Self Collaring in BDSM-S02E52 Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast

Recorded: 6/28/2020 / Published: //2020
Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show I use my 25 years of BDSM experience and 20 working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. On this episode of The Krypt Mayfair85 is joining me to take a dive into BDSM Primal Play and then we’ll be answering your questions live.

- Rules to Love By
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

- Collaring Yourself aka Self Collaring.
https://sexandsilks.com/2019/03/31/self-collaring/?fbclid=IwAR1RuQ8F-ioF5CY4D91w5zxXtHrOeXu1M6mw8Fk47sUzvP-xXfeHfKnqGTg
https://www.eternitycollars.com/blog/collaring-yourself?fbclid=IwAR2A7KfnBVWmw3c2VDLo1RiWhO-9ryE5GWj_-QY-6D-FW807wk0BDmRncSY

- Collars can have a multitude of meanings in a D/s relationship. They can show ownership, devotion, or subservience, and can be as meaningful as a wedding ring. They can be essential for some kinds of BDSM lifestyles, or just add spice to an already fun, kinky session.
But what about wearing a collar outside of a relationship? Because of these relationship- and partner-status contexts, many people feel discouraged from wearing a collar just for themselves.
Some in the lifestyle may ask, “What if I don’t have a Master/Mistress right now? Can I still wear a collar?” The answer is that someone who’s rockin’ their singlehood can definitely wear one, though many people are dispirited by the connotations of their relationship status to sport their own. Some potential wearers might feel like it needs to be gifted to them or else it wouldn’t be a “real” collar.
Here are some reasons why you should stop caring about what a collar is “supposed to” mean and adorn yourself with one of your own if you feel like it:

- The feeling of being comforted and in control:
Kate Sloan, bloggess of GirlyJuice, writes for Kinkly: “Even when I’m single, collars bring me comfort. They’re like an encouragement from a hypothetical future partner, or from the bravest part of my inner self.”

- The symbolism:
Collars send a message to others about what kind of kink or lifestyle you’re into. Different collars have different meanings to different groups, and can explain better than words what kind of roles or play you’re willing to take part in.
The glory of feeling edgy and powerful while in a vanilla setting. Wear them with whatever makes you feel sensuous and formidable.
Match subtle day-wear collars to your outfit so no one but you know what it’s for, like a sexy little secret.
Or go the opposite direction and draw the gazes or curious vanilla-folk. Wear something loud and terrifying to passerby: maybe a huge spiked leather collar with kitten bells and neon-colored lace, with a tag that says “ME” (as the answer to “who owns you?” of course).

- Just feeling pretty:
Maybe that rose gold collar makes your skin tone glow, your freckles shine like stars, and is perfectly on point with the rest of your outfit. Who says that a statement piece has to make a statement? Wear it because you and the collar are cute as heck together.

- Learning to love yourself first:
This is important no matter your relationship...