Reclaiming: the podcast Sarah Spurlock

Incels, or involuntary celibates, are men online who believe that their inability to get laid is because of feminism and women being told they can be choosy with who they want to bone. They believe they are entitled to sex with women, and think they are victimized by women not choosing them - especially with the ease of access with dating apps like Tinder. Incels have a whole lexicon and ecosystem of belief, and while some people want to dig into why they act the way they do (psychologically/cognitively speaking), I do not believe we should lower our guard to accommodate them. This episode is pretty contrary to what many academics think about incels, but in my defense, I am a woman who has been targeted by five, and I do not have a single ounce of patience for letting people in this community off the hook for upholding violent hatred toward women - which, in some instances, leads to their deaths.
Intro song by Remmington Taylor [@rmmngtn] 
SOURCES
New York Magazine article about Chad plastic surgery: https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/incel-plastic-surgery.html#_ga=2.236068609.1099129.1686450914-1019612733.1678217377 Want a good 35-min overview? WATCH THIS! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fD2briZ6fB0https://www.newyorker.com/culture/cultural-comment/the-rage-of-the-incelshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-a-new-home/202301/new-research-on-why-incels-hate-womenPredictors of Radical Intentions among Incels: A Survey of 54 Self-identified IncelsS Moskalenko, N Kates, JFG González, M Bloom - Journal of Online Trust and Safety, 2022https://unherd.com/2020/06/incels-could-become-the-new-vikings/https://jessesingal.substack.com/p/an-interview-with-naama-kates-who?utm_source=direct&r=s2bqk&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=webhttps://msmagazine.com/2023/04/09/incel-violence-women-misogyny-white-supremacy-online/https://www.psypost.org/2023/06/new-study-identifies-sexual-frustration-as-a-significant-factor-in-mass-shootings-164391

In June 1969, cops raided the Stonewall Inn, which ignited days of street protests and led to the formation of the Gay Liberation Front. Stonewall was only the breaking point — there were several other acts of civil disobedience that laid the groundwork for the Stonewall riots to affect real change. Furthermore, many of the tactics used by GLF and queer activists were directly borrowed from Black men civil rights leaders.
Although now it’s a month to don all the glitter and rainbows and fans we can find, it’s also important to remember that it was the riotous, revolutionary spirit that launched this important commemoration of queer love, and if there’s ever a time to embody that spirit, it’s now - when LGBTQ+ rights are disappearing in front of our eyes.
Intro song by Remmington Taylor [IG: @rmmngtn]
SOURCES
https://www.si.edu/stories/marsha-johnson-sylvia-rivera-and-history-pride-month
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/history/article/stonewall-uprising-ignited-modern-lgbtq-rights-movement
https://qz.com/1316793/a-lesson-on-civility-from-the-stonewall-riots
https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/03/01/stonewall-riots-mark-segal-veteran-queer-lgbt/
https://www.npca.org/articles/3329-why-stonewall-matters-now-more-than-ever
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/06/nyregion/stonewall-riots-nypd.html
https://www.bbc.com/culture/article/20190625-stonewall-riots-the-beacon-for-people-around-the-world
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/04/us/stonewall-riots-gay-pride.html
https://americanhistory.si.edu/blog/stonewall?utm_source=si.edu&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=story 
https://www.history.com/news/lgbtq-uprisings-before-stonewall-riots 
https://news.yahoo.com/different-fight-same-goal-black-093010982.html

Let’s talk about the Madonna–Whore Complex, first coined by Sigmund Freud to represent two separate, sexual “buckets” women fall into: the Madonna—a wholly virtuous, maternal, pure, and chaste woman—and the whore—a promiscuous, seductive, and degraded woman. The issue with this understanding of female sexuality is that it lies in polarized perceptions of women in general as either “good” or “bad,” and the dichotomy divides women's humanity into two neat and tidy categories that don't overlap. But what it completely misses is that our sexuality lies on a spectrum, and the complex is deeply harmful for women, especially Black and trans women.
Intro song by Remmington Taylor [IG: @rmmngtn] 
SOURCES
https://www.mic.com/articles/133400/being-a-rizzo-in-a-sandy-world 
https://www.34st.com/article/2021/01/freud-madonna-whore-complex-black-women-trans-women-sex-sexuality 
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/madonna-whore-complex-sexist_b_6108750de4b0497e67027480 
https://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2021/02/madonna-whore-complex-still-alive-straight-men-denying-women-basic
https://www.michigandaily.com/statement/sex-or-scripture-the-madonna-whore-complex/
https://etherealmagazine.net/culture/what-is-the-madonna-whore-complexand-how-do-we-defeat-it

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Like Edward and Bella, our modern-day patriarchy depends on capitalism and capitalism depends on our modern-day patriarchy. It is a deeply f*cked up, toxic, co-dependent love story. My opinion, and that of many others, is that to be a feminist and anti-patriarchy activist you also need to take a long hard look at capitalism (which includes girlboss feminism), the second shift, and how exploitative it is to women and other marginalized workers. So let’s talk about it, shall we?
Audre Lorde, The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House, 1984
Intro song by Remmington Taylor [IG: @rmmngtn] 
Sources
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/17/magazine/waged-housework.html
https://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-is-socialist-feminism
https://www.michaelmoore.com/p/if-there-is-no-economic-democracy?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email
http://www.cadtm.org/How-Patriarchy-and-Capitalism-Combine-to-Aggravate-the-Oppression-of-Womenhttps://qz.com/emails/quartz-obsession/1849523255/girlboss-the-career-woman-everyone-loves-to-hate
https://harvardpolitics.com/girlboss-gaslight-gatekeep/
https://www.cadtm.org/Capitalism-and-Patriarchy-Two-Systems-that-Feed-off-Each-Other
https://inthesetimes.com/article/socialist-feminism-fighting-capitalism-patriarchy-socialism
https://www.thenation.com/article/archive/want-to-dismantle-capitalism-abolish-the-family/
https://www.vox.com/22466574/gaslight-gatekeep-girlboss-meaning
https://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-34602822 

Another witchy episode this week! In honor of Mother’s Day, I’m covering the Mother of Feminists/the Mother of Witches.
Lilith is often considered a demoness in Christianity and Catholicism, but she was so much more than that. According to lore, she was Adam’s first wife before Eve, but he cast her out after she refused to have sex with him in the missionary position (beneath him) resulting in the first divorce. Lilith is a very powerful archetype used in both witchcraft and feminism to help us embody the ultimate acts of resistance to the patriarchy, and she shows us just how powerful we are in our fight against injustice.
SOURCES
The GLAM Witch: A Magical Manifesto of Empowerment with the Great Lilithian Arcane Mysteries by Michael Herkes
https://www.historytoday.com/archive/history-matters/liberation-lilith
https://aquamarinecontent.com/discover-the-deity-lady-lilith-goddess-of-the-night/ 
https://collective.world/what-feminists-can-learn-from-the-strength-of-lilith/ 
https://www.centreofexcellence.com/lilith-first-feminist-folklore/
https://www.themarysue.com/the-pop-culutre-history-of-lilith/ 
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/transcending-the-past/201605/mothers-witches-and-the-power-archetypes 
https://healthypsych.com/archetypes-what-they-are-and-how-they-help-us-grow/