206 episodes

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, relationships, addictions, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Hosted by best-selling author, actress, and coach Brianne Davis, the podcast offers a mix of guest interviews and topic-specific discussions.

Every Monday, listeners are invited to join Brianne as she pulls back the curtain and explores the how, what, when, where, and why of various subjects. Some episodes feature guests sharing their own secrets and stories, while in others Brianne takes a deep dive into a specific topic. Whether laughing, crying, or feeling inspired, each episode offers a revealing journey into the human experience.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), was launched in February 2021.

To share a secret or be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com.

Secret Life Brianne Davis

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 391 Ratings

Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine — true confessions of love, sex, money, relationships, addictions, and hidden taboo topics that are often hilarious, uplifting, and hopeful. Hosted by best-selling author, actress, and coach Brianne Davis, the podcast offers a mix of guest interviews and topic-specific discussions.

Every Monday, listeners are invited to join Brianne as she pulls back the curtain and explores the how, what, when, where, and why of various subjects. Some episodes feature guests sharing their own secrets and stories, while in others Brianne takes a deep dive into a specific topic. Whether laughing, crying, or feeling inspired, each episode offers a revealing journey into the human experience.

Brianne's best-selling book, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, a roman à clef novel based on a decade in recovery (with a dash of creative license), was launched in February 2021.

To share a secret or be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com or visit www.secretlifepodcast.com.

    The Narcissist Among Us

    The Narcissist Among Us

    In this revealing episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of narcissism. With candid vulnerability, she shares her own experiences and tendencies, offering a personal touch to a topic that affects many. Brianne unpacks the traits of narcissism, from the subtle to the overt, and explores the root causes that can lead to these behaviors, including childhood trauma and familial patterns.

    Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of how narcissists operate, the impact they have on relationships, and the ways in which they manipulate reality. Brianne doesn't shy away from the challenges of dealing with narcissists, providing practical phrases and strategies for disarming difficult interactions and protecting one's emotional well-being.

    More importantly, Brianne offers a message of hope, detailing the transformative process that individuals with narcissistic tendencies can undergo. She shares actionable steps for self-improvement, emphasizing the importance of self-forgiveness, emotional awareness, and genuine connection with others.

    Whether you've encountered a narcissist, recognize these tendencies within yourself, or are just seeking to understand this personality disorder better, this episode is a treasure trove of insights. Join Brianne as she guides us through the shadows of narcissism and into the light of self-awareness and change.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Narcissism #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #Healing #Relationships #EmotionalIntelligence #Empathy #Change #SelfImprovement

    🔑 Episode Keywords

    Narcissism, Personality Disorders, Empathy, Self-Awareness, Brain Scans, Dbt (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), Mindfulness, Emdr (Eye Movement Desensitization And Reprocessing), Codependency, Toxic Relationships, Self-Improvement, Emotional Regulation, Childhood Trauma, Gaslighting, Love Bombing, Vulnerability, Generational Trauma, Narcissistic Tendencies, Emotional Abuse, Healing And Recovery



    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the episode's theme of narcissism

    (04:15) Brianne's personal insights on narcissistic tendencies

    (08:30) The making of a narcissist: causes and developmental factors

    (13:50) Recognizing the signs and behaviors of narcissism

    (19:20) Strategies for dealing with narcissists and setting boundaries

    (24:40) Signs that a narcissist may be open to change

    (29:55) How to combat narcissistic tendencies and foster self-growth

    (35:10) The importance of connection and new experiences in overcoming narcissism

    (40:25) Empowering choices when dealing with unchanging narcissists

    (45:50) Closing thoughts and invitation for topic suggestions
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 23 min
    Grief & Loss

    Grief & Loss

    In this heart-wrenching episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt invites us into the raw and tender world of grief and loss. With the recent passing of a dear soul from her life, Brianne navigates the complex emotions that come with such a profound loss. She shares her personal struggle with the numbness that follows unexpected tragedy and the layers of pain that accompany the end of cherished relationships.

    Brianne bravely confronts the reality that grief operates on its own timeline, acknowledging the frustration and impatience that arise when the heart is not ready to process the full weight of sorrow. She opens up about the challenge of sitting with the discomfort and the temptation to escape it through various distractions.

    Listeners are offered an intimate look at Brianne's coping mechanism—a powerful exercise that moves the focus from the mind to the physical sensations of grief in the body. This practice teaches us to welcome our pain, allowing our nervous system to adapt to the discomfort and facilitating the healing journey.

