Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce Trish Guise

Collaborative divorce; behavioral contract; financial neutral; negotiating with confidence.If these terms make your head spin, come along with Trish and special guest A.J. Grossman. as A.J. discusses how his firm untangles divorce law in Florida. Explore A.J.'s philosophy of providing a great client experience service as he answer's Trish's question "Why is a Leap Frog Divorce different than any other divorce"?A.J. received his post-doctorate Master of Laws degree in Dispute Resolution from The Straus Institute at Pepperdine University Law School in Malibu, California.An accomplished practitioner, A.J. also serves as a guest speaker on a wide variety of topics. Listen along as A.J. describes what a collaborative divorce is and the types of situations that would benefit from this process.So come along with Trish and A.J. Grossman an entertaining and informative discussion. Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy my podcast!Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/ FOLLOW Twitter       https://twitter.com/TrishGuiseLinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoachFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoachWebsite    http://www.trishguise.com/Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise

“Why is this happening to me and how do I make it stop?”I’ve lost count of the times someone has said that to me. I used to say it myself…until I learned what coercive control is and what I could do about it. The insidious coercive pattern of behaviors can turn even the most knowledgeable and independent person into a terrified, self-blaming, victim.  Coercive control has been running rampant through society for centuries…no one is immune…most just don’t know it’s happening or don’t know what it is and how to stop it. Highlights:What does coercive control look like?Warning signs / Red flags to watch for.Is coercive control illegal?The Courts: how they’ve handled coercive control & how they should handle it. Resources:Divorce Act Amendments Explained: (ACEs) Adverse Childhood Experiences explained: The Wild Truth: Children Exposed to Domestic Violence – Lundy Bancroft Criminalizing Coercive Control in CanadaOntario parents advocating for 'Keira's Law': it could have prevented alleged Sask. abduction | CBC Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy my podcast!Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/ FOLLOW Twitter       https://twitter.com/TrishGuiseLinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoachFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoachWebsite    http://www.trishguise.com/Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise

Reflecting on his 30+ years in private practice and his own personal experience, New York psychologist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Thomas Jordan crafted his book to share what he has learned about love relationships, how to discern what is going wrong and most importantly, what you can do about it.Despite the name, Dr. Jordan’s book isn’t about love…it focuses on love relationships. We repeat what we know, even if we don’t know we know it. The unhealthy information we learned unconsciously about relationships gets replicated repeatedly in our adult lives. Dr. Jordan talks about our “family of origin” being the primary source of what we learn about love relationships just like it is for everything else we learn throughout our childhood.Using Dr. Jordan’s “Love Life Psychology” will show you how to analyze your beliefs, behavior and feelings to not only better understand the how, what and whys of your relationships but also to determine the best course of action to make positive changes.  Highlights: The whys behind our disappointing love relationships – repair, replicate, recreate How our “psychological love life” is a blueprint for our relationships – unhealthy and healthy.  “Unlearning” some of the unhealthy messages we received growing up about love and relationships.  Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in private practice in New York City.  He is on the faculty of New York University’s Postdoctoral Program in Psychoanalysis, the author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life and founder of the LoveLifeLearningCenter.com.   Dr. Jordan specializes in the psychological treatment of the unhealthy love life and has been studying and treating them for over 30 years.   To contact Dr. Jordan or to purchase his book: https://facebook.com/Dr.ThomasJordan https://www.instagram.com/lovelifelearningcenter/ https://twitter.com/LLLearningCtr   https://www.linkedin.com/in/drthomasjordan/ https://lovelifelearningcenter.com Sh*t I Learned is now on Patreon:  https://patreon.com/ShitILearned for special perks like VIP access to monthly live Q&A sessions.  Lots in store for you for the upcoming season…special guests, special offers, my new project…and much more!  Thank you so much for listening!   Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy Sh*t I Learned From My Divorced.! Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin.  Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/  FOLLOW  Twitter      https://twitter.com/TrishGuise LinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoach Facebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoach Website    http://www.trishguise.com/ Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise 

