.
I started a podcast in mid April 2024 called Not So Normal Parenting. There are some episodes there that are not on this channel so check it out if you are a fan of Myers Briggs and the Enneagram. You can also grab a copy of my best selling book ebtitled Your Child’s Inner Drive: Parenting by Personality from Toddlers toTeens. I was a facilitator for team building and realized I could use these amazing tools with my own family team since I was parenting a son and daughter who were as different as Bob Ross and the Black Widow, you can check out my interview with them on the channel. My daughter is an ISTP type 8, my son is an ISFJ Type 9 and I am an ENFJ Type 4. Since parents are like the Ceo’s of their fmily, I work with them to help them see the connections and disconnections in their brain wiring.Parenting isn’t intuitive if you have kids who are your opposites! You can check out my work, blog and get a free child temperament test at WendyGossett.com
 
Did you know you have over 60,000 thoughts every single day buzzing around your head? That's a lot to keep track of! Some of us are completely unaware of what is going on inside of our head. This is unwise, considering the fact that our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings determine our actions. In fact, all your emotions, good, bad, happy and sad are 100% generated by your thoughts. Your unconscious thoughts are sort of like an unsupervised West Highland White terrior in a closet full of shoes and flip flops. Oh that example sounds sort of specific? That’s because my Westie, Milo, loved to chew and sever the toe piece of all our flip flops. All I needed to do was to be aware of where the flip flops were at all times, even in the middle of summer; and where Milo was, even though he was a crazy puppy with Zoomies, so that the destruction did not occur. Not an easy task! Just like being aware of all 60,000 thoughts every day is not easy either. In episode 12 and 3 I give an introduction to an amazing tool for growing human potential called the Enneagram. This tool is dependent upon thought awareness. Why? Because being aware and then reframing your thought patterns is the single most powerful way to change your life for the better! Later in this episode I am going to give very specific examples of what a type 9 Peacemaker parent’s mind struggles with, how these thoughts negatively effect their feelings and how the thoughts can be reframed to turn the feeling around. I will then teach any parent how to coach their type 9 child using powerful questions generated by the Enneagram.
Love this lady, love this podcast!
Wendy Gossett speaks with such honesty and says it like it is!! I love how real she is and how open her family is to helping others understand one another. I have never heard such powerful insight into how we operate as unique individuals. After reading Wendy’s book “Your Child’s Inner Drive” and working with Wendy To better appreciate the personalities of my children, we have so much more peace and unity in our family relationships!! I can now honor my teens for who they are and how God created them instead of feel frustrated by our differences. I am so happy she now has a podcast so I can continue to get a dose of her wisdom and teaching! May everyone be blessed as they learn this life giving tool for all relationships.
 
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Today’s episode applies to every human being on the planet! The perceiving and judging functions J and P in the Myers-Briggs system, determine how we live our lives. The P types are driving a convertible through life with the wind in their hair an no particular destination in mind. The J types are driving a sedan on a highway with a GPS. They are more serious, intentional, and structured. But what happens when you mix the two up and put them all under one roof? Opposites attract so there is a chance you could be a J married to a P. I will give a quick test in this episode so you can get an idea which one you are. We live in a J society but the Ps in our life make things fun. I was doing a seminar and one of the Lion dads was cracking a joke, and I made the mistake of saying your Pness is showing. I will never live that one down and will never do that again! Stay tuned to the end for five amazing tips for working with your P child