    This episode is a testament to the strength and resilience we can find within ourselves as we traverse the landscape of loss. It's a reminder that even in the depths of our darkest moments, there is hope for transformation and growth.

    Join Brianne as she shares her insights and wisdom on dealing with grief, and discover how embracing our most vulnerable emotions can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our capacity to love.

    #SecretLifePodcast #Grief #Loss #HealingJourney #Resilience #EmotionalHealing #CopingMechanisms #Strength #Vulnerability #PersonalGrowth

    If you or anyone you know is struggling with grief, loss, or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com

    To share your secret and be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the episode's theme of grief and loss

    (03:30) Brianne's recent experience with unexpected loss

    (08:10) The challenge of processing grief and the body's response

    (12:45) An exercise to help sit with and move through grief

    (17:25) The importance of allowing grief to strengthen and teach us

    (22:40) Encouragement for listeners dealing with their own grief

    (27:55) Closing thoughts and resources for support

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 16 min
    Abandonment

    Abandonment

    In this profound episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt takes us on an emotional journey through the landscape of abandonment. With unflinching honesty, she opens up about the raw sting of emotional abandonment, a phenomenon that has recently shaken her world, her clients, and the community at large. Brianne explores the pain and core wounds that surface when we feel left behind, discarded, or ignored, and questions the very notion of abandonment in adulthood.

    She meticulously walks us through the stages of abandonment trauma, from the initial shock and confusion to the eventual empowerment and healing. Brianne offers a poignant reflection on her personal struggle with feelings of being discarded, and how these experiences tie back to childhood wounds and the fear of not being enough.

    Listeners will be invited to examine their own experiences with abandonment, whether through death, divorce, or emotional distance. Brianne challenges the idea that adults can be abandoned in the same way children can, emphasizing the power we have to seek support, express our grief, and ultimately find strength in the face of loss.

    This episode is not just about the pain of abandonment, but about the growth and clarity that can emerge from it. It's a call to recognize the clearing that takes place when relationships end, and the opportunity to deepen our relationship with ourselves.

    Join Brianne as she shares her tools for navigating these turbulent emotional waters, from writing goodbye letters to practicing self-care and compassion. If you've ever felt the ache of being left behind or questioned your own worth in the wake of a severed connection, this episode offers a compassionate embrace and a roadmap to resilience.

    #SecretLifePodcast #EmotionalAbandonment #Healing #PersonalGrowth #Resilience #SelfWorth #Compassion #Grief #Empowerment #CoreWounds #Relationships #SelfCare

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the episode's theme of abandonment
    (02:15) Brianne's personal encounter with emotional abandonment
    (07:50) The developmental stages of abandonment trauma
    (13:30) Early causes of abandonment issues in childhood
    (19:45) The definition and impact of emotional abandonment in adults
    (26:10) Strategies for processing and overcoming feelings of abandonment
    (32:35) Embracing grief and empowerment after loss
    (39:00) Final thoughts on transforming abandonment into personal clearing and growth
    (44:25) Closing remarks and resources for listeners

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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 24 min
    Love Bombing!

    Love Bombing!

    In this enthralling episode of the Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the intoxicating yet perilous world of love bombing. With the precision of an emotional detective, Brianne dissects the manipulative tactics of love bombers, sharing her own past as both the perpetrator and the recipient of this seductive strategy. She exposes the lure of intense affection and the hollow promises that often leave a trail of confusion and hurt.

    Brianne equips listeners with the signs to watch out for, from excessive compliments to premature declarations of love, and dives into the psychology behind the need to rapidly secure a partner's affection. She challenges us to resist the rush and to recognize the difference between genuine connection and strategic manipulation.

    This episode is a deep dive into the complexities of modern dating, the misuse of therapeutic language, and the dangers of mistaking intensity for intimacy. Brianne's insights are a call to action for those who find themselves ensnared by love bombers or who may unknowingly be one themselves.

    If you've ever felt the dizzying highs and abrupt lows of a love-bombed relationship or if you're navigating the dating world's treacherous waters, this episode is a guiding light. Tune in for a raw, enlightening exploration of love, deception, and the journey to authentic connection on the Secret Life Podcast.