Financial abuse with Lisa Zeiderman. What to look for and how to protect yourself. This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, we are fortunate to have Lisa Zeiderman on to talk about divorce finances…how to communicate with your lawyer…what you should look for in a lawyer and more!  Highlights: Financial Abuse: what it looks like How to protect your finances pre and post separation How to communicate effectively with your lawyer Realistic expectations for your case and for what your lawyer can do for you And much much more! You don’t want to miss this episode! Lisa Zeiderman, Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, is a matrimonial attorney, CFL and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. She regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters for high-net-worth individuals. Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Women Attorneys for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, a 2021 Best Family Law Attorney for Client Satisfaction by the American Institute of Family Law Attorneys, among other awards, Ms. Zeiderman is also a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody”, Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, The New York Law Journal and various other publications and quoted on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody.Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, also serves as the Vice President of the Board of Savvy Ladies, Inc. and on the board of LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today. Website: https://lisazeiderman.com/Savvy Ladies: Free Financial Education for Women  savvyladies.orgFacebook:lisazeidermanesq                              Instagram: lisazeidermanTwitter: lisazeiderman                                      LinkedIn: lisazeiderman --- Join My Patreon:  https://patreon.com/ShitILearned for special perks like VIP access to monthly live Q&A sessions. There is lots in store for you for the upcoming season…special guests, special offers through Patreon, my new project…and much more! Thank you so much for listening!  Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy Sh*t I Learned From My Divorced.!Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/ FOLLOW Twitter      https://twitter.com/TrishGuiseLinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoachFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoachWebsite    http://www.trishguise.com/Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise

This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, once again, Glenda Lux of Lux Psychology popped by to talk about her new creation…Co-parenting College!  Co-parenting College is an online resource for co-parents where Glenda helps exasperated co-parents "Stay Sane, Wise and Give Your Kids What They Need".   Co-parenting College offers hands on practical help and information as well as an online course called Difficult Co-Parenting: Advice You Will Not Forget.  Highlights: How to support your child when they are struggling with the other parent’s behavior. Do you jump right in and solve the problem or is there a different way to handle it?What research says about how we co-parent affects our kids. What triggers us and what are we going to do about it? “You may not be able to make it better, but you can work towards not making it worse.”“Don’t get stuck in the muck.”  Co-parenting is a perfect opportunity for modeling appropriate behavior for your children. And much much more! You don’t want to miss this episode! Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce is available anywhere you get your podcasts. Glenda Lux is the creator of Co-parenting College, an online resource for co-parents where she helps exasperated co-parents "Stay Sane, Wise and Give Your Kids What They Need".  Co-parenting College offers hands on practical help and information as well as an online course called Difficult Co-Parenting: Advice You Will Not Forget. Glenda has been practicing at the intersection of psychology and family law since 2001. She has conducted over 100 court-ordered evaluations and provides divorce-related forensic services including parent coordination, co-parenting counselling, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support. Glenda has been qualified as a parenting expert in both Provincial Court and the Court of King’s Bench. Glenda has published several peer reviewed articles in this area, and most recently on coercive control and its relevance to families and children and best interest determinations in Canadian family law. Glenda has completed comprehensive training with the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts and Battered Women's Justice Project on assessing domestic violence in families. Glenda has provided training to family lawyers on domestic violence and has presented at national and international conferences. She also maintains an active blog on several areas related to co-parenting and family law/parenting issues. Connect with Glenda: luxpsychology.caLinkedIn    Glenda Lux | LinkedIn                   Co-Parenting College | LinkedInInstagram @lux.psychology • Instagram       @coparentingcollege • Instagram Facebook  Lux Psychology | Facebook           Co-Parenting College | Facebook --- Join My Patreon:  https://patreon.com/ShitILearned for special perks like VIP access to monthly live Q&A sessions. There is lots in store for you for the upcoming season…special guests, special offers through Patreon, my new project…and much more! Thank you so much for listening!  Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce!Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/ FOLLOW Twitter      https://twitter.com/TrishGuiseLinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoachFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoachWebsite    http://www.trishguise.com/Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise

Things I Wish I Knew Before I Dated, Married and Had Kids – Part 1 “How could I have missed the signs? ““Why did I put up with all of that?” “How did I not see that things were only going to get worse?” I will tell you how you missed the signs, put up with things for so long and didn’t realize things were going to get worse…it’s difficult to see the bad when you are naturally inclined to see the good. Why would you assume that the person you love and is supposed to love you back, is trying to deceive you, manipulate you or control you? It becomes even harder to believe that when you loved one love-bombs you, plays the victim or shames you. In Part 1 of a 2 part series, I I share with you some real life examples of what red flags can look and sound like so you can go into every relationship with your eyes wide open. Not just your romantic relationships, relationships with family members, your friends and even at work. Coercion is everywhere and can happen to anyone at anytime  Highlights:Red Flags to watch for when dating.How minor behaviors can turn into red flags once children arrive.How red flag behavior can manifest itself post-separation. Please leave a rating and review if you enjoy my podcast!Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and Linkedin. Submit topic suggestions or listener stories on my website http://www.trishguise.com/ FOLLOW Twitter       https://twitter.com/TrishGuiseLinkedIn    https://www.linkedin.com/in/trish-guise-b01756204/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/trishguisedivorcecoachFacebook  https://www.facebook.com/TrishGuiseDivorceCoachWebsite    http://www.trishguise.com/Publications, books, videos, panel discussions  https://linktr.ee/trishguise