Taking Care of Your Partner with the Arrival of Baby Life in Relationship

How do partners take care of each other when they have a baby?  
1 – Learn together, about baby and each other
What are your unique challenges?
 
Gender role complications
Awareness of shifts and changes with each baby
Embrace flexible curiosity
Make space and room for letting the baggage come out
 
 
2 – hold the good and bad together for and with another
Acknowledge the impossibility of the unpredictable nature of parenting
 
Some common anxieties:
Exhaustion Anxiety about infant or just life Changes in other relationships (boundaries with others) What support is available Physical touch and sensory overload Uncertainty of needs – other and within self Communicating about something so new Losing who I am outside of parenting  
 
3 – Notice where your partner needs and respond to each other with grace
Hormone changes and adjustment for both partners sleep deprivation messes with you validate and offer small touches to ground partner notice mess and mindfully notice joy Caring for each other outside of motherhood and fatherhood Caring for each other by splitting duties household chores episode – https://ilovemyshepherd.libsyn.com/household-chores
 
4– help one another remember yourselves outside of parenting
remember it’s a season go out and make nice moments happen when you stay in get to know baby and let baby get to know you - acclimate to baby, but also let baby acclimate to you  
 
Resources:
Gottman Bringing Up Baby course -  https://www.gottman.com/blog/bringing-baby-home-the-research/
And Baby Makes Three - https://amzn.to/3B79iBj (affiliate link)
 
 
Short answer: Plan for the unplannable and watch yourself grow.