GilandBrenda Gil and Brenda Stuart

Blended family life doesn't often start with every relationship in harmony. But it's not unusual to develop it along the way. Ron Deal speaks with Gil and Brenda Stuart about how disappointment and confusion eventually morphed into redemption and joy. Celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary with a vow renewal was an amazing experience. Another way to celebrate their family!#tipstoolstingles #gilandbrenda#conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

Brenda, and two other Stepmoms were interviewed by Mike and Kim Anderson from Mike and Kim Coaching (https://www.mikeandkimcoaching.com/). This interview brings 3 perspectives of being a stepmom, but yet there is one common thread. Being a woman in a stepfamily can be a hard road. Whether you join with kids or not, having realistic expectations are part of having a successful formula to help you thrive in your stepfamily.With Tiffany, Stacy and Brenda, you will hear some raw experiences from their own lives and what worked…and what didn’t. We hope you are encouraged.Brenda is now taking new coaching clients. She specializes in working with women and helping them reach their potential. Whether it’s stepfamily challenges, family concerns or just life circumstances she can help you navigate these seasons with thought provoking questions, and compassion. She’ll make you stop and think and realize you had the answer to what you needed all along. Contact her today at hello@gilandbrenda.com.

Tips, Tools, and Tingles for Your Relationship!Encouragement for Dads in a Stepfamily! Gil was interviewed by Ron Deal, from Family Life Blended. This was a great conversation about how important the Dad is in the stepfamily…and how it can be challenging. Gil doesn’t pull any punches and is pretty raw and honest with Ron. This 8-part video series, filmed on location brings the realities of what it means to be a Stepdad. Topics include: “You’re Not My Dad,” “Between a Rock and a Hard Place” (that would be between your wife and your kids) “Too Much too soon,” “Emotional Safety” (guns are involved), “Reverse Betrayal” (when you feel guilty that you are bonding more with your stepkids rather than your own), “allow Kids to Love,” (don’t put them the middle), and of course the intro.You can purchase this video series on the Stepfamily Network (https://www.stepfamilynetwork.com/course-unsungheroes) website for $48 or $5 once a month. You’ll receive free videos from Gil to encourage you along your journey too!Check out more about UnSung Hereos on our site GilandBrenda (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) #unsungheroes #stepdad #stepfather #bonusdad #stepdadhelp #stepfatherhelp #alwaysforward #stepmom #restoredandremarried #stepfamily #blendedfamily #stepfamilynetwork #gilandbrenda #dadhelp #fatherhelp #stepdadconversations #stepdadvideo Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/) hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com) Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

There are 2 things that we share intimately with our spouse: Sex and Money.With financial intimacy, it’s not about the money. Gil and Brenda dive into the deep end on this issue.It’s about experiences, and what it means to you. It’s important that you talk about this with your spouse so you both have a realistic view of how money is “felt” in your family. Even if you’ve been married a while, it’s always good to check in with each other, especially as you enter a new season.A realistic conversation about spending habits can be hard. Have it be a heart conversation. Get on the same page so you are working together for your goals. Best question to ask as you make financial decisions: What’s best for “us?” Action Steps1. Have a conversation about these 4 areas and what money means to you. How would you rate    these?         Security         Leisure/enjoyment         Control/Influence         Status/Alignment2. Meet with a financial advisor3. Check out Dave Ramsey (https://www.ramseysolutions.com/) materials 4. Smart StepFamily Guide to Financial Planning (https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Stepfamily-Guide-Financial-Planning/dp/0764233351/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1S9W7T5EUCWDR&keywords=smart+stepfamily+guide+to+finance&qid=1642813398&sprefix=smart+stepfamily+guide+to+finances%2Caps%2C2787&sr=8-1) 5. Email us for the Prepare Enrich Financial worksheet (6 pages)Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public) 

Can you keep up with your inner voice? How often is it positive? How often is it negative? Is it toward yourself or whoever you are talking with? Gil and Brenda have a lively conversation… (maybe their inner voices are the ones that are speaking!) about this age-old challenge.How often are we so caught up in listening to our inner voice, we totally miss the person right in front of us? We are all guilty of that at some level. And that will affect our relationships. Between neuro pathways in your brain, our ability to get sucked into the inner voice, and the lack of self-regulation…well that is a recipe for disaster! Today’s conversation will bring you insight and awareness of what’s really going on, and how you can improve your self-talk. Action steps:1. Be aware of your inner voice. Slow Down. Ask yourself out loud, is this true of myself? Is this true of the other person? The key is to PAUSE2. Take a risk. At that moment when you are aware of your inner voice, be vulnerable and share it with whoever you’re talking with. Let them know…here’s what’s going on in my head. My emotions could run away with that. But although I am feeling this way, my judgment may be incorrect it’s not honoring to you. This is a step of being an advocate to you and our relationship, to listen and not stay in my head. But go to YOUR heart and hear your emotions, feelings, and perspective without judgment.Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)  Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/RestoredandRemarried/)  YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCc6LPCo8ksYC0nJK2y2dSVg?view_as=public)

Brenda interviews Gil about why this video series was created and how! Stepmoms will gain a HUGE insight about their guys.We think there is a lot that Dads who ARE NOT in a stepfamily can learn too!Unsung Heroes (UH) is intended to encourage and inspire men who are dads in stepfamilies.  Disrespected by step kids? On the receiving end of frustrations from your wife over loyalty to your own kids? Not sure how to manage emotional outbursts in your stepfamily? The UH video series is for you! We suggest you share the series with your wife. She may not have a clue what you are dealing with. You may be uncertain about how to bring it up without having a fight! Let us help you! UH videos are short and to the point (no longer than 20 minutes.) We identify common problems and offer solutions. Practical feedback is shared by a veteran stepdad who is still learning yet willing to share his experience. A panel of stepdads were interviewed to provide a wider perspective. Each episode has been filmed out and about – not in a “green screen” environment… that would be fake and boring! We are offering a 20% discount on our site right now, the final price is $48 for the downloadable videos and accompanying "bullet point summary." Normally it will be $59.99. Thank you for helping us promote this great resource! We have partnered with www.stepfamilynetwork.com to host the videos series. You can also get the info by going to our site at www.gilandbrenda.com/restored-remarried. Please join our Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100073466857391 as this will be the place where conversations and encouragement will happen!Counselor/Coach, Husband/Wife Team, Marriage Illustrators and Encouragers#gilandbrenda #tipstoolsandtingles  #conflictresolution #marriagehelp #marriage #investinyourmarriage #remarriagehelp#friendshipinmarriage #marriagecounselor #marriagecoach #husbandandwifeteam#RestoredandRemarried #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast  www.gilandbrenda.com (http://www.gilandbrenda.com/)  hello@gilandbrenda.com (mailto:hello@gilandbrenda.com)  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube Twitter (https://twitter.com/brendagilstuart)  Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/restoredandremarried/)