Power Reclamation Anne-Marie Marron

What does it look like when mega-celebrity spiritual teachers misuse their power and authority? And, when do these teachers' blindspots recapitulate the student's trauma - especially when the teacher doesn't understand the student's trauma response and instead blames the student for not doing the practices "right"?

How can we stay alert to the charming and persuasive tactics of leaders who hold high positions of power and authority - while remaining realistic that they are still a human-being expressing themselves in unintegrated ways?

This conversation with Nicola Amadora, spiritual teacher, Hakomi therapist and trauma-informed guide, brings light to the reality that students of spiritual teachers can slip into power-over and dominating power dynamics with a teacher that cause them to lose faith in their own inner authority and self-authoring trust.

Key topics we covered:
* The dangerous traps of spiritual bypassing and transcendence
* How can women reclaim their voice when there have been centuries of cultural conditioning that dismisses a women's direct experience and personal needs? How can someone's direct experience ever be wrong as opposed to a gateway to greater self-awareness and understanding?
* Scapegoating Projections - a common practice of banishing the innocent to justify separation and off-loading of personal responsibility through blame and exile
* The downfall of savior projections that become a slippery slope of needing to hold a teacher as perfect and whole while ignoring red flags such as justifying their abuse and hypocritical behavior.
* The impact of spiritual teachers who rigidly hold a right and wrong about how a person should live their life that makes no room for the unique needs of that person's process of integration and embodied healing.
* Creating safe resources to process our confusion -- how to find people who can listen to our pain in a neutral and open-hearted way
* We all have blindspots -- how to create a world where we help one another see them more clearly

Today, I want to focus on the paradigm of superhuman compulsion. This socially esteemed and normalized way of operating that often requires us to neglect our need for rest, sleep, connection, play and self-care in order to sustain our self-image of being competent, valuable, and responsible.

How many of us learned that our value is crystallized only after we have achieved the esteemed social status, the perfect job, the perfect family, perfect body, or the perfect healthy lifestyle?

These pressures whisk us away on a roller-coaster ride of highs and lows — one day we feel accomplished, successful, and worthy, and a day later, we collapse into depression, unworthiness and feelings of self-doubt and failure.

When we’re bombarded with social pressures of who we need to become it’s easy to forget who we are at our core — and what our life’s purpose is.

We are not meant to do it all. Or, “be” it all. Nor are we meant to improve and fix all perceived shortcomings. Why? I share more about this during the episode — see topics below.

Episode Topics:

1. Superhuman compulsion — an investigation into reclaiming our Wild Power
2. Two reasons why we are not meant to do it all. Or, “be” it all
3. The Wonder Twin Superhero’s- Zan & Jayna
4. Each one of us has superpowers and special medicine - what’s yours?
5. What is the superhuman compulsion?
6. Confronting the trap of a modern day superhuman idealization
7. The superhuman archetype: A conditioned behavior of domestication
8. Self-denial - a fast track to drying up our well of passion and resiliency
9. Understanding our collective inheritance (moving from outer-game to inner-game)
10. Exposing the voices that reinforce superhuman idealizations and beliefs
11. Two key factors that fuel the superhuman compulsion?
12. Seeking externally for validation
13. The addiction to busyness
14. When did the essential need for rest, self-care, and quiet time become a sin?
15. Disassembling the trappings of the superhuman compulsions — what’s possible?

It sounds easy to say, "welcome everything", but if you've tried, you'll know how many protectors and iron gates come down when circumstances that we don't like capture our attention or threaten our sense of power, safety and connection.

It takes immense courage and consciousness to embark on this deep level of integration and healing. There is great power gained by learning to welcome our shadows and messiness.

In this episode, Anne-Marie breaks down the arc of evolutionary leadership through the five developmental phases of leadership and consciousness.

Episode Topics:

1. Being on my knees, dancing between despair & hope, led me to this recording
2. Why integral leadership?
3. "Please call me by my true name", a poem by Thich Nhat Hanh
4. What is integral leadership?
5. The movement from authentic leadership to integral leadership
6. Five phases of leadership development
7. The shift from reactive to creative leadership
8. The shift from creative to integral leadership
9. The key marker of an integral leader is a devotion to embracing one's shadows
10. Integral leadership immersions with Anne-Marie
11. Feeling safe enough to be messy -- an essential component for transformational growth

In this second episode of our two-part series, Rixt shares with us how she co-designed an integral leadership program for an executive based upon his desire to become a more integral leader through embracing more of his shadows.

Rixt drew from the 360 leadership assessment tool, and foundational principles, from the Leadership Circle Profile.

She also intuitively included other modalities to help this leader crack the code in a few key areas that were holding him back from his next level of leadership.

Join us as Rixt shares the program's intention, design and co-creative process with the brave executive who was ready to embrace more of his shadows.

This conversation with Rixt Kuiper and Rob Sinclair is about integral leadership and shadow work. How do we as leaders, consultants, healers, therapists and change-makers lead and love through exploring our personal projections and exiled parts of self?

Here is what we explore:

04.15: What is shadow and why does it matter?
09.50: Shadow work - the ability to consciously expose exiled parts of self
10.46: Is shadow always dark? What about the golden shadow?
12.40: How do you recognize shadow?
14.15: The importance of shadow work as it relates to integral leadership
19.10: What is a cultural shadow and how does it get reinforced by culture?
23.23: Why is shadow work important?
25.30: What shadow integration looks like for Anne-Marie
26.50: What shadow integration looks like for Rob
29.10: What shadow integration looks like for Rixt
33.17: The power of identifying missing experiences when working with leaders
34.53: Befriending our disowned parts
42.10: Why shadow work isn’t a destination – it’s a journey
43.50: The power of not doing shadow work alone – we need one another

What does it mean to reclaim our erotic power?

This conversation with Darshana Avila, Erotic Wholeness Coach, is about healing and expanding our concepts of what it means to be an erotic and whole being.

* What are the scripts that we all learn about sexuality and our sexual desires and scripts that keep us in smaller boxes?
* What happens when we have the courage to explore these limitations and break through?
* Who do we become when we liberate our erotic life force as a form of healing power?

The conversation with Darshana begins with her personal journey related to her own erotic nature. We meander through her story of waking up from the conditioned scripts that had formerly kept her in the dark from her own power and wisdom. She shares about how she helps women, and couples, become more whole through healing the blocks that impede them from feeling liberated and whole as a sensual and alive powerhouse of love and wisdom.

Other topics covered:
* Tantra and the healing power of connected and embodied sensual and sexual exchanges
* Wild Mind & SoulCraft- a body of work, through the Animas Valley Institute, that has deeply informed Darshana's activism as well as the creation of her map of erotic wholeness
* Sex workers- the power of presence and embodied sensual and sexual services for healing and integration
* Darshana was recently part of a Netflix series called Love, Sex and Goop, hosted by Gweneth Paltrow - in which she models her erotic wholeness coaching with one couple through three episodes.