Shit We Don't Tell Mom Kristy Yee & Angie Yu

Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter.  We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living in a western society. Which teachings to adopt and which to unlearn? What fears do we have as new parents? 
“This is something that's new for so many people, like not just from a cultural perspective or generational perspective […] we're not alone and we're probably not going to scar our kids for life if we're doing the best that we can.” - Vincci Tsui


Resources & Mentions:
Vincci Tsui (Website & Instagram)How Co-regulation with Parents Develops into Self-Regulation in Children (Article)Your Brain's 3 Emotion Regulation Systems (Article)Support the show
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It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series where we update our lives with each other and how we cope with its challenges.
“I felt like if we stayed together, we would've been living a compromised version of a life that neither of us really wanted” - Kristy Yee
Episodes Mentioned:
Ep 45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Year RelationshipEp 47. To Have or Not to Have Babies... and WhyEp 49. Attachment Style…It Makes You Feel Some Type of WayEp 51. The Joy and Grief of Adult FriendshipsSupport the show
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Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to move on.

“You're not a cheater,  [...] you had cheated. But you’re not a cheater. It's not a identity thing, it's an action thing.” - Angie Yu


Resources & Mentions:
What Is an Emotional Affair? (Article)---- 
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Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed.

"I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close circle. If a few of them left, then I'd be fine. As long as I keep filling this first ring, then it'll never be empty. And I think that was my protection mechanism." - Angie

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Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss:
her parents talking her out of using therapypeople-pleasing tendencies as a survival tactichow to be there for other people but also set boundaries for your own emotionscreate space to process instead of suppressing your emotions childhood bullying trauma Bonus: Kristy and Angie get their Oracle cards read for the first time
"I so much want to be the obedient good daughter to them, but I don't wanna do it at the expense of my own health.” - Tam Tran
Find Tam:
www.stigmafreemovement.comInstagram @stigmafreemovementResources & Mentions:
Oracle Deck by Rebecca Campbell (cards)The High 5 Habit by Mel Robins (book)  
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What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding attachment helped in her current relationship and Kristy gave us a relationship update. As always, we discuss some deep shit.

“I just cannot rationalize my emotions away. Like I have no control over my emotions and they take over my life.” - Angie

”Well, the emotions are not logical, so you can’t rationalize something that’s... not logical.” - Kristy”
Resources & Mentions:
Attached (Amir Levine, Rachel S. F. Heller)Free Attachment Style Quiz (Psych Central)Free Attachment Style Quiz (The Attachment Project)Attachment Styles Inforgraphic (Parenting for Brain)---- 
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