Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl Tiffany Dawn

What's it like being married when one person is deconstructing and one person isn't? Today James and I both share the hardest parts of this deconstruction journey, how it's affected our marriage and what we’ve learned along the way. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! We hope you enjoy this final episode of the season. XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: What did James initially think about deconstruction? (@0:44)

Q2: Was James ever afraid that Tiffany might leave the faith? (@1:35)

Q3: Looking back, where did your ideas on hot topic issues originate? (@3:00)

Q4. What did James think about the podcast episodes this season? (@3:40)

Q5: Was our takeaway different than was intended when we were growing up in church? (@5:43)

Q6: What was the hardest part of deconstruction for Tiffany? How has our approach to Bible reading changed? (@7:18)

Q7: Did deconstruction conversations ever feel divisive or like a personal attack to James? (@12:50)

Q8: Does James still have catastrophic worries about Tiffany ending up in spiritual la la land? Why or why not? (@16:50)

Q9: Why is deconstruction sometimes seen as black and white with only one possible ending? What is the fruit of our journey saying? (@17:50)
 
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Today we're talking with Carlos Rodríguez about if our approach to evangelism needs to change. We're also talking about a bunch of hot topics in social justice and about finding Jesus in deconstruction!! SO EXCITED about this episode!! It is so thought-provoking and a different perspective than I ever heard growing up. Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: Would you tell us a little of your personal journey with social justice and Christianity? And what has been the fruit (good or bad) of that approach? (@4:18)

Q2: What have you observed about conservative Christian approaches toward social justice? What is the fruit of the approach? (@6:11)

Q3: Does God have a preference for the poor? And is that the best thing He can also do for the rich? (@12:48)

Q4. How, if at all, does this understanding of social justice change the way we view evangelism? If so, what changes should we be making as the church? (@14:12)

Q5: Let’s take a side bar here. Is deconstruction biblical? Did Jesus teach it? (@15:07) 

Q6: Have our mission trips been evangelization or colonization, or both? (@16:26)

Q7: Is it okay to question everything? Will we find Jesus there? (@17:51)

Q8: Growing up we emphasized the salvation of souls over the physical bodies of people. What are your thoughts on that? (@21:36)

Q9: I want to dive into a couple hot topic social justice issues with you. The first one is racial justice. (@27:10)

Q10: On a similar note, would you talk with us about Christian Nationalism? (@33:32)

Q11: What do you think it means to be pro life? Is our version of pro life biblical? (And can we talk about identity politics?) (@37:51)

Q12: What does the Bible teach us about political parties? Would Jesus want us to only vote Republican? (@45:06)

Q13: What do you think is the most important takeaway for my listeners? (Spoiler: It’s about deconstruction!) (@51:12)
 
CARLOS’S INSTAGRAM:
@carloshappynpo
https://www.instagram.com/carloshappynpo/ 

CARLOS’S BOOKS:
(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.)
Drop the Stones: https://amzn.to/3oT2HFO
Simply Sonship: https://amzn.to/3LEq4wv

RECOMMENDED READING
(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links. These are the books we talked about in the episode!)
⭐️“The Road Away from God: How Love Finds Us Even as We Walk Away” by Jonathan Martin
https://amzn.to/3rRZCYr

⭐️Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg’s Books:
https://www.amazon.com/Danya-Ruttenberg/e/B001JRYKX6?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1&qid=1645035627&sr=8-1 

⭐️“Living Brave” by Shannon Dingle
https://amzn.to/3LELppD 

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NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥
NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Mike McDonald of The Bible Project about social justice! What does the word "righteous" actually mean, and how is it tied to justice? (This word study changes everything!!) How is bad theology hurting our approach to justice? What is biblical vs social justice? (Is there even a difference?) SO EXCITED about this episode!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: Why do you think social justice can be such a controversial topic in some Christian circles?  (And what is the church history behind this “controversy”?) (@1:38)

Q2: Why do you think social justice is sometimes pegged as a liberal issue in churches? (@5:40)

Q3: What is the fruit of a Christianity where you neglect the social justice aspect of our faith? (@8:15)

Q4: Why are we quick to split up the social justice vs. the spiritual disciplines? (And how does our heaven and earth theology play into this?) (@11:00)

Q5: Where does this biblical understanding of justice begin? Why is it so important to God? (@14:05)

Q6: What is the difference between “biblical justice” and “social justice”? (@17:35)

Q7: What are the original words for righteousness and justice? How do they work together? (@19:55)

Q8: How do we practically make a difference? (@23:45)

Q9: How do we figure out self-care boundaries in our approach to justice? (@27:25)

Q10: Why is it so difficult to accept we’ve been a part of the problem? What does repentance look like as a passive participant in the problem?  (@30:20)

Q11: How can we use our voices for justice? (@34:21)

VIDEO ON SOCIAL JUSTICE:
https://bibleproject.com/podcast/justice-part-2-what-social-justice-and-righteousness-bible/

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NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥
NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕

James and I both grew up in purity culture and both saved sex for marriage. And today we’re talking about that! We’re debriefing our segment on purity culture + sex, and sharing what we’re learning about a biblical view of sex!  Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany
HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: What did you grow up believing about sex, and have those beliefs changed? (@0:11)
Q2: What do you believe about a healthy biblical sexuality now? (@2:55)
Q3: Does the Bible really say to save sex for marriage? (@3:53)
Q4: Let’s talk about the way we approach modesty + bikinis in conservative evangelical circles. Is our approach helpful or harmful? (@10:55)
Q5: Does saving sex until marriage = a great marriage? Does a sexual past and/or masturbation = a ruined marriage? (@16:20)
Q6: What started purity culture, and what would have been a better way to approach sexuality in the church? (@19:23)


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THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: 
From James and Tiffany Dawn!
What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥
https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com


NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥
NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Sheila Gregoire about some of the damaging teachings we grew up hearing about "biblical sex" in marriage. She's turning some of those teachings on their heads as she shares what a truly biblical sex life looks like, and how this new perspective actually makes sex so much more enjoyable! We're also going to debunk some modesty and dating myths while we're at it. SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE TODAY'S QUESTIONS:
Q1: What was your old perspective on sex, and what fruit did that bring in your life? (@3:01)

Q2: What are two of the most common and toxic teachings about sex in evangelical Christian circles? And how do those teachings affect women? (@5:55)

Q3: There's an idea in some Christian circles that women are obligated to have sex anytime their husbands want sex. Where does this idea come from? What does the Bible ACTUALLY say? (@15:28) 

Q4: Is orgasm important for a woman to experience? Or is it enough to simply cuddle and enjoy the closeness of sex, without worrying about orgasm? (@20:39) 

Q5: Is it okay for women to be a little "selfish" during sex - to pay attention to their own needs and desires? Is that biblical? (@25:01) 

Q6: Is it a woman's responsibility to help her husband stay pure (mentally, emotionally, physically) by having lots of sex with him? (@28:29)

Q7: Let's talk about modesty. Is it a woman's responsibility to dress in such a way that guys won't be tempted to "stumble"? (@35:12)

Q8: Will your husband have "eyes for only you"? Is that what godly men do? (@38:45) 

Q9: How can a woman heal her perspective toward sex, whether single or married? (@42:38) 

Q10: What resources do you recommend? (@45:24) 

HERE ARE THE RESOURCES WE TALKED ABOUT:
(The book links below are my Amazon affiliate links to each book.)
⭐️Sheila's Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com
⭐️Sheila's "Bare Marriage" Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/242918
⭐️Sheila's Orgasm Course: https://sheilawraygregoire.thinkific.com/courses/the-orgasm-course
⭐️The Great Sex Rescue Book: https://amzn.to/3JQwyHT
⭐️The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex Book: https://amzn.to/3HMxgEh
⭐️Talking Back to Purity Culture Book: https://amzn.to/3qZtkcD
⭐️The Making of Biblical Womanhood Book: https://amzn.to/3q6epxL
⭐️The Where Do We Go From Here Podcast: https://tunein.com/podcasts/Religion--Spirituality-Podcasts/Where-Do-We-Go-From-Here-p1274502/

THE WEDDING NIGHT TALKS: 
From James and Tiffany Dawn!
What you need to know about sex before the wedding.🔥
https://tiffanydawn.thinkific.com

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NEW VIDS on TUESDAYS: Life Advice You Don't Hear in Church!🔥
NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕

Sponsored by Faithful Counseling: http://faithfulcounseling.com/tiffanydawn - Today we're talking with Kat Harris about masturbation, sexuality, and how to deconstruct purity culture while keeping a biblical approach to sex! SO EXCITED about this one!! Welcome back to the "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl" podcast! XOXO, Tiffany

HERE ARE OUR QUESTIONS:
Q1: When you grew up in the height of purity culture, what was your approach to sexuality? (@3:03)

Q2: What was the fruit of that approach, and the shame you felt? (@8:01)

Q3: Let's talk about contentment and when we're trying to mask our longing for a relationship with spiritual language... (@15:54)

Q4: What aha moment led you to deconstruct your view of sexuality? (@18:43) 

Q5: What does the Bible say about sexuality as a whole, and about the human body? (@24:31)

Q6: How did you come to understand the Bible's message about premarital sex? (@36:56)

Q7: What does the Bible say about masturbation? (@45:35)

OTHER RESOURCES:
⭐️Podcast episodes on masturbation: 
https://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-i-is-masturbation-a-sin
https://therefinedwoman.com/podcasts-all/part-ii-is-masturbation-a-sin
⭐️Kat's Instagram: @therefinedwoman 
⭐️Kat's book: https://amzn.to/3zAPSnP
(👆My Amazon affiliate link to her book!)
⭐️Kat's website: https://therefinedwoman.com

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YouTube.com/c/tiffanydawn
NEW VIDS on FRIDAYS: Season 2 of "Outgrowing the Good Christian Girl"! 💕