19 min

Own how others affect you Growth Mindset: Psychology of self-improvement

    • Self-Improvement

We are often told we are the product of the 5 people we spend the most time with. This episode explores the cases where this isn't true and what we can learn from examining the relationships we have.
We learn that actually, the most significant effect is from those that prevent us from being ourselves. Otherwise, we are free to choose the qualities we are inspired by regardless of how much time we spend with people.

Questions to reflect on
What are my strengths? When do I feel like I am being myself?


I am putting my energy directly into the thing I want to do or is it postponed for some reason?

Is there a faster way to reach the lifestyle I want?


Who are my idols? Why do I look up to them? Could I have better idols?

Who are 5 cool but very different friends to me, what would they tell me to do?

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Timestamps

00:00 - What is a growth mindset

00:20 - You are not the 5 people you spend time with

01:00 - Be yourself

01:23 - The skier parable

04:08 - Don't be blocked from being yourself

04:40 - Best friends

06:30 - Opposite can work

08:50 - Choose your inspiration

09:36 - Small encounters can have butterfly effects

10:53 - Prioritise healthy relationships

11:30 - Avoid being generic groups/cliques

12:08 - Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad

13:53 - Variety is the spice of life

14:53 - Questions to journal on (see above)

16:05 - Life tips



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We are often told we are the product of the 5 people we spend the most time with. This episode explores the cases where this isn't true and what we can learn from examining the relationships we have.
We learn that actually, the most significant effect is from those that prevent us from being ourselves. Otherwise, we are free to choose the qualities we are inspired by regardless of how much time we spend with people.

Questions to reflect on
What are my strengths? When do I feel like I am being myself?


I am putting my energy directly into the thing I want to do or is it postponed for some reason?

Is there a faster way to reach the lifestyle I want?


Who are my idols? Why do I look up to them? Could I have better idols?

Who are 5 cool but very different friends to me, what would they tell me to do?

Connect with Sam:
Join the conversation on the social podcast app - Podvine
Sam's newsletter on creativity and entrepreneurship - Explosive Thinking 
Sam's podcast on books - Wiser Than Yesterday 
Support the Show - Patreon 
 
If you enjoyed the podcast please subscribe and rate it. And of course, share with your friends!

Timestamps

00:00 - What is a growth mindset

00:20 - You are not the 5 people you spend time with

01:00 - Be yourself

01:23 - The skier parable

04:08 - Don't be blocked from being yourself

04:40 - Best friends

06:30 - Opposite can work

08:50 - Choose your inspiration

09:36 - Small encounters can have butterfly effects

10:53 - Prioritise healthy relationships

11:30 - Avoid being generic groups/cliques

12:08 - Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad

13:53 - Variety is the spice of life

14:53 - Questions to journal on (see above)

16:05 - Life tips



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