    #SecretLifePodcast #LoveBombing #EmotionalManipulation #Dating #Relationships #Intimacy #ModernDating #AuthenticConnection #SelfAwareness #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships

    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 23 min
    Sitting in the Unknown

    Sitting in the Unknown

    In this compelling installment of the Secret Life Podcast, join Brianne Davis-Gantt as she delves into the uncomfortable but transformative space of sitting in the unknown. Sharing her own current personal struggle, Brianne candidly discusses the challenges of navigating uncertainty in relationships and life decisions. She reflects on the torment of not having clear answers and the instinctive urge to escape the discomfort through distraction or quick fixes.

    Brianne's vulnerability shines as she recounts past experiences where surrendering to the unknown led to unexpected and beautiful outcomes. She emphasizes the importance of building resilience by resisting the temptation to run from discomfort and instead, learning to sit with it. This episode is a testament to the growth that can occur when we allow ourselves to feel the full spectrum of our emotions, even when it's daunting.

    Listeners will be inspired by Brianne's raw honesty and her encouragement to embrace the lessons hidden within life's uncertainties. If you've ever felt paralyzed by not knowing what's next, or if you've struggled to find peace amidst ambiguity, this episode offers a powerful perspective on the beauty of patience, trust, and the courage to feel rather than fear.

    #SecretLifePodcast #SittingInTheUnknown #Uncertainty #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalResilience #Discomfort #LifeTransitions #TrustTheProcess #Vulnerability #Patience #Courage #EmbracingEmotions

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the discomfort of the unknown

    (03:45) Brianne's personal story of uncertainty in a close relationship

    (09:20) The struggle of wanting answers and the urge to control outcomes

    (13:55) Learning from past experiences of surrendering to the unknown

    (18:40) The power of sitting with discomfort and what it teaches us

    (22:50) Encouragement to face the unknown with patience and trust

    (27:30) Closing thoughts and an invitation for listener engagement


    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 17 min
    Red Flags

    Red Flags

    In this riveting, Brianne Davis-Gantt confronts the warning signs we often overlook in relationships: the infamous red flags. With the acuity of a seasoned detective, Brianne unpacks the subtle and not-so-subtle signals that foreshadow trouble ahead. She shares anecdotes from her clients' experiences in the murky waters of dating, marriage, and even friendships, providing a comprehensive look at the red flags that surface in various types of relationships.

    Brianne doesn't just stop at the obvious – she digs deeper into the nuanced red flags like the misuse of therapeutic language as a form of love bombing, the dangers of toxic positivity in dating profiles, and the covert tactics of narcissism that can isolate and control. She also tackles the difficult topic of how our own desires and insecurities can blind us to these signs, such as the allure of an aggressive partner or the comfort of a familiar but toxic friend.

    Listeners are invited to examine their own thresholds for what constitutes a red flag versus a deal breaker. Brianne's insights offer a powerful reminder that not every red flag is a call to arms; sometimes, it's simply a sign that it's time to wave the white flag and find peace in walking away.

    If you've ever questioned whether to stay or go, felt puzzled by mixed signals, or wondered how to distinguish a genuine connection from a deceptive facade, this episode is your guide through the labyrinth of red flags. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of human connections with clarity and confidence.

    #SecretLifePodcast #RedFlags #Relationships #Dating #Marriage #Friendships #LoveBombing #ToxicPositivity #Narcissism #DealBreakers #SelfAwareness #HealthyBoundaries #EmotionalIntelligence

    Episode Chapters

    (00:00) Introduction to the world of red flags

    (05:20) Red flags in online dating and love bombing

    (11:45) Unpacking the red flags in marriage dynamics

    (17:30) Navigating red flags in friendships

    (23:15) The intersection of self-awareness and red flags

    (29:00) When red flags become deal breakers

    (34:10) Closing thoughts and invitation for listener stories

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    If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.
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    Secret Life Podcast's episodes include topics addressing addiction and recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness.
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    • 24 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
391 Ratings

391 Ratings

samcar1998 ,

TRUE vulnerability!

I love how real Brianne is and how open she is about her own struggles, she makes all of her guests feel 100% comfortable and preaches authenticity. Amazing

mel123456kz ,

Scanddovol

Your analysis of Scandoval was really brilliant all around. Good job! I wish more people were seeing these points.

stevyrey21 ,

Raw, authentic and inspiring!

I’m blown away by this amazing show. I can relate to so many things and have been able to see that I’m not alone! Each episode I find myself connecting with the humanity of the incredibly brave people as they share their journey. I'm blown away by the vulnerability, self-awareness and inspiration given in each share. Brianne pulls me in as she continues to share more about herself, her shortcomings and the freedom she's finding along the way. Giving us all that gentle nudge do that ourselves. Bravo!!!

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