In five minutes or less, get powerful strategies for effective parenting. Dr. Daniel van Ingen illustrates evidence-based parenting strategies through stories and clear-cut examples. Dr. van Ingen is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Researcher, National Speaker, & Author of Anxiety Disorders Made Simple: Treatment Approaches to Overcome Fear and Build Resiliency. His latest books include You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist: 7 Keys To Excellence in Parenting & Flourish: Breaking Free with Less TV.
The Grudge Schema
Some people hold onto grudges for years. They allow bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness to keep them trapped. This podcast goes into the unresolved emotional pain and a thorough breakdown of how hurt people hurt people. An additional layer unpacked in this podcast is the reality that not only do hurt people hurt people, but hurt people control people.
Included is a five-point plan to helping your teenagers deal with grudges and bitterness held against them.
See Dr. Dan's books at Amazon. Dr. Dan is a clinical and sport psychologist who specializes in anxiety disorders, sports psychology, and psychological burnout. He has worked with olympic swimming standouts, professional baseball players, division 1 tennis players, Crossfit National Champions and World Champion Powerlifters. He has started a skydiving therapy group and has a unique role in helping professionals with psychological burnout (physicians, EMT's, nurse practitioners). HIs unique combination of work with anxiety, athletes, and professionals coping with burnout has led to an inspiring effort to inspire people toward change and fearlessness.
How To Work With Difficult People
Some people are very difficult to work with. Naturally, we try to move our children around these people. This is impossible. It is better to equip ourselves and our teenagers with the ability to work with difficult people.
See Dr. Dan's series of books available at Amazon.
Living a Fearless Life & Pursuing Defining Moments
Living a fearless life involves going after fears in your life. In this podcast, Dr. van Ingen discusses phobic fears (i.e. dogs and enclosed spaces), nasty fears and the fear-control sequence (i.e. acting out of that fear with pay back, grudges, bitterness and resentment), and cognitive fears (i.e. irrational thoughts). Pursuing a defining moment is also discussed including a 4-R Approach.
For more information on Dr. Dan's work in anxiety, see his book Anxiety Disorders Made Simple., available on kindle and paperback. Also, for those who want an in-depth study on neuroscience and anxiety, see his program available on video and DVD format (and audio).
Is This Worthy of Crying?
Here is a family dinner conversation. Parents should routinely talk to their children about what is worthy of crying and what is not worthy of crying.
If you scrape your leg, is that worthy of crying? Yes.
If you are told that you can't have candy, is that worthy of crying? No.
Let's establish that there are sometimes when we don't validate feelings.
Gaslighting in Your Parenting?
"Gaslighting" is the latest term in pop culture psychology. I've actually heard the term for 40 people (yes, I took a tally) over the last 3 weeks. Is this going on in your parenting or is this yet another psychological concept that is being overly used like everything else.
Dr. Dan van Ingen is a clinical and sport psychologist in Sarasota, FL. He is an author, national speaker, anxiety specialist and parenting doctor. He started a sky diving therapy and resilience group for those who want to apply radical change to fears and anxiety. He's been featured on ABC and is author of You Are Your Child's Best Psychologist.
People Change Part 3: What Will I Leave When I Jump Off the Plane on Sunday?
Dr. van Ingen presents changes in his own life and in the lives of others showing clear evidence of people changing. "I constantly hear it. People believe that people don't change."
1) People change.
2) We all have to change.
3) Self affirmation is the answer to outward affirmation when it comes to change.
4) Long-lasting change requires intrinsic motivation, it can't be for external reasons.