Sparkler Parents Christine Robenalt

Today we are going to take a DEEP DIVE into the sensations of the present moment and begin to cultivate what I have been calling being an "Empathetic Observer Of Our Own Experience". We do too much judging of ourselves and others and this exercise that you are about to do will help gain experience with merely naming the experience/sensation without judgement or evaluation. After you watch or listen to this Podcast episode, spend 3-5 minutes journaling about your experience.What did you notice. Just name it, do not evaluate or judge your present experience.

This episode we review PACE, which stands for Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity and Empathy.  We talk a little more about playfulness and then dive acceptance.

QOD: Describe a time when you miscued with your child.  In that moment were you able to stay playful and accepting, or not?  

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This chapter introduces the PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity and Empathy) acronym.  We talk about Playfulness and how that can help get you as the parent back into a parental state of mind so that you can better read your child's cues and want to engage more (release of dopamine).  Join the discussion in the FB group, Sparkler Parents Podcast.



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If I threw 100 tennis balls at you all at once, how many would you catch?  I know that we would like to think we could catch at least 1 or 2, but in reality, the answer is none...in fact, I think I would turn around and just let all of the pummel me in the back.  So, stress, can be adaptive, if we have the resources to manage it, but when the stress is too great, we go into survival.  When this happens as a parent, it can feel very confusing, because everything just keeps going wrong and anything anyone says seems hurtful and it feels like you aren't a good parent or maybe you may perceive it as, your child is not a good kid.



These are all of the things discussed in this book chapter that Christine summarizes in this episode.  Hang out until the last 5 minutes to get information about a free download of a Calm Down Cube.



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There were some viewers/listeners who requested a YouTube Format, so this is it.  You can still catch the podcast version too outlets like Spotify and Apple Podcasts.  This episode continues to Chapter 3 of Brain Based Parenting and it discusses Blocked Care.  The question of the week to discuss here in the comments or on FB is:  What are your resources to buffer stress and challenge in your life so that you can stay in the present moment with your child?

Let's dive in to Chapter 2 a little more. So far we have learned that innately we, as parents, have different neurochemicals in our brains that help us connect to our children.  These chemicals help strengthen pathways to build a strong attachment to our child first to orientate to the child, then be motivated to spend time and care for our child and today we talk about our ability to read/attend to non-verbal cues that tell us as parents that our child needs something...but what? And I would like to discuss in the FB group,  what have you noticed in your own interaction with your children and how does your environment alter your way to effectively read your child's non-verbal cues.



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