Life in Relationship

Heidi Goehmann
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Writer, licensed clinical social worker, and theologian, Heidi Goehmann, produces resources that advocate for mental health and genuine relationships. She loves her family, post it notes, Jesus, adventure, Star Wars, Star Trek, and new ideas…not necessarily in that order.

  1. 07/29/2025

    Nature & Boundaries

    Question: What can nature teach us about boundaries?   Research around boundaries in nature and psychology Info + application Phase of research at present Pleasing and purpose (the symphony of nature)   Order and chaos in the natural world  With human interaction Without human interaction Examples of order and chaos in nature   What is our relationship with nature? Consider the seasons The impact and awareness of comfort DBT wise mind skill Ease v. easy   God's relationship with the Natural World Song of Songs, Ecclesiastes, Job The natural world as container with boundaries

    31 min

  2. 07/14/2025

    Nature & Mindset

    Question: We know kids need outside time; but does nature benefit children's mental health?  Tip 1 - environment matters  Consider your space for work or learning Note your time needs in nature or working, etc - aka how does the environment around you change or impact your mindset individually Note the differing energies of different environments   Tip 2 - spark creativity in Creation Kids as creatures of creativity Nature's boundaries but also freedom Nature teaches so we don't have to or teaches in a softer way at times The value of options and even a bit of chaos   Tip 3 - try a forest walk with your kids or your inner child Find a forest therapy guide: https://anft.earth/listings/ Tip 4 - Research around concentration or mind functioning and the natural world Concentration - better academics,  Attention span,self control, executive function areas nurtured without evaluation (balm for busy brain = attention restoration theory) Cooperation - stewardship mindset + relational and respect skills  Increased creativity - artistic and problem solving mindset  Growth mindset in challenges - resilient mindset  Mood booster + meaning booster  References:  https://www.acamh.org/blog/exploring-the-role-of-nature-in-childhood-development-and-mental-health/#:~:text=In%20this%20blog%20post%2C%20we%20dive%20into,serve%20as%20a%20catalyst%20for%20healthy%20growth.   https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/04/nurtured-nature   https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10970260/

    30 min

  3. 06/03/2025

    Nature & Healing Trauma

    Question: How do I start healing from Spiritual Trauma?   1 - recognize both Big T & Little t trauma  2 - the Body does keep the score The nervous system activation and return to baseline The impact of energy and recovery The place of awareness in healing Somatic therapy treatment for trauma The mystery of nature and healing the body Time elements of trauma healing Trauma and "marks of significance" 3 - what are aces and protective factors Nature and trauma handouts from Children and Nature Network: https://eadn-wc04-796033.nxedge.io/wp-content/uploads/C_NN_CFP_pathway_22-4-6.pdf https://eadn-wc04-796033.nxedge.io/wp-content/uploads/C_NN_CFP_pathway_22-4-6.pdf 4 - spiritual trauma and rest in nature Nature as God's arms around us, holding us   More at: heidigoehmann.com Substack: https://substack.com/@heidigoehmann Instagram: instagram.com/heidigoehmann

    29 min

  4. 04/22/2025

    Life Transitions & Nature

    Question: What skills can nature teach us about life transition and change? Transitions come with stress  Attending to the transition, noticing the energy and tasks required Various emotions of transition Nature as an intentional place to "escape" to    Tip #1 - any time in nature is valuable   Tip #2 - nature reminds us every thing happens in its time  notice the transitions in nature itself to validate your own Widen the lens - notice the steady cycle around the changes all around us allow the time of a transition, nature allows the slowness of transitions Job and Song of Songs   Tip # 3 - Look to Nature for Comfort  Nature as therapist Build a trustworthy relationship with nature (and with God) Release of control  Learning by experiencing and presence instead of cognition   Tip #4 - Take a Mindfulness Break Unconscious and conscious integrating for growing awareness Scripture examples in Song of Songs and Job Colorado State U transition handout - https://extension.colostate.edu/docs/pubs/consumer/10214.pdf   Tip #5 - Reflect and Let God Tend to You   Resources -  Life is in the Transitions book - https://a.co/d/8LB7Lha Links to research https://silvotherapy.co.uk/articles/mental-wellbeing-nature-connection https://health.ucdavis.edu/blog/cultivating-health/3-ways-getting-outside-into-nature-helps-improve-your-health/2023/05#:~:text=1.,answers%20you%20were%20looking%20for. https://www.johnmuirtrust.org/resources/788-wild-and-well-nature-connection-wellbeing-and-meaning-in-life https://www.nature.com/articles/nphys898#:~:text=The%20most%20familiar%20examples%20of,melting%20on%20a%20warm%20hand.

    30 min

  5. 02/18/2025

    Emotion Regulation & the Natural World

    Question: How does nature help with regulation and balance?   Dave's forest therapy training - https://anft.earth/   Emotion Regulation tip #1 - let things be complicated Science and mystery Concrete concepts around ourselves and our bodies as well as spiritual or less concrete concepts around ourselves   Emotion Regulation tip  #2 - we regulate when we provide a space For each other (co-regulation) For ourselves (self-regulation) We are a part of nature and regulate within nature. We are constantly in a process of shedding and restoring. God designed us with internal and externally connected regulation methods.   Emotion Regulation tip #3 - getting out of our own way of regulating How do we accidentally get in the way of regulating naturally? Origins of forest therapy with the advent of tech/media Benefits of the natural world on our cardiovascular system   Emotion Regulation tip #4 -find the blue spaces and the green spaces 3 specific outlined mechanisms for emotion regulation in nature:  foster positive emotions Signals parasympathetic nervous system or rest/wellbeing state  connection and care of nature as respite, rebuilds energy   Emotion Regulation tip #5 - practice grounding Finding a sense in our body that we have a firm foundation, tethered to the ground or our seat Often feel "ungrounded" in chaotic world and holding 3-5 emotions at any given time Increasing vagal tone Links: ANFT website - https://anft.earth/ Enoch story (Genesis 5)  Noah Kahan, Stick Season - https://youtu.be/iWG6apzIWAk?si=EBS0Ll7biACsxNob Inside Out - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/ Job 38-42   Research: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_trees_can_make_you_happier#:~:text=Those%20who%20gazed%20at%20a,break%20from%20our%20frenzied%20lifestyles. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272494424000987#:~:text=In%20everyday%20life%2C%20people%20are,et%20al.%2C%202019).

    36 min

  6. 02/04/2025

    Control & Letting Go: Give it to the Trees

    Question: How do I let go of things I can't control?   A Dave and Heidi story: the cynical season or "life on the edge" and our first forest therapy attempt Learning to let go of the outcome   Letting Go Tip #1 - Find a practice of noticing what we don't control or can't control Example: stand in the woods or the yard and note the basic elements of nature around you that you can't control   Letting Go Tip #2 - Read Job chapters 38-42 The duality of meaningfulness and meaninglessness The duality of Challenge and acceptance "Job's in scripture because his life was hard, not because he was doing really well at it."  When it feels like God is jacking around with you, building the trust    Letting Go Tip #3 - Finding non-judgment in nature and God Nature can hold and contain our challenges Psalm 51 - here's my heart, insight in truth and love Notice what confusion is present and bring it to God   Letting Go Tip #4 - Note the cost of control Top three psychological impacts of tightly holding onto control - Stress and anxiety Relationship impact Challenges with resilience based on adaptability   Letting Go Tip #4 - Try out an Ecclesiastical Mindset Seasonal approach to living What is it "a time for" right now, but also letting a new season come Ecclesiastes 3 link: https://www.bible.com/bible/111/ECC.3.1-11.NIV Open your hands to share it, don't go it alone

    30 min

  7. SEASON 7 TRAILER

    Season 7 Trailer - Relationships, Mental Health, & the Natural World

    Welcome to Season 7 of our little podcast! Dave and I are looking forward to a season of talking about three of our very favorite things comingled...well, four really - life in relationships, mental health, the natural world, and spirituality.  Some topics and questions you'll find in the conversation this season include:  How does nature help with emotion regulation? How do I let go of things I can't control?  What skills can nature teach us about life transition and change? How do I start healing from Spiritual Trauma? And more... Look for 7 episodes wherever you get your podcasts. Look for articles and more resources at heidigoehmann.com to complement what you hear. Find Heidi and Dave (mostly Heidi) on instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heidigoehmann/ substack - https://substack.com/@heidigoehmann youtube - https://www.youtube.com/heidigoehmannwrites and other media outlets. See you soon! Relationships - always worth the effort. We can't wait to be in discussion with you in the coming weeks.

    2 min

  8. 12/12/2023

    Frustration with Chris Kennedy

    Special guest Chris Kennedy, Pastor and Author Chris's book, Grace Under Pressure - https://amzn.to/3FBrdU2 (associate link)   Proactive v reactive approach Proactive = investing in taking care of ourselves, our emotions, our whole selves to be able to live in the moment more authentically as ourselves and in what we value/believe Reactive = awareness of emotion when it comes up   Tip 1 - Attend to and nurture The environment Relationships Internal needs Growth mindset – realist outlook + everything is redeemable   Tip 2 – Hold the tension of love with your frustration or anger   Tip 3 – Remember "more than they deserve" Tip 4 – Non-judgment – grace and truth with the understanding that God is judge, not me Tip 5 – Notice other people Tip 6 – values and faith as driver, emotion as information to process Shame Tip 7 – careful of pouring yourself out to the last drop, we are human   The impact of shame and guilt on our internal processing of anger "Holding It Lightly" from dialectical behavior therapy The purpose of frustration and anger

    27 min
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Writer, licensed clinical social worker, and theologian, Heidi Goehmann, produces resources that advocate for mental health and genuine relationships. She loves her family, post it notes, Jesus, adventure, Star Wars, Star Trek, and new ideas…not necessarily in that order.